Anonymous wrote:So I kind of want to go out for a drink with the 51 year old with a great sense of humor and a phd. I'm single, so no flaming!

My confession? I cancelled two hookups tonihjt to stay home and watch a movie.

Anonymous wrote:I have been in an affair for 3 years. Tried to end it once, but it started up again. I just can't end it and the dual life is starting to kill me. DH has no idea.

Anonymous wrote:I have never strayed in my marriage. 18 years. But sex has all but stopped and for the first time I am thinking of hiring an escort

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Anonymous wrote:I have never strayed in my marriage. 18 years. But sex has all but stopped and for the first time I am thinking of hiring an escort

It amazes me how women just don't get how damaging the lack of sex is

Anonymous wrote:Many years ago a close GF of mine told me about the amazing sex (multiple O's etc.) she was having with a guy we both worked with. I always liked him but never wanted to risk dating someone I worked with. But now I was intrigued even though I was definitely not someone who slept around. I hit on him soon after and the sex was amazing. We've been married 35 years and the sex is still great. Just this morning I told him that "I missed him" since he's been recovering from minor surgery. He said "I'm back" so I'm looking forward to tonight! BTW, I'm still friends with my old GF. Many years ago I was dumb enough to tell my DH what my GF had said and he said something like advertising does work. They weren't really dating, more like today's FWB, so I never felt like I stole him from her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never strayed in my marriage. 18 years. But sex has all but stopped and for the first time I am thinking of hiring an escort

It amazes me how women just don't get how damaging the lack of sex is

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never strayed in my marriage. 18 years. But sex has all but stopped and for the first time I am thinking of hiring an escort

It amazes me how women just don't get how damaging the lack of sex is

It amazes me that any adult man would allow her to not "get" this.
Like, hello, don't you speak English? Use your WORDS ... repeat until she "gets" it.

And, after she "gets" it, if she's STILL rejecting, it amazes me that he would not have a new girlfriend within the month.

Anonymous wrote:I have been in an affair for 3 years. Tried to end it once, but it started up again. I just can't end it and the dual life is starting to kill me. DH has no idea.

Anonymous wrote:Here is mine:

I almost bailed the day before my wedding 10 years ago. But family convinced me to stay. I had some friends tell me I'd likely to get divorced. They aren't my friends anymore but they were right.

I hate him now. He is a loser who can't hold down a job and has a ton of student debt. I pay for everything and do all childcare. He comes home and criticizes everything. He had opinions on EVERYTHING and it's his way or the highway and he's still mad if he gets his way. I cringe when we have to spend time with each other on weekends. I can't wait until Monday. Having sex with him is gross. I secretly wish he'd cheat so it would be easier to justify divorce.

I'm scared to bring up how unhappy I am.He doesn't listen and is angry all the time. Instead I tune him.

I don't want to live like this for the next 40 years.. I don't have anyone to talk to. My therapist said that we need couples counseling and 1 on 1 isn't going to help. My friends and family don't know that I'm ready to bail..

Anonymous wrote:I have never stepped out on my 15 year marriage until a month ago...Since then with my carpenter it's been in his truck twice and in the back of my SUV twice. I do things to him that would make a porn star blush.