SIL (age 46) starting to date man who's age 66 -- thoughts?

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[Post New]07/18/2018 17:33
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Anonymous
"Were you single recently? The dating market now in the DC area for late 40s/early 50s women is at least 15 years older."

Ridiculous. I'm late 40s and have no problem finding men my own age to date, online or otherwise. I have occasionally have dated 7 years up, but mostly date men my own age or 2-3 years older. Ex-DH and other men I know my age also date their age. It's also a good way to screen out the narcissists, douchebags, and guys right out of their divorce looking to play the field.
[Post New]07/20/2018 14:30
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:"Were you single recently? The dating market now in the DC area for late 40s/early 50s women is at least 15 years older."

Ridiculous. I'm late 40s and have no problem finding men my own age to date, online or otherwise. I have occasionally have dated 7 years up, but mostly date men my own age or 2-3 years older. Ex-DH and other men I know my age also date their age. It's also a good way to screen out the narcissists, douchebags, and guys right out of their divorce looking to play the field.

May be you are very attractive.
[Post New]07/20/2018 15:23
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
NP here (age 49 and married to someone my age). I think women should have standards. Sounds like your SIL has a lot going for her. I'm pretty sure she could find someone younger (but she does have 4 kids, which could be a deterrent to some men).


Were you single recently? The dating market now in the DC area for late 40s/early 50s women is at least 15 years older.


Agreed. Those guys all just got their ED Rxs and are not looking to date 66 year old women.
[Post New]07/20/2018 15:49
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
NP here (age 49 and married to someone my age). I think women should have standards. Sounds like your SIL has a lot going for her. I'm pretty sure she could find someone younger (but she does have 4 kids, which could be a deterrent to some men).


Were you single recently? The dating market now in the DC area for late 40s/early 50s women is at least 15 years older.


Agreed. Those guys all just got their ED Rxs and are not looking to date 66 year old women.


As if all 66-year-old women are not worth dating? When my mom was 66 years old, she was still a corporate exec making great money, dressing really well, working out, etc.
[Post New]07/20/2018 15:59
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Anonymous
I dated a 60 yo when I was 42. Best sex ever. Thank god for viagra.
[Post New]07/20/2018 21:21
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Anonymous
"Were you single recently? The dating market now in the DC area for late 40s/early 50s women is at least 15 years older."

Ridiculous. I'm late 40s and have no problem finding men my own age to date, online or otherwise. I have occasionally have dated 7 years up, but mostly date men my own age or 2-3 years older. Ex-DH and other men I know my age also date their age. It's also a good way to screen out the narcissists, douchebags, and guys right out of their divorce looking to play the field.

May be you are very attractive."

Well, you'll never know because, as I said, guys who don't want to date women their own age are douchebag losers. I would never date a guy who says in his online profile that he only wants to date women younger than him. I mean, WTF, is something terrible going to happen if you date a women one year older than you? Most guys are not aging very well as it is, so its not as if you have a whole to offer, physically.
[Post New]07/20/2018 21:22
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
NP here (age 49 and married to someone my age). I think women should have standards. Sounds like your SIL has a lot going for her. I'm pretty sure she could find someone younger (but she does have 4 kids, which could be a deterrent to some men).


Were you single recently? The dating market now in the DC area for late 40s/early 50s women is at least 15 years older.


Agreed. Those guys all just got their ED Rxs and are not looking to date 66 year old women.


As if all 66-year-old women are not worth dating? When my mom was 66 years old, she was still a corporate exec making great money, dressing really well, working out, etc.


Worth dating and getting dates are not synonymous.
[Post New]07/21/2018 09:25
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Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote: tons of guys in their 40's and 50's would be interested in her. (At her age, she could perhaps do something like eHarmony.)


No, they want women in their 20s and 30s. In other words, 20 years younger than them, just like the 66 year old guy wants.

Frankly, 46 is not all that great of a deal for him. Maybe it's the best he can get, but I'm sure he'd prefer a woman in her 20s or 30s too.


