I am a lesbian in a same-sex marriage raising my 'nuclear family' AMA

[Anonymous]

i am not OP, but I am raising two kids with my partner of 12 years (married 3).

- I am not concerned about our relationship- any more or less than other couples we know.

- we probably have more straight friends but our closest confidants are other lesbian couples.

- we drive a Toyota sienna minivan.

- we don't prioritize any career over the other- we supported one another through grad school. My job is more flexible than hers so I often do school or doctor type things, but that's just the way the chips fell.

-we split chores pretty equally. I nearly always cook while she cleans after. I do laundry, she vacuums. Seems fair.

- my kids are young and know their family is different but are pretty matter of fact about it. Both my partner and I have faced bias, but our family ony has once- when looking for an in-home daycare provider.

I think it should be called marriage or equal marriage but don't really care much.

[Anonymous]

Has OP actually answered anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has OP actually answered anything?

Even if she doesn't, there are so many of us that y'all can easily get your questions answered anyway.

-- raising kids with partner of 18 years, not particularly worried about our relationship, all of our current close friends are straight, drive a Toyota, I pay bills while she does laundry, I do school arrangements, she takes out the trash, and no one's been a jerk about it to us

[Anonymous]

OP or any gay couple in DC area, do you think this area is more accepting than most of same sex marriages? Compared to other US cities....

Do your kids get teased? I feel like gay parents are not a big thing anymore but some of the comments here are concerning. I hope the younger generation is more accepting....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP or any gay couple in DC area, do you think this area is more accepting than most of same sex marriages? Compared to other US cities....

Do your kids get teased? I feel like gay parents are not a big thing anymore but some of the comments here are concerning. I hope the younger generation is more accepting....

Compared to other areas of the country, definitely this area is more accepting. Do my kids get teased? Kids get teased about absolutely everything - whether your mom is fat, a lesbian, the type of job she has, you name it. So, yes it is fodder for teasing. But there is so much support for gays and lesbians that it's not generally acceptable to tease kids about it.

Not OP - just another lesbian who is raising kids with wife in the greater DC area. Been together for decades, but not married until it became legal in DC in 2010.

[Anonymous]

How do you feel about trans and bi people?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:nuclear family
noun
: the part of a family that includes only the father, mother, and children

+1

You two are becoming irrelevant. Get with the times.

They're a couple of impotent men raging against the fact that they're no longer quite so dominant over everything in society. Women can have relationships, and even children, without having to get the okay of a man first, and that's terrifying.

Nope, I'm a woman and have no problem with same sex marriage. OP misused the term "nuclear family."

Pure nonsense. Language evolves. Go type it into google and you get

nu·cle·ar fam·i·ly
noun
a couple and their dependent children, regarded as a basic social unit.

This.
- Straight married mom in a heterosexual monogamous marriage.

[Anonymous]

I am supportive of both trans and bi people. Know great people of both stripes. Then again, anybody can also be an asshole no matter sexuality or gender.

[Anonymous]

What does your front lawn look like?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Given the high rate of breakups in Lesbian relationships, are you concerned about the longevity of your marriage?

Please cite your source for this.

--Signed a lesbian who has been with my wife for over 20 years and is raising our 2 children with her

You are a rare breed among straights and gays.

[Anonymous]

Agree that this is so not interesting that OP must be from a less accepting part of the country. We live in a prettying ordinary Virginia suburb and even the 89 year olds didn't bat an eyelash when a gay couple with two kids moved in. Our concerns are getting the leaves picked up, not blocking driveways with work trucks and being friendly to all. I saw the Imitation Game this weekend and was shocked to remember the treatment homosexuals once endured. This s a sea shift in my lifetime and we are the better or it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many kids do you have & what ages? Have you had to givethen told to deal with homophobia? If so, what has been helpful for them?

Three; 2, 5, and 7

We've really only discussed homophobia with my oldest DD. She had a little boy at school tell her he couldn't play with her because she had two moms. I think that's the biggest thing she has had to deal with, most we shield them from by living in a very accepting community and surrounding ourselves with people who love and care for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:nuclear family
noun
: the part of a family that includes only the father, mother, and children

Hence the quotations, it's my version of nuclear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How big of a dildo collection do you have?

Pre kids or now?

Now, three and they are essentially just dust collectors.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I find misogynistic men more fascinating than lesbians.

sorry, OP

Well, so do I so no offense taken.