Is initial attraction important to men?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Why does no one ever ask this question about women?!

Sexual attraction is important to us too!

0% women are sexually attracted to 95% of men, and unless you are in the lucky 5% of men, we prefer not to hear about it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Why does no one ever ask this question about women?!

Sexual attraction is important to us too!

0% women are sexually attracted to 95% of men, and unless you are in the lucky 5% of men, we prefer not to hear about it

I don't understand what you're trying to say. Are you saying 95% of men are not attractive to any women? I seriously doubt that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Why does no one ever ask this question about women?!

Sexual attraction is important to us too!

0% women are sexually attracted to 95% of men, and unless you are in the lucky 5% of men, we prefer not to hear about it

I don't understand what you're trying to say. Are you saying 95% of men are not attractive to any women? I seriously doubt that.

Yes. Exactly. This has been studied, here is one example
https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Why does no one ever ask this question about women?!

Sexual attraction is important to us too!

0% women are sexually attracted to 95% of men, and unless you are in the lucky 5% of men, we prefer not to hear about it

I don't understand what you're trying to say. Are you saying 95% of men are not attractive to any women? I seriously doubt that.

Yes. Exactly. This has been studied, here is one example
https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive

I wouldn't consider a study of OKCupid users to be representative of the overall population.

However, my only point on this thread is to say that women consider sexual attractiveness important, just as men do. If we think most men are unattractive, it doesn't mean we don't value it -- it just means men need to step up their game!

[Anonymous]

Can’t speak for all men, but I would pursue a woman if she’s not drop dead gorgeous but has a great body, can banter back and forth with me, makes me laugh and has a cool personality.

I dated a woman for years that people said she has a “butta face.” It ended because we wanted different things in life. She wanted a child and I didn’t.

[Anonymous]

Attraction is important. It's not 100% physical or based on looks, but there needs to at least be a degree of physical attraction in combination with personality-based chemistry (eg, ease of conversation and similar sense of humor).

For example, I would rather date a 6 with an amazing personality & mutual physical chemistry than a navel-gazing 10 who is utterly dull both in & out of the bedroom.

But yes, as a man I require a minimum baseline of physical attraction. I would not date someone solely because of personality. There needs to be a balance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Why does no one ever ask this question about women?!

Sexual attraction is important to us too!

0% women are sexually attracted to 95% of men, and unless you are in the lucky 5% of men, we prefer not to hear about it

I don't understand what you're trying to say. Are you saying 95% of men are not attractive to any women? I seriously doubt that.

Yes. Exactly. This has been studied, here is one example
https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive

I wouldn't consider a study of OKCupid users to be representative of the overall population.

However, my only point on this thread is to say that women consider sexual attractiveness important, just as men do. If we think most men are unattractive, it doesn't mean we don't value it -- it just means men need to step up their game!

It does answer your question "Why does no one ever ask this question about women?! " ... then answer being, 95% of us don't like the answer and would rather avoid the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Why does no one ever ask this question about women?!

Sexual attraction is important to us too!

0% women are sexually attracted to 95% of men, and unless you are in the lucky 5% of men, we prefer not to hear about it

I don't understand what you're trying to say. Are you saying 95% of men are not attractive to any women? I seriously doubt that.

Yes. Exactly. This has been studied, here is one example
https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive

I wouldn't consider a study of OKCupid users to be representative of the overall population.

However, my only point on this thread is to say that women consider sexual attractiveness important, just as men do. If we think most men are unattractive, it doesn't mean we don't value it -- it just means men need to step up their game!

It does answer your question "Why does no one ever ask this question about women?! " ... then answer being, 95% of us don't like the answer and would rather avoid the question.

Again, rather than ignoring the question, maybe you should think about why female OKCupid users rated 80% of men as below average. (hint: it's because a lot of men put zero effort into their appearance). Step up your game, men! Wearing clean clothes that fit and not having a beer belly goes a long way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Most men are willing to bang a woman they're not attracted to, especially if she comes on hard to him. Every guy has had sex with a woman he wouldn't want his buddies to see him with. But that's going to be a short-term pump and dump, not a long-term relationship.