LOL they want to but most can't. Aside from the very rich and famous, women in their 20s and 30s are not interested in a 66 year old man. Women in their 20s and 30s can have sex anytime they want to, and if they want to settle down, they are looking for men they can have kids with (at least most are).
[Post New]07/21/2018 11:10
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taketothebank
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Most guys are not aging very well as it is, so its not as if you have a whole to offer, physically.



OMG. And here we have bitchy judgmentalism cloaked as "honesty". Are you so much more attractive than most women your age (or believe yourself to be) that you are able to make such a narcissistic statement? If so, you should be able to post a photo and show us all what it takes to be --- you.
[Post New]07/21/2018 11:37
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Anonymous
My dad was around that age when he married my stepmom who was around your SIL’s age. Fast forward 20 years or so and dad has years of health problems. Stepmom starts worrying he may end up in nursing home and she could be on the hook. They didn’t plan well and it’s a whole other thread (which we don’t need to go into). So I’d advise not to marry or do lots of planning before hand.
[Post New]07/22/2018 07:28
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: tons of guys in their 40's and 50's would be interested in her. (At her age, she could perhaps do something like eHarmony.)


No, they want women in their 20s and 30s. In other words, 20 years younger than them, just like the 66 year old guy wants.

Frankly, 46 is not all that great of a deal for him. Maybe it's the best he can get, but I'm sure he'd prefer a woman in her 20s or 30s too.


LOL they want to but most can't. Aside from the very rich and famous, women in their 20s and 30s are not interested in a 66 year old man. Women in their 20s and 30s can have sex anytime they want to, and if they want to settle down, they are looking for men they can have kids with (at least most are).


Agreed. And if woman in her 20's or 30's were interested in a man in his 60's (unless he were rich and famous), I would wonder about the judgment and situation of the woman herself. She may not have much self-confidence and that may be a red flag to the man.
[Post New]07/22/2018 10:40
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:"Were you single recently? The dating market now in the DC area for late 40s/early 50s women is at least 15 years older."

Ridiculous. I'm late 40s and have no problem finding men my own age to date, online or otherwise. I have occasionally have dated 7 years up, but mostly date men my own age or 2-3 years older. Ex-DH and other men I know my age also date their age. It's also a good way to screen out the narcissists, douchebags, and guys right out of their divorce looking to play the field.

May be you are very attractive."

Well, you'll never know because, as I said, guys who don't want to date women their own age are douchebag losers. I would never date a guy who says in his online profile that he only wants to date women younger than him. I mean, WTF, is something terrible going to happen if you date a women one year older than you? Most guys are not aging very well as it is, so its not as if you have a whole to offer, physically.

I think your a nine.
[Post New]07/22/2018 14:48
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Anonymous
I'm right there with you, OP. My uncle got remarried recently to a younger woman, and I don't know what she sees in him. He has not aged well at all. He dresses old, he has hearing aids, neck jowls and a giant pot belly. He is only about 10 years older than her, but he looks and acts at least 20 years older. He's nice if you know him, but he can be stubborn, close-minded, and sexist. In contrast, his wife is slender and stylish and has taken care of her appearance. Her previous husband died, and I know she was getting his pension, so she didn't need to marry for money (my uncle doesn't have much anyway). It seems like she really lost in this scenario, as she'll be the one left taking care of my uncle when he kicks the bucket, and then aging poorer and alone. If I were in her shoes I would not get married again.
[Post New]07/22/2018 15:50
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I dated a 60 yo when I was 42. Best sex ever. Thank god for viagra.




Wait.....what?!
[Post New]07/23/2018 19:44
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Anonymous
Since she asked for your advice, yes I'd start positive, but also mention other stuff. So glad you are happy and ir sounds like he's a great person. Take your time getting to know him. Blah Blah. I personally think she is better off not marrying him (unless he is rich and doesn't want a prenup...kidding...or not...anyway). I know quite a few people who married older 10 years to 26 years older and to be brutally honest, the ones who married really financially successful guys had no regrets until they became caregivers and they accepted the role with grace. The people who married older men without the financial benefits had many regrets.
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