I am a lesbian in a same-sex marriage raising my 'nuclear family' AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given the high rate of breakups in Lesbian relationships, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?

Given the high rate of divorces in heterosexual unions, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?
- not OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given the high rate of breakups in Lesbian relationships, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?

New poster here, who's never heard that. Apparently lesbians divorce more often than gay men do, but straight couples still trump them all.

Anecdotal only, but all the lesbian couples I know, who have been together long-term and have a civil partnership or marriage, have continued to stay together. Maybe it's this area. Well educated, etc. People who marry later in life and who have college degrees tend to stay married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given the high rate of breakups in Lesbian relationships, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?

Please cite your source for this.

--Signed a lesbian who has been with my wife for over 20 years and is raising our 2 children with her

[Anonymous]

How do you manage the division of labor, prioritizing careers, etc? Do you feel it is easier for you than hetero couples?

[Anonymous]

Do you have more straight friends or gay friends? When events say mommy and me or father daughter whatever - how do you and your spouse approach this? Meaning do one of you place a particular parental role that falls in line with the old fashioned definition mom/dad roles? Does it ever bother you that there is a father/daughter or father/son event that you would want to go to but may feel excluded because of the wording? How do you feel when you hear the term gay or same sex marriage would you rather marriage just be defined as marriage? Have you ever encountered negative comments because of your sexuality?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:nuclear family
noun
: the part of a family that includes only the father, mother, and children

+1

You two are becoming irrelevant. Get with the times.

They're a couple of impotent men raging against the fact that they're no longer quite so dominant over everything in society. Women can have relationships, and even children, without having to get the okay of a man first, and that's terrifying.

Nope, I'm a woman and have no problem with same sex marriage. OP misused the term "nuclear family."

Then what would you call it? Your unwillingness to adapt a heteronormative term displays your underlying bigotry.

Oh, and that's not the universal definition of "nuclear family." Plenty of sources define it as a couple or pair of adults and their children, without reference to gender. So again, your bigotry is showing when you selectively choose the definition that excludes families with homosexual parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:nuclear family
noun
: the part of a family that includes only the father, mother, and children

+1

You two are becoming irrelevant. Get with the times.

They're a couple of impotent men raging against the fact that they're no longer quite so dominant over everything in society. Women can have relationships, and even children, without having to get the okay of a man first, and that's terrifying.

Nope, I'm a woman and have no problem with same sex marriage. OP misused the term "nuclear family."

Pure nonsense. Language evolves. Go type it into google and you get

nu·cle·ar fam·i·ly
noun
a couple and their dependent children, regarded as a basic social unit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:nuclear family
noun
: the part of a family that includes only the father, mother, and children

+1

You two are becoming irrelevant. Get with the times.

They're a couple of impotent men raging against the fact that they're no longer quite so dominant over everything in society. Women can have relationships, and even children, without having to get the okay of a man first, and that's terrifying.

Nope, I'm a woman and have no problem with same sex marriage. OP misused the term "nuclear family."

Then what would you call it? Your unwillingness to adapt a heteronormative term displays your underlying bigotry.

Oh, and that's not the universal definition of "nuclear family." Plenty of sources define it as a couple or pair of adults and their children, without reference to gender. So again, your bigotry is showing when you selectively choose the definition that excludes families with homosexual parents.

NP here:
Just typed in "definition of nuclear family" in Google. This is what I got:

noun
a couple and their dependent children, regarded as a basic social unit.

[Anonymous]

Jinx! Owe me a coke 9:26!

--9:27

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Given the high rate of breakups in Lesbian relationships, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?

Given the high rate of divorces in heterosexual unions, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?
- not OP

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Isn't this tread about Lesbian marriage!

[Anonymous]

Do you drive a Subaru?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Given the high rate of breakups in Lesbian relationships, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?

Please cite your source for this.

--Signed a lesbian who has been with my wife for over 20 years and is raising our 2 children with her

You are one data point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Given the high rate of breakups in Lesbian relationships, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?

Please cite your source for this.

--Signed a lesbian who has been with my wife for over 20 years and is raising our 2 children with her

You are one data point.

1>zero

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Given the high rate of breakups in Lesbian relationships, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?

Please cite your source for this.

--Signed a lesbian who has been with my wife for over 20 years and is raising our 2 children with her

You are one data point.

Yes...and what is your point? As someone in a long term lesbian relationship, I'd like to see this source for high rate of break-ups in lesbian relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given the high rate of breakups in Lesbian relationships, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?

PP, no one capitalizes lesbian anymore unless they're referring to someone who lives on the island of Lesbos. Give me a break.

OP, I have nothing to ask you. It's 2014, I have at least four gay couples on my street, three of whom have kids, and gay and lesbian families are completely commonplace, especially in this area. Your original post seems to indicate otherwise, so I wonder if you live outside the DC area.