Early 30s Woman Dating Late 40s Man

[Anonymous]

I started using the premium version of Bumble (free trial) and noticed that the vast majority of the men swiping right on me are in the 45-49 age range. I'm certain this is because I'm divorced and a mom and most men in their early 30s aren't interested in that (which is fine; I don't want this to derail the thread). My current age limit is 40, but I'm wondering if maybe I should be more open-minded. Anyone want to offer some perspective? BTDT? I'm not dating for marriage so the argument that I will be stuck taking care of an old guy in my 40s doesn't resonate.

[Anonymous]

I think 40 is a reasonable age limit for you

[Anonymous]

it's really up to you. Why are you asking other people such a personal question?

[Anonymous]

DH is 13 years older than me and I love it. I am 34 he is 47. It works great for us

[Anonymous]

The VAST majority of men are swiping right because you’re attractive in some large or small way. No one is reading your blip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it's really up to you. Why are you asking other people such a personal question?

Asking other people’s opinions on personal questions is basically the premise of this forum. If you don’t want to answer or think this is trivial, that’s fine but let’s not pretend the concept is brand new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The VAST majority of men are swiping right because you’re attractive in some large or small way. No one is reading your blip.

I agree. I think many men my age are filtering out women that have children altogether so I’m not even showing up as options for them. I doubt most men are reading the words when they decide which way to swipe.

[Anonymous]

Does it work with the formula?

(his age) / 2 + 7 = (youngest dating partner)

[Anonymous]

No don’t get into 10+ territory. Not because of diapers or whatever nonsense but because of what odds are the kind of guy he might be. Not mature enough for women his age or has an ideal of dating younger

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it's really up to you. Why are you asking other people such a personal question?

Asking other people’s opinions on personal questions is basically the premise of this forum. If you don’t want to answer or think this is trivial, that’s fine but let’s not pretend the concept is brand new.

Because OP you're gonna get two reactions. Either "gross, there's probably something wrong with him!" type of nonsense or "Go for it, girl!" Not a whole lot of room for nuance here.

You are 32 years old, so you're not exactly a spring chicken. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a late 40s man being attracted to an early 30s woman. No one is forcing you to reciprocate their attention.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't totally avoid them... be open... if the guy is good looking and fit, and you like everything else about him, you might as well try a date. If you're attracted, great, if not, move on.

[Anonymous]

Most childless men under 40 don't want to date a divorced women who already has kids. There is just a biological inconvenience that if you want kids, you basically have to do it with a women who is under 35-40, at the latest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most childless men under 40 don't want to date a divorced women who already has kids. There is just a biological inconvenience that if you want kids, you basically have to do it with a women who is under 35-40, at the latest.

I guess you missed the part where I acknowledged this in the OP. I don’t disagree with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most childless men under 40 don't want to date a divorced women who already has kids. There is just a biological inconvenience that if you want kids, you basically have to do it with a women who is under 35-40, at the latest.

I acknowledged this in my OP, and I don’t disagree with you. If someone is dating with marriage and kids in mind then we already aren’t compatible regardless of age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No don’t get into 10+ territory. Not because of diapers or whatever nonsense but because of what odds are the kind of guy he might be. Not mature enough for women his age or has an ideal of dating younger

Not true.
Before I met my current bf he was dating women his age and older.
I am 11 yrs his junior (and child free) , and we have been together for 18 years.

OP, it's really up to you.