Am I a 'weirdo'?

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have any interest in dog sports? My flyball team and agility classes are FULL of border collies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are fine. You are an old soul, as a pp put it. Just carry on being yourself, most people are screwed up anyway. You gotta get through the bad to get to the good so keep on plugging away. If you had great & loving parents it makes you realize how effed up people are so you tend not to identify with folks easily, therefore you see people are fundamentally flawed much earlier in a relationship than most people.

You'll get along fine with people like this who describes others like you as an "old soul". ITA that you take yourself VERY SERIOUSLY and people like you generally lack any sense of irony or humor about themselves. Not fun to be around honestly.

Ha ha! This is the pp you are quoting, I'm really sarcastic. And mean. Insecure folks like you probably take my humor way to seriously. Joking with an insecure person is like lighting a match in a gasoline factory.

Didn't realize you were trying to be funny b/c you aren't funny or witty. Try harder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me (and I am not your target audience I suspect, I'm an early 40 something married woman with kids) you come across as way too self-involved. The idea that your musical tastes, your vintage porsche, and your scotch drinking--excuse me, Laphroig, neat-- somehow defines you as a person---much less as someone 'odd' or out of step or unique--is amusing. The fact that you dropped in being on the high school football team (but yet apart from it) and that you don't really care about money (and yet--there's an inheritance) and that you happen to be oh so good looking is a bunch of faux modesty. The fact that you think these things somehow convey something of importance about you--and that you share nothing of your values, interests, life experiences--is also telling.

While a list of attributes on an anonymous message board surely cannot convey the intricacies of a person, the story you construct about yourself sounds a hell of a lot like a well-crafted personal ad. Moreover, it's clear to me that you're not really worried that you're a weirdo. You are seeking out feedback, admiration, positive reinforcement, hoping to elicit exactly the responses you are mostly getting (wow, such an interesting, deep, soulful type--why is he done?). But carefully constructed self-image in need of constant reinforcement, even from strangers, is a total turn-off. Dating someone like that is exhausting and pointless--there's no room for anyone else.

Well, that just about sums it up nicely. What say you OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me (and I am not your target audience I suspect, I'm an early 40 something married woman with kids) you come across as way too self-involved. The idea that your musical tastes, your vintage porsche, and your scotch drinking--excuse me, Laphroig, neat-- somehow defines you as a person---much less as someone 'odd' or out of step or unique--is amusing. The fact that you dropped in being on the high school football team (but yet apart from it) and that you don't really care about money (and yet--there's an inheritance) and that you happen to be oh so good looking is a bunch of faux modesty. The fact that you think these things somehow convey something of importance about you--and that you share nothing of your values, interests, life experiences--is also telling.

While a list of attributes on an anonymous message board surely cannot convey the intricacies of a person, the story you construct about yourself sounds a hell of a lot like a well-crafted personal ad. Moreover, it's clear to me that you're not really worried that you're a weirdo. You are seeking out feedback, admiration, positive reinforcement, hoping to elicit exactly the responses you are mostly getting (wow, such an interesting, deep, soulful type--why is he done?). But carefully constructed self-image in need of constant reinforcement, even from strangers, is a total turn-off. Dating someone like that is exhausting and pointless--there's no room for anyone else. [/quote

+ 1 (this must have been written by a pychologist or armchair pychologist!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are fine. You are an old soul, as a pp put it. Just carry on being yourself, most people are screwed up anyway. You gotta get through the bad to get to the good so keep on plugging away. If you had great & loving parents it makes you realize how effed up people are so you tend not to identify with folks easily, therefore you see people are fundamentally flawed much earlier in a relationship than most people.

You'll get along fine with people like this who describes others like you as an "old soul". ITA that you take yourself VERY SERIOUSLY and people like you generally lack any sense of irony or humor about themselves. Not fun to be around honestly.

Ha ha! This is the pp you are quoting, I'm really sarcastic. And mean. Insecure folks like you probably take my humor way to seriously. Joking with an insecure person is like lighting a match in a gasoline factory.

Didn't realize you were trying to be funny b/c you aren't funny or witty. Try harder.

Wasn't trying to be either sheesh!

[Anonymous]

Are you dominate or submissive in bed? Answer the damn question!!!! Sex is 50% of a relationship. This is a critical question!

[Anonymous]

My new theory about the OP is that this person is not a "he" but a transgender "she" who chooses to use male pronouns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me (and I am not your target audience I suspect, I'm an early 40 something married woman with kids) you come across as way too self-involved. The idea that your musical tastes, your vintage porsche, and your scotch drinking--excuse me, Laphroig, neat-- somehow defines you