I don't think that guys really try to date women to whom they're not attracted. I think the visual component is more important to them than it necessarily is to women. At least this is what my guy friends and boyfriends have said.
Now sex? Sometimes a guy will have sex with a woman he is "meh" about, but not necessarily date her. Because sex. As a woman, my standard starting point of attraction is, "Would I mind seeing any part of this guy naked?" If the answer is "hmm, maybe that would be ok?" I can work with that. |
I am a woman who is into men and attractive women. I concede that her body is banging but that face? Hand me a bag. |
Dumbest post of the year so far. You are a lost cause if men have to explain to you our basic need for attraction. |
I could not be with someone I wasn't attracted to. Just couldn't. Sincerely, a woman |
I'm not an "objectively pretty" woman and yet I've only ever had relationships with handsome men. I don't have an "objectively" nice body either. So there is something about me that is neither my face nor my body that handsome men like. Go figure. |
NP. Is this something you've read somewhere? Are you a woman? Have women told you this? I'm a woman and in my experience and those of my female friends, it's physical attraction first that's the initial spark. I was extremely physically attracted to my DH when I saw his picture on a dating app and then even more when I met him in person. I was physically attracted to all four men I've seriously dated in my life. Same for every woman I've met and talked to about this subject. I have single friends who are out there dating and they dismiss lots of good-on-paper guys because there's no attraction on their part. I'm sure the attraction deepens the more you get to know and like the person, and lessens if you start to pick up on negative personalities, etc. I think this is just part of human nature. |
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Woman and I also agree. But to OPs point, there are men I’ve found initially unattractive and wouldn’t be interested, but over time, their personality and other attributes grew on me and made them more attractive. While looks are important to women too, I don’t think we hold the same importance to looks as men do for their partner. |
My husband said that in the beginning it’s pretty much the only thing that matters to most men. |
I simply don't believe looks are more important to men than they are to women.
It's just that as a society, we've come to believe women are sexual prudes who only care about finding a man to take care of us. |
I have definitely found women more or less attractive after getting to know them but that's usually been women I knew socially. The thing with attractiveness is that there is going to be some initial screening during the dating process and it's an easy one to screen for. |
I've met women who I'd describe as smoking hot, until she opened her mouth and then it all just disappeared. |
Her body is hot but not her face, I agree with the poster above. Unless you're into men jaws pared with thin lips. We can safely assume that no one brought her picture to a plastic surgeon asking to look like Jen. |
Me too! The guy I currently can't keep my hands off of doesn't resemble "my type" at all. Attraction isn't just looks. Sparks exist. |
I can be attracted to someone's smile, stature, voice and mannerisms. It's more than than looks. There's more to being attracted to someone than just the facial features and body type. No one dates someon they don't find attractive in some regard. It doesn't mean they like only their face |