Am I a 'weirdo'?
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Anonymous
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30something guy best described as follows:
Loves: border collies, vintage porsche restoration, bungalows, skiing, playing the guitar. has an encyclopedic knowledge of rock and roll sub genres such as punk rock, garage rock, indie rock etc. Likes to read, cook, run, bike, kayak. Socially liberal, fiscally conservative. Likes to live relatively simply, not into social climbing. Ideal vacation is 2 weeks on Martha's Vineyard in summer, or up at Stowe Vt in winter. Relaxing is a glass of laphroig, neat. Whilst laying in a hammock, reading, while Iggy and the Stooges 'raw power' emanates from the record player. Or perhaps adjusting the valves in my 84 Carrera with a cold beer. I feel like I am out of step with my generation. 
Not trolling for sympathy. I just feel too straight for the freaks and too weird for normal people. It has been like this all my life. The captain of my high school baseball team called me 'alternative (first name)'. What happens to people like me? Do we find love? Fulfillment? I am sitting here, looking at my 13 year old border collie who is slowing down, wondering what I'm gonna do when he is gone. Sigh. |
Anonymous
| Have you tried Bizarro World? |
Anonymous
| Older women would appreciate you!! |
Anonymous
| If you're half decent looking, clean, not lazy and have a job plus a sense of humor, I'd say you're a winner. |
Anonymous
Is this code for I think you're gay and are looking for a beard? |
Anonymous
| I think attitude is important. You sound like you don't think highly of.yourself, have low self esteem,etc. This will be a way bigger turn off than your interests |
Anonymous
| You aren't weird... You are gay. |
Anonymous
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Those are mostly solo hobbies. Try some meet up groups, or give match.com a try.
Good luck. If you want a relationship then the right woman is out there. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
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Ha. I am not gay.
Older women? Btdt. It gets really hard when the two of you are at really different points of life. Why older women? Is it bc my attributes are not what stereotypically 'desirable' women ~25-40 find desirable? It's okay, be honest. Bc that's what I'm leaning toward. I am actually pretty good looking. Enough so that in college girls on campus all thought I looked like some soap opera character whose name escapes me. Job? An okay one. Low six figures. Not getting rich, but that's okay. Family money awaits someday (inheritance). Don't care - would rather have my folks around. Self esteem? I know I'm great at certain things and generally good at mist things I try. With women? I'm not intimidated, just pretty sure most are interested in other things. |
Anonymous
| I don't think any of these activities limit your ability to have romance and relationships. But I do worry a bit about your personality. you seem a bit...self indulgent? |
Anonymous
Did you mean...you seem a bit...weird? |
Anonymous
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I think you sound fine based on your summary of interests. As long as you are also interested in learning from others and widening your circle to include someone else. You won't find someone who is interested in the same things, but you could find someone who you get on well with. It's principles that matter for that.
I've been happily married for over 10 years and my DH and I have very different hobbies/likes, etc. |
Anonymous
| To me, you sound boring (I am 40). But as you age, that should be less of a problem. |
Anonymous
| You need a puppy! |