I am a lesbian in a same-sex marriage raising my 'nuclear family' AMA

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Anonymous wrote:You're not as interesting as you think you are, OP.


I never said I was interesting.

Actually, that was my point.
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Anonymous wrote:Will you be attending the WH Easter egg hunt with your family?


No. We don't live in the area.
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Anonymous wrote:Did you use IVF or AI to conceive? Surrogate? Adopt?


Artificial insemination by a known donor

I carried the oldest and the youngest. My wife carried the five-year-old (and she hated being pregnant).[/quota

Are your initials KW by any chance? If so, just know that you and your partner and kids (ages slightly changed) are absolutely awesome! Couldn't be better parents or friends!

A straight woman.


No, but they do sounds like an amazing family.
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Anonymous wrote:Will you be attending the WH Easter egg hunt with your family?


why?

Is 2015 the "family friendly" version?
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Anonymous wrote:What model of Subaru do you have?


Doesn't it have to be an Outback?


Don't forget the Geo Tracker!


You are old, lol.
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Anonymous wrote:You're not as interesting as you think you are, OP.


I never said I was interesting.

Actually, that was my point.


You guys are mean. I've lived in the dc area my whole life. I know a handful of lesbians but I don't have any close friends or neighbors or anyone at my kids school that is a lesbian couple with kids. I'm surprised I don't, maybe once my kids are in elementary school there will be some two mom families. It's not THAT common.
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I think OP is interesting. My best friend is a lesbian and I have many LGBT friends and what I've seen over the years is my bf's relationships have always been super dramatic, I was beginning to think it's the nature of female-female relationships.

OP are both you and your partner considered femmes? My friend is a femme and into doms she thinks they are worst than males, like they are over compensating to be masculine and don't share or want to show emotions and I can see that. Do you agree? Do you see a difference between femme femme relationships and femme dom relationships with your friends?
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Anonymous wrote:nuclear family
noun
: the part of a family that includes only the father, mother, and children


+1


You two are becoming irrelevant. Get with the times.


They're a couple of impotent men raging against the fact that they're no longer quite so dominant over everything in society. Women can have relationships, and even children, without having to get the okay of a man first, and that's terrifying.


Nope, I'm a woman and have no problem with same sex marriage. OP misused the term "nuclear family."


why do you think she put it in quotes - she knows that is not officially correct
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Anonymous wrote:nuclear family
noun
: the part of a family that includes only the father, mother, and children


+1


You two are becoming irrelevant. Get with the times.


They're a couple of impotent men raging against the fact that they're no longer quite so dominant over everything in society. Women can have relationships, and even children, without having to get the okay of a man first, and that's terrifying.


Nope, I'm a woman and have no problem with same sex marriage. OP misused the term "nuclear family."


Pure nonsense. Language evolves. Go type it into google and you get

nu·cle·ar fam·i·ly
noun
a couple and their dependent children, regarded as a basic social unit.



This.
- Straight married mom in a heterosexual monogamous marriage.


I don't care either way but the google definition is different than the dictionary

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/nuclear%20family


There is no "The Dictionary", Einstein. There are many dictionaries. I take your Merriam-Webster and raise you an Oxford-English.

http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/nuclear-family



Oh snap! Your move, Einstein.


US census considers same sex marriage as a separate category then nuclear family.


Dude, you're using the US Census as a model of accuracy? LOL. They're notoriously a lagging indicator. Not to mention that the last census was in 2010, and national marriage recognition didn't come until 2013.

Anyhow, you're wrong.

http://wapo.st/1radQ2O


yup. I am pretty sure the last census asked me if I was a negro (well it didn't really ask me but it was one of the choices)
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Incognita wrote:I think OP is interesting. My best friend is a lesbian and I have many LGBT friends and what I've seen over the years is my bf's relationships have always been super dramatic, I was beginning to think it's the nature of female-female relationships.

OP are both you and your partner considered femmes? My friend is a femme and into doms she thinks they are worst than males, like they are over compensating to be masculine and don't share or want to show emotions and I can see that. Do you agree? Do you see a difference between femme femme relationships and femme dom relationships with your friends?


I don't really consider myself anything, and I don't think my wife does either. I guess if others were to label us we'd both be on the femme side, more so than butch. I don't think we are particularly super feminine women, but I wouldn't consider either of us at all stereotypically masculine. I think the labeling is more important when you are first coming out on the dating scene, they are all somewhat retired terms imo. You will see older gay men label themselves bears or cubs, or lord knows what else but not so much the younger generations. In the past the gay community was very much it's own community with it's own lingo. As gay people, relationships and families have becoming more accepted and inclusive in mainstream society there really isn't a need for those terms anymore. I really find them quite silly. Do we have terms for different types of straight people? To an extent...but not as culturally important as they are (were) in the gay community.

That being said, I can totally understand where your friend is coming from unfortunately. I've known a handful of super butch women (not all) that were far more misogynist than any man I've ever met. I think it may be a testosterone issue? I don't know. I don't have any friends like that because I tend to avoid assholes...regardless of gender or sexual orientation. I do have lesbian friends who could be identified as butch or androgynous...but there look doesn't match up with their attitude.
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Anonymous wrote:nuclear family
noun
: the part of a family that includes only the father, mother, and children


+1


You two are becoming irrelevant. Get with the times.


They're a couple of impotent men raging against the fact that they're no longer quite so dominant over everything in society. Women can have relationships, and even children, without having to get the okay of a man first, and that's terrifying.


Nope, I'm a woman and have no problem with same sex marriage. OP misused the term "nuclear family."


why do you think she put it in quotes - she knows that is not officially correct


Yes.

Also, I chose to put the term nuclear because I was doing a little comparison to the "traditional husband" thread. I thought it was funny that someone who probably doesn't approve of "my lifestyle" has so much in common with my family.
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Incognita wrote:I think OP is interesting. My best friend is a lesbian and I have many LGBT friends and what I've seen over the years is my bf's relationships have always been super dramatic, I was beginning to think it's the nature of female-female relationships.

OP are both you and your partner considered femmes? My friend is a femme and into doms she thinks they are worst than males, like they are over compensating to be masculine and don't share or want to show emotions and I can see that. Do you agree? Do you see a difference between femme femme relationships and femme dom relationships with your friends?


I don't really consider myself anything, and I don't think my wife does either. I guess if others were to label us we'd both be on the femme side, more so than butch. I don't think we are particularly super feminine women, but I wouldn't consider either of us at all stereotypically masculine. I think the labeling is more important when you are first coming out on the dating scene, they are all somewhat retired terms imo. You will see older gay men label themselves bears or cubs, or lord knows what else but not so much the younger generations. In the past the gay community was very much it's own community with it's own lingo. As gay people, relationships and families have becoming more accepted and inclusive in mainstream society there really isn't a need for those terms anymore. I really find them quite silly. Do we have terms for different types of straight people? To an extent...but not as culturally important as they are (were) in the gay community.

That being said, I can totally understand where your friend is coming from unfortunately. I've known a handful of super butch women (not all) that were far more misogynist than any man I've ever met. I think it may be a testosterone issue? I don't know. I don't have any friends like that because I tend to avoid assholes...regardless of gender or sexual orientation. I do have lesbian friends who could be identified as butch or androgynous...but there look doesn't match up with their attitude.


That's interesting, I go to a lot of events and parties with them and they use labels for EVERYONE, I thought that was normal. We are all 23-29 though, maybe it's the age group? Idk, anyways thanks for the perspective!
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