Anonymous wrote:It really depends. When you and your DH go on vacation (without kids) or just to a hotel for whatever reason do you have sex? If yes, then being an empty nester will help you out. If no, then having a teenager at home is just an excuse and being an empty nester is not the solution to your problem. When our kids lived at home, especially as teen agers, our sex life was just OK but put me in a hotel room with my DH and the mommy nightie came off. Now as an empty nester I can't say that we are back to pre-children frequency but we no longer close doors or try to muffle the noise.

Anonymous wrote:It did get better but it had more to do with what we did then how often we did it. I use to almost hold my breath to keep quiet and that wasn't good for getting fulfilled. Now I don't care!

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Anonymous wrote:It did get better but it had more to do with what we did then how often we did it. I use to almost hold my breath to keep quiet and that wasn't good for getting fulfilled. Now I don't care!

Man here - you sound like my DW. She would hold her breath and almost asphyxiate herself with a pillow rather than let any noise out. It drove me nuts because the sex was pretty bad and quick. We've been empty nesters for two years now and now she makes some very entertaining noises.

Anonymous wrote:Once we became empty nesters we spent more evenings out of the house doing fun things together. I can't say we classified them as date nights but it broke up the routine. Doing fun things together led to more sex. Staying at home, having dinner and then doing your own evening things gets very boring which extends itself into the bedroom. With kids at home we had sex once every week or so and now we are at 2x per week and sometimes three. It's a lot more fun because its just in an empty house so location and noise are not an issue. If my children knew that we had had sex in the kitchen they would be grossed out!

Anonymous wrote:Well, our sex life did improve once the kids were gone. Two primary reasons. First, we were able to be more spontaneous. When kids are in the house you often have to pre-arrange or "find" the time. With the kids gone, we can go whenever the mood hits. Second, with the kids gone we are just naturally spending more time together alone. That lends itself to the first point.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, our sex life did improve once the kids were gone. Two primary reasons. First, we were able to be more spontaneous. When kids are in the house you often have to pre-arrange or "find" the time. With the kids gone, we can go whenever the mood hits. Second, with the kids gone we are just naturally spending more time together alone. That lends itself to the first point.

I agree with you but the real key is having the desire which luckily we did and still do. Without it the empty nest can get very lonely.

Anonymous wrote:No once habits are formed they are hard to break. People who want to have sex have it. No excuses...they just do it. Sorry to say but you will just find other reasons not to have sex.