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How do you and DH spend your evenings, after the kids are in bed?
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I think - married AND single people are working more and more at night from home on their laptops and blackberries - we don't leave work behind at our offices anymore...... |
Anonymous
Me, too, PP. I also thought i was the only one using the laptop as a way to escape reality but I guess not. |
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| I don't know how OP manages 3 hours before bedtime. We usually come home around 6:30, then we play with, read to, and put down our children by 8:30. Then we grab a bite to eat, which takes us to about 9 p.m. We then manage an hour or so of logging back into work, reading a bookk/magazine, or watching TV, walking the dog, before crashing at 10:30 or so. I can't imagine having the energy to do anything in that short "down" time.... |
zumbamama
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We do this almost nightly:
Chill in the jacuzi. Comedy central/movies on the internet (we have no cable and going to the movies is expensive). Massage each others backs/necks. Prepare kids stuff/clothes for the next day. Sometimes we practice sparring or stretching. I will try to make him dance with me, but then he turns into a stick in the mud as soon as I start counting steps. Maybe I should add margaritas to the practice! |
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OP here. We're on a slightly different schedule. Kids are in bed by 8. We cook/eat from 8-9, work from 9-midnight, and then bed until 7 or 7:30 am. No dog to walk. 
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zumbamama
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| Although if it is the weekend, DH will probably be watching fights with all my cousins, and I will be painting my next masterpiece (haha) with a glass of red. |
Anonymous
This is us EXACTLY. It's so funny how similar all of our lives are! |
Anonymous
I'm not a single mom but I do this all on my own. Usually, DH is on the laptop working. |
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I'm not a single mom but I do this all on my own. Usually, DH is on the laptop working. That would drive me insane! Maybe it isn't so bad being a single parent. I would be fuming every day if I did everything while my husband just sat there. |
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One thing that surprises me, reading all these, is that no one else seems to run errands after kid(s) are in bed!
It could just be a function of where I live (between Wisc. and Conn. Aves, right IN the city where everything's close together), but I consider 8 to 10 p.m. to be prime errand-running time. Giant, Whole Foods, CVS, Target, Petco, Trader Joes ... No traffic, easy parking and the lines are generally v. short. And no kids! |
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| Reading this thread makes me feel better, in that DH and I are not the only couple out there that don't spend quality time together after DC goes to sleep. I gripe a lot that we never talk, all we do is watch tv or spend time on our computers, etc. This has opened my eyes and made me realize I need to chill a bit. Since DS was born, we talk about 1/2 as much as we used to. I think it's just that we are both so tired. He has a very demanding job that he has to attend to pretty much at all waking hours and I'm a SAHM who is often starving for adult conversation at the end of the day. I make dinner, do dishes, DH will get DC ready for bed, then (if he's not working on his laptop) he wants to retreat into his "man cave" and "unwind." This includes his new found infatuation with Netflix so I go to the computer or call a friend. The only time we really get a full conversation in is if we go out to dinner... once every blue moon. Oh well, at least I'm not the only out there in this situation! |
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| I make dinner, do chores, watch TV, and go on the computer for personal stuff. DH watches TV, goes on the computer for personal stuff, or listens to music. We also talk about our day and DS. I try to spend time on hobbies but usually I'm too tired and it's too late by the time I have a chance to get started on any projects. |
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| It's interesting to me that so many people seem to have a fair amount of time between the time their kids go to bed and the time they and their spouse go to bed. Our DD (8 months old) goes to bed between 9 and 9:30. She used to go to bed earlier, but the only way she even comes close to sleeping through the night (about 8-9 hours max, and she usually wakes up at least once or twice) is by going to bed at this time. DH and I are usually pretty exhausted and like to be in bed around 10 or 10:30. After DD goes to bed, we clean up from dinner, prepare lunches/bottles/clothes for DD and ourselves for the next day, and maybe watch a little TV. Like others, I feel like we don't have much time to talk. In fact, we seem to do most of our talking on the weekends or between the time we drop DD off at daycare and the time DH drops me off at the metro (about 20 minutes each morning). Before DD was born, I always imagined I would get a lot done while she napped or after she went to bed. But she is not much of a sleeper at all. Her naps are really short, and often I'm so exhausted myself when she naps (on weekends or the one day a week I am home with her) that I try to get some rest too, rather than catching up on projects. It's rough! But on the other hand, I like that we have several good hours of playtime together each night. I think it would be hard if she went to bed right after we got home from work. |
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This is fun to read! We talk a lot, or talk with one of us doing something on the lap top. Often though m DH falls asleep as he puts DD to bed (she requires somebody to holdher). This drives me crazy because then I cannot chat with him but after a long day at work...
Does anybody else's husband fall asleep wtih the kids??? |
zumbamama
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No, but funny you mention this because I fell alseep in DS's bed last night. 3 classes wore me out! |