Early 30s Woman Dating Late 40s Man

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So very humble.

Truth hurts. Once again proving men age like fine wine while women age like milk.

Except you’re proclaiming fiction as reality. That’s cool, Grampie.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m very comfortable with my body at 43 and I’m sure I will at 63 as well. Age has been very kind to me so far but I embrace my body as it is and as it will be. You can’t go have mind blowing erotic sex if you aren’t comfortable with your body-

I won’t mind saggy balls and hairy ears as they will nicely compliment my own saggy parts as I tend to date within my age range. Seeing my wrinkled sac next to a 30 year olds body would make me feel the opposite of confident. Maybe money and your height can overcome that, but that’s a personal thing. I don’t worry if someone wouldn’t like me because I look my own actual age. That’s so weird I can’t comprehend it.

For what it's worth, all sacks are wrinkled.

Not mine! Wanna see it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
So very humble.

Truth hurts. Once again proving men age like fine wine while women age like milk.

Except you’re proclaiming fiction as reality. That’s cool, Grampie.

Mid-50s man here, on Bumble every day. I don't know what my male competition looks like, but the women in my age group are a dumpster fire.

[Anonymous]

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I started using the premium version of Bumble (free trial) and noticed that the vast majority of the men swiping right on me are in the 45-49 age range. I'm certain this is because I'm divorced and a mom and most men in their early 30s aren't interested in that (which is fine; I don't want this to derail the thread). My current age limit is 40, but I'm wondering if maybe I should be more open-minded. Anyone want to offer some perspective? BTDT? I'm not dating for marriage so the argument that I will be stuck taking care of an old guy in my 40s doesn't resonate. I am divorced woman 41 dating widowed 70 yr old man who has satisfied all my mental and physical wishes

[Anonymous]

The irony about all of this “I don’t want to have to change an old man’s diapers” mentality is that men tend to die quickly. Yeah, you might be unlucky and get stuck with a guy gets Alzheimer’s, but tons of men just drop dead from heart attacks and strokes.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 31. I can’t see myself dating someone 40 and above but never say never. My SO is two yrs younger. I could go maybe 3 yrs young and 7 yrs older, but that’s it... no more than that. Just my personal preference.

My SO is in his late 20s, however I have enjoyed my dating experiences with guys in their mid-30s... have never ventured older than that though.

You like what you like OP. Nothing wrong with that.

What exactly are the differences between a 38 year old man and a 40 year old? 7 years just seems so arbitrary.

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I think more than a decade is too great a divide.

Beyond that, it's one thing if a 48 year old man and a 32 year old woman meet somewhere organically and fall in love. It's different if the 48 year old man is actively pursuing only early 30s women on a dating site. It says something about what they're prioritizing.

The biggest issue, though, is that men, even when they're the same age, tend to be condescending to women (generalization, but that's where "mainsplaining" comes from). It's 20 times worse when the man is at least a decade older. Be prepared to have your opinion always come second because you have less life experience. It's very difficult to truly have an equal partnership when there is something that heavily skews the relationship (be it a big age difference, a big difference in education, a big difference in money). That's not to say there aren't relationships that overcome that, but I think they're the exception, not the rule.

I have a friend who was 30 and dated a man who was 50. It started off great, but he became very condescending. After they broke up, his next girlfriend was 22. I don't think it was just youth and beauty that caused him to date younger women. I actually think it was some ego thing that he liked being the older, wiser person in the relationship. After witnessing what my friend went through, I would caution women against dating a man over 10 years older.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s best to just follow the classic formula:

(Younger person’s age) = (Older person’s age)/2 + 7

Obviously, you have to take this stuff on a case by case basis, but that formula is a reasonable rule of thumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think more than a decade is too great a divide.

Beyond that, it's one thing if a 48 year old man and a 32 year old woman meet somewhere organically and fall in love. It's different if the 48 year old man is actively pursuing only early 30s women on a dating site. It says something about what they're prioritizing.

