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Anonymous wrote:To me (and I am not your target audience I suspect, I'm an early 40 something married woman with kids) you come across as way too self-involved. The idea that your musical tastes, your vintage porsche, and your scotch drinking--excuse me, Laphroig, neat-- somehow defines you as a person---much less as someone 'odd' or out of step or unique--is amusing. The fact that you dropped in being on the high school football team (but yet apart from it) and that you don't really care about money (and yet--there's an inheritance) and that you happen to be oh so good looking is a bunch of faux modesty. The fact that you think these things somehow convey something of importance about you--and that you share nothing of your values, interests, life experiences--is also telling.

While a list of attributes on an anonymous message board surely cannot convey the intricacies of a person, the story you construct about yourself sounds a hell of a lot like a well-crafted personal ad. Moreover, it's clear to me that you're not really worried that you're a weirdo. You are seeking out feedback, admiration, positive reinforcement, hoping to elicit exactly the responses you are mostly getting (wow, such an interesting, deep, soulful type--why is he done?). But carefully constructed self-image in need of constant reinforcement, even from strangers, is a total turn-off. Dating someone like that is exhausting and pointless--there's no room for anyone else.

Op, I am a single mid thirties women - in your dating demographic. I agree with this poster. Your interests and hobbies really mean nothing until you see them in the context of the person and their personality, quirks and foibles. what I care about is your character, your integrity, how you view the world and treat the people in it, how you manage your stress and anger, how you communicate, how you deal with conflict and crisis etc...

Anonymous wrote:You just sound BLAH. Nothing spicy about you.... If I had to go further, I would say you are an average cookie cutter white man....

Anonymous wrote:You just sound BLAH. Nothing spicy about you.... If I had to go further, I would say you are an average cookie cutter white man....

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Anonymous wrote:You just sound BLAH. Nothing spicy about you.... If I had to go further, I would say you are an average cookie cutter white man....

Yes - this - and the older you get the less flexible you will be and the more difficulty you will have finding someone to fit into your cookie cutter life! I did a LOT of dating when I was in my 30s and met a LOT of guys like you! I had to go younger to find someone less set in their ways, more open to new experiences and thought patterns... good luck! Take a class- get out of your element! loosen up! Volunteer in a homeless shelter!

Anonymous wrote:You sound like someone I would date, but unfortunately for you, I am married.

You do skew a bit older though--I have a lot of friends like you but they are in their 40s. Not because you have old people hobbies, but because that generation is into that stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:Hipster? Leave dc.

I agree that you are probably living in the wrong city. DC doesn't seem to be a good fit for how you describe yourself. how about Ann Arbor? Or a nice smaller city in West Virginia or maybe Amherst, MA, or even Burlington, VT (you mentioned liking Stowe and you would be closer to Martha's vineyard, too)

Anonymous wrote:Are you dominate or submissive in bed? Answer the damn question!!!! Sex is 50% of a relationship. This is a critical question!

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Not trolling for sympathy. I just feel too straight for the freaks and too weird for normal people. It has been like this all my life. The captain of my high school baseball team called me 'alternative (first name)'.

What happens to people like me? Do we find love? Fulfillment?