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The biggest issue, though, is that men, even when they're the same age, tend to be condescending to women

OK, if he's going to be condescending even if he's the same age as you, then condescension is not a reason to avoid dating older men.

The irony about all of this “I don’t want to have to change an old man’s diapers” mentality is that men tend to die quickly. Yeah, you might be unlucky and get stuck with a guy gets Alzheimer’s, but tons of men just drop dead from heart attacks and strokes.

What I don't get about it is, are there really women in their 60s and 70s who are changing their same-age husband's diapers? If not, then why would a younger wife have to do it? If so, then why would it be worse to do it for a much older man? If you're 40 and your husband is 40, what are you going to do to avoid diaper duty in 30 years?

This! Thank you for this. I also don't get the distaste for a spouse doing things for a spouse. Isn't that why people form partnerships?

No, not that many 60 yo women are, but lots of 80yo women are. I don’t want to be doing it at 60 when my friends are on the course with their partners- so I don’t date 20 years older.

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The biggest issue, though, is that men, even when they're the same age, tend to be condescending to women

OK, if he's going to be condescending even if he's the same age as you, then condescension is not a reason to avoid dating older men.

The irony about all of this “I don’t want to have to change an old man’s diapers” mentality is that men tend to die quickly. Yeah, you might be unlucky and get stuck with a guy gets Alzheimer’s, but tons of men just drop dead from heart attacks and strokes.

What I don't get about it is, are there really women in their 60s and 70s who are changing their same-age husband's diapers? If not, then why would a younger wife have to do it? If so, then why would it be worse to do it for a much older man? If you're 40 and your husband is 40, what are you going to do to avoid diaper duty in 30 years?

This! Thank you for this. I also don't get the distaste for a spouse doing things for a spouse. Isn't that why people form partnerships?

No, not that many 60 yo women are, but lots of 80yo women are. I don’t want to be doing it at 60 when my friends are on the course with their partners- so I don’t date 20 years older.

Most 80 year old women are widows.

And most of the old people needing diaper changes are women. Men usually die before they get to that point. And they tend to go faster when they do.

And most of the old people needing diaper changes are women. Men usually die before they get to that point. And they tend to go faster when they do.

So if you plan to die and be no trouble diaper wise you’re really just offering them your life insurance and estate.

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And most of the old people needing diaper changes are women. Men usually die before they get to that point. And they tend to go faster when they do.

Based on my visits to my diaper-wearing mom in the 80% female assisted living facility, I agree.

So if you plan to die and be no trouble diaper wise you’re really just offering them your life insurance and estate.

Nope. A guy older than 60 won't have a life insurance policy (premiums too expensive, grown kids don't need it) and his estate will go to his kids. He offers the pleasure of his excellent company!

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And most of the old people needing diaper changes are women. Men usually die before they get to that point. And they tend to go faster when they do.

Based on my visits to my diaper-wearing mom in the 80% female assisted living facility, I agree.

So if you plan to die and be no trouble diaper wise you’re really just offering them your life insurance and estate.

Nope. A guy older than 60 won't have a life insurance policy (premiums too expensive, grown kids don't need it) and his estate will go to his kids. He offers the pleasure of his excellent company!

It's common for second wives to be added to the will. Or, at least for there to be some kind of arrangement so she doesn't get screwed if he dies.

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I started using the premium version of Bumble (free trial) and noticed that the vast majority of the men swiping right on me are in the 45-49 age range. I'm certain this is because I'm divorced and a mom and most men in their early 30s aren't interested in that (which is fine; I don't want this to derail the thread). My current age limit is 40, but I'm wondering if maybe I should be more open-minded. Anyone want to offer some perspective? BTDT? I'm not dating for marriage so the argument that I will be stuck taking care of an old guy in my 40s doesn't resonate.

Anonymous wrote:No one cares dude. Can we stipulate that mere mortal men tend to get more bald on their head and more hairy in the ears and ...other areas as they age?


Sheesh you special little aged white male anowflakes. If I ever listed my net worth and body hair statusnin in some oddly defensive response to general statements- id know I had hit bottom.

Mid-50s man here, on Bumble every day. I don't know what my male competition looks like, but the women in my age group are a dumpster fire.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 33 with two kids under five. Most guys my age either aren’t interested in dating a woman with kids or are married - in some ways I think it might have been easier to leave my husband at 45! In any case, 40-45 yo men seem to be the sweet spot for me. For them I’m young and cute and they’re accustomed to some “baggage” in the dating world.

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Mid-50s man here, on Bumble every day. I don't know what my male competition looks like, but the women in my age group are a dumpster fire.

You should check out your competition. Men in that age group or older look pretty terrible. Everyone gets old and contrary to the popular opinion - no, most men do not age better.

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Mid-50s man here, on Bumble every day. I don't know what my male competition looks like, but the women in my age group are a dumpster fire.

You should check out your competition. Men in that age group or older look pretty terrible. Everyone gets old and contrary to the popular opinion - no, most men do not age better.

Then why do all my mid-50s divorced friends have younger, hotter girlfriends (or wives)? Any mid-50s man with a job and an education can seem to get a 40s woman. A couple of my mid-50s divorced friends have a problem: they are juggling two or three women.

Anonymous wrote:Does it work with the formula?

(his age) / 2 + 7 = (youngest dating partner)