The biggest issue, though, is that men, even when they're the same age, tend to be condescending to women (generalization, but that's where "mainsplaining" comes from). It's 20 times worse when the man is at least a decade older. Be prepared to have your opinion always come second because you have less life experience. It's very difficult to truly have an equal partnership when there is something that heavily skews the relationship (be it a big age difference, a big difference in education, a big difference in money). That's not to say there aren't relationships that overcome that, but I think they're the exception, not the rule.

I have a friend who was 30 and dated a man who was 50. It started off great, but he became very condescending. After they broke up, his next girlfriend was 22. I don't think it was just youth and beauty that caused him to date younger women. I actually think it was some ego thing that he liked being the older, wiser person in the relationship. After witnessing what my friend went through, I would caution women against dating a man over 10 years older.

Sorry, but it was almost certainly her youth and beauty that attracted him. I’m not saying that it isn’t a bit skeezy for a guy in his 50s to be with someone just out of high school, but I doubt it’s a power thing, like women always assume.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s best to just follow the classic formula:

(Younger person’s age) = (Older person’s age)/2 + 7

Obviously, you have to take this stuff on a case by case basis, but that formula is a reasonable rule of thumb.

It’s always been a disgusting excuse.

[Anonymous]

The biggest issue, though, is that men, even when they're the same age, tend to be condescending to women

OK, if he's going to be condescending even if he's the same age as you, then condescension is not a reason to avoid dating older men.

The irony about all of this “I don’t want to have to change an old man’s diapers” mentality is that men tend to die quickly. Yeah, you might be unlucky and get stuck with a guy gets Alzheimer’s, but tons of men just drop dead from heart attacks and strokes.

What I don't get about it is, are there really women in their 60s and 70s who are changing their same-age husband's diapers? If not, then why would a younger wife have to do it? If so, then why would it be worse to do it for a much older man? If you're 40 and your husband is 40, what are you going to do to avoid diaper duty in 30 years?

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Literally everything else. For 30 blissful years.

[Anonymous]

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The biggest issue, though, is that men, even when they're the same age, tend to be condescending to women

OK, if he's going to be condescending even if he's the same age as you, then condescension is not a reason to avoid dating older men.

The irony about all of this “I don’t want to have to change an old man’s diapers” mentality is that men tend to die quickly. Yeah, you might be unlucky and get stuck with a guy gets Alzheimer’s, but tons of men just drop dead from heart attacks and strokes.

What I don't get about it is, are there really women in their 60s and 70s who are changing their same-age husband's diapers? If not, then why would a younger wife have to do it? If so, then why would it be worse to do it for a much older man? If you're 40 and your husband is 40, what are you going to do to avoid diaper duty in 30 years?

This! Thank you for this. I also don't get the distaste for a spouse doing things for a spouse. Isn't that why people form partnerships?

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My hottest relationship was when I was 34 and he was 46. Scorching hot. Could not keep our hands off each other.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

The biggest issue, though, is that men, even when they're the same age, tend to be condescending to women

OK, if he's going to be condescending even if he's the same age as you, then condescension is not a reason to avoid dating older men.

The irony about all of this “I don’t want to have to change an old man’s diapers” mentality is that men tend to die quickly. Yeah, you might be unlucky and get stuck with a guy gets Alzheimer’s, but tons of men just drop dead from heart attacks and strokes.

What I don't get about it is, are there really women in their 60s and 70s who are changing their same-age husband's diapers? If not, then why would a younger wife have to do it? If so, then why would it be worse to do it for a much older man? If you're 40 and your husband is 40, what are you going to do to avoid diaper duty in 30 years?

This! Thank you for this. I also don't get the distaste for a spouse doing things for a spouse. Isn't that why people form partnerships?

No, not that many 60 yo women are, but lots of 80yo women are. I don’t want to be doing it at 60 when my friends are on the course with their partners- so I don’t date 20 years older.