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[quote=Incognita][quote=Anonymous][quote=Incognita]I think OP is interesting. My best friend is a lesbian and I have many LGBT friends and what I've seen over the years is my bf's relationships have always been super dramatic, I was beginning to think it's the nature of female-female relationships.

OP are both you and your partner considered femmes? My friend is a femme and into doms she thinks they are worst than males, like they are over compensating to be masculine and don't share or want to show emotions and I can see that. Do you agree? Do you see a difference between femme femme relationships and femme dom relationships with your friends? [/quote]

I don't really consider myself anything, and I don't think my wife does either.  I guess if others were to label us we'd both be on the femme side, more so than butch.  I don't think we are particularly super feminine women, but I wouldn't consider either of us at all stereotypically masculine.  I think the labeling is more important when you are first coming out on the dating scene, they are all somewhat retired terms imo.  You will see older gay men label themselves bears or cubs, or lord knows what else but not so much the younger generations. In the past the gay community was very much it's own community with it's own lingo.  As gay people, relationships and families have becoming more accepted and inclusive in mainstream society there really isn't a need for those terms anymore.  I really find them quite silly.  Do we have terms for different types of straight people?  To an extent...but not as culturally important as they are (were) in the gay community.

That being said, I can totally understand where your friend is coming from unfortunately.  I've known a handful of super butch women (not all) that were far more misogynist than any man I've ever met.  I think it may be a testosterone issue?  I don't know.  I don't have any friends like that because I tend to avoid assholes...regardless of gender or sexual orientation.  I do have lesbian friends who could be identified as butch or androgynous...but there look doesn't match up with their attitude.  [/quote]

That's interesting, I go to a lot of events and parties with them and they use labels for EVERYONE, I thought that was normal. We are all 23-29 though, maybe it's the age group? Idk, anyways thanks for the perspective! [/quote]

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