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12/05/2014 12:06

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He husband's vasectomy took 15 minutes. They're really not a big deal these days. I agree with the condoms. Let him use those for a while and see if he changes his mind.

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12/05/2014 12:06

Subject: DH won't get a vasectomy

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MikeL
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Anonymous wrote:It is his body, no?

Yes, it is. But he puts part of his body into hers when they have sex and it has the potential to start life in her body.
Not a good argument you're trying to make here.

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12/05/2014 12:08

Subject: DH won't get a vasectomy

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Anonymous wrote:It is his body, no?

Yes, it is. He shouldn't be pressured into getting a vasectomy if he doesn't want one. DH had a vasectomy and he had some weird grief issues afterwards over the loss of his fertility. He wasn't planning on using it again, but he was still sad when it was gone. That's not an uncommon response. Being able to make a baby (even if you aren't going to do it) is key to a lot of people's sexuality and gender identity.

Plus, I don't think that was a minor surgery. He was sore and swollen for several days.

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12/05/2014 12:10

Subject: DH won't get a vasectomy

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is his body, no?

Yes, it is. He shouldn't be pressured into getting a vasectomy if he doesn't want one. DH had a vasectomy and he had some weird grief issues afterwards over the loss of his fertility. He wasn't planning on using it again, but he was still sad when it was gone. That's not an uncommon response. Being able to make a baby (even if you aren't going to do it) is key to a lot of people's sexuality and gender identity.

Plus, I don't think that was a minor surgery. He was sore and swollen for several days.

So DW shouldn't be pressured into getting one either. Condoms it is, then!

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12/05/2014 12:10

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is his body, no?

Yes, it is. He shouldn't be pressured into getting a vasectomy if he doesn't want one. DH had a vasectomy and he had some weird grief issues afterwards over the loss of his fertility. He wasn't planning on using it again, but he was still sad when it was gone. That's not an uncommon response. Being able to make a baby (even if you aren't going to do it) is key to a lot of people's sexuality and gender identity.

Plus, I don't think that was a minor surgery. He was sore and swollen for several days.

So who should be the responsible party then, PP? Always the woman?

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12/05/2014 12:11

Subject: DH won't get a vasectomy

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MikeL wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is his body, no?

Yes, it is. But he puts part of his body into hers when they have sex and it has the potential to start life in her body.
Not a good argument you're trying to make here.

yes, but in the same sense he can't force her to get her tubes tied, she can't force him. OP, the best way to solve this is to cool down and have a conversation with him free from annoyance. Most guys have a lot of misinformation about what a vasectomy actually is. Find some stuff online for him to read, have him talk to any friends who have had it, and perhaps even see a doctor together. DH did the first two and it greatly calmed his fears and concerns.

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12/05/2014 12:11

Subject: DH won't get a vasectomy

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is his body, no?

Yes, it is. He shouldn't be pressured into getting a vasectomy if he doesn't want one. DH had a vasectomy and he had some weird grief issues afterwards over the loss of his fertility. He wasn't planning on using it again, but he was still sad when it was gone. That's not an uncommon response. Being able to make a baby (even if you aren't going to do it) is key to a lot of people's sexuality and gender identity.

Plus, I don't think that was a minor surgery. He was sore and swollen for several days.

Well your husband is a giant pussy.

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12/05/2014 12:12

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is his body, no?

Yes, it is. He shouldn't be pressured into getting a vasectomy if he doesn't want one. DH had a vasectomy and he had some weird grief issues afterwards over the loss of his fertility. He wasn't planning on using it again, but he was still sad when it was gone. That's not an uncommon response. Being able to make a baby (even if you aren't going to do it) is key to a lot of people's sexuality and gender identity.

Plus, I don't think that was a minor surgery. He was sore and swollen for several days.

Well your husband is a giant pussy.

How were the births of your children? Enjoyable?

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12/05/2014 12:14

Subject: DH won't get a vasectomy

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is his body, no?

Yes, it is. He shouldn't be pressured into getting a vasectomy if he doesn't want one. DH had a vasectomy and he had some weird grief issues afterwards over the loss of his fertility. He wasn't planning on using it again, but he was still sad when it was gone. That's not an uncommon response. Being able to make a baby (even if you aren't going to do it) is key to a lot of people's sexuality and gender identity.

Plus, I don't think that was a minor surgery. He was sore and swollen for several days.

So who should be the responsible party then, PP? Always the woman?

It's something you decide together, but neither person should be pressured to have surgery if they don't want it.

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12/05/2014 12:15

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Anonymous wrote:If it is what you want, you do the surgery.

Why should she? Why is she solely responsible for the family birth control???

This (very common) set up pisses me off to no end.

Because she's the one that will get knocked up.

Her whining to the effect that he's being unreasonable in refusing surgery is hypocritical to say the least.

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12/05/2014 12:15

Subject: DH won't get a vasectomy

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is his body, no?

Yes, it is. He shouldn't be pressured into getting a vasectomy if he doesn't want one. DH had a vasectomy and he had some weird grief issues afterwards over the loss of his fertility. He wasn't planning on using it again, but he was still sad when it was gone. That's not an uncommon response. Being able to make a baby (even if you aren't going to do it) is key to a lot of people's sexuality and gender identity.

Plus, I don't think that was a minor surgery. He was sore and swollen for several days.

Well your husband is a giant pussy.

How were the births of your children? Enjoyable?

They were pretty intense, but it was my choice.

I don't think people (husband or wife) should be pressured to get surgical alterations on their bodies for the other partner's convenience.

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12/05/2014 12:16

Subject: DH won't get a vasectomy

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is his body, no?

Yes, it is. He shouldn't be pressured into getting a vasectomy if he doesn't want one. DH had a vasectomy and he had some weird grief issues afterwards over the loss of his fertility. He wasn't planning on using it again, but he was still sad when it was gone. That's not an uncommon response. Being able to make a baby (even if you aren't going to do it) is key to a lot of people's sexuality and gender identity.

Plus, I don't think that was a minor surgery. He was sore and swollen for several days.

Well your husband is a giant pussy.

How were the births of your children? Enjoyable?

They were pretty intense, but it was my choice.

I don't think people (husband or wife) should be pressured to get surgical alterations on their bodies for the other partner's convenience.