"most men are sexually attracted to most women" definitely needs a proviso -- most men are sexually attracted to most women who are age 18 to 25. However, most women get less attractive to most men as they age. Scream at me all you want, that's just a fact. Older divorced guys will have mighty slim pickings among women their own age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Most men are willing to bang a woman they're not attracted to, especially if she comes on hard to him. Every guy has had sex with a woman he wouldn't want his buddies to see him with. But that's going to be a short-term pump and dump, not a long-term relationship.

"most men are sexually attracted to most women" definitely needs a proviso -- most men are sexually attracted to most women who are age 18 to 25. However, most women get less attractive to most men as they age. Scream at me all you want, that's just a fact. Older divorced guys will have mighty slim pickings among women their own age.

And men get less attractive as they get older, too (generally speaking). Women would rather be with a younger, fit man than an old, fat guy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Why does no one ever ask this question about women?!

Sexual attraction is important to us too!

0% women are sexually attracted to 95% of men, and unless you are in the lucky 5% of men, we prefer not to hear about it

I don't understand what you're trying to say. Are you saying 95% of men are not attractive to any women? I seriously doubt that.

Yes. Exactly. This has been studied, here is one example
https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive

I wouldn't consider a study of OKCupid users to be representative of the overall population.

However, my only point on this thread is to say that women consider sexual attractiveness important, just as men do. If we think most men are unattractive, it doesn't mean we don't value it -- it just means men need to step up their game!

It does answer your question "Why does no one ever ask this question about women?! " ... then answer being, 95% of us don't like the answer and would rather avoid the question.

Again, rather than ignoring the question, maybe you should think about why female OKCupid users rated 80% of men as below average. (hint: it's because a lot of men put zero effort into their appearance). Step up your game, men! Wearing clean clothes that fit and not having a beer belly goes a long way.

Most of the study was based on typical on line dating "headshots" so that voids your theory of beer belly and dirty clothes. The sad fact is the large majority of women are not sexually attracted to the large majority of men... in ways that are beyond just putting effort into appearance.

Again, this is why we don't ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Why does no one ever ask this question about women?!

Sexual attraction is important to us too!

0% women are sexually attracted to 95% of men, and unless you are in the lucky 5% of men, we prefer not to hear about it

I don't understand what you're trying to say. Are you saying 95% of men are not attractive to any women? I seriously doubt that.

Yes. Exactly. This has been studied, here is one example
https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive

I wouldn't consider a study of OKCupid users to be representative of the overall population.

However, my only point on this thread is to say that women consider sexual attractiveness important, just as men do. If we think most men are unattractive, it doesn't mean we don't value it -- it just means men need to step up their game!

It depends what the real percentage of men women find attractive might be. If it's a low number like 5%, then it's probably simply unachievable for much of the lower 95% to make the mark. If it's more like 40%, then, yes, the lower 60% can probably just step up their game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, initial (sexual) attraction is absolutely essential to men! The good news is that most men are sexually attracted to most women. So this is a relatively low hurdle to clear.

Most men are willing to bang a woman they're not attracted to, especially if she comes on hard to him. Every guy has had sex with a woman he wouldn't want his buddies to see him with. But that's going to be a short-term pump and dump, not a long-term relationship.

"most men are sexually attracted to most women" definitely needs a proviso -- most men are sexually attracted to most women who are age 18 to 25. However, most women get less attractive to most men as they age. Scream at me all you want, that's just a fact. Older divorced guys will have mighty slim pickings among women their own age.

And men get less attractive as they get older, too (generally speaking). Women would rather be with a younger, fit man than an old, fat guy.

Not really that's men, women want a provider moron,

[Anonymous]

Yes but most people outgrow it and then get married

Most of us realize people age and that you are likely to get 5-10 years of peak attractiveness max add a baby and that goes down even faster

Marriage is for 50+ years hopefully and physical attraction is one of the least important factors long term

Those of us who never mature either don't get married or worse get married and then cheat/get divorced because we are still man children

[Anonymous]

I will agree that I do not find 95% of the men I randomly see attractive. Very few men really do it for me. Maybe I'm unusual in that regard but I doubt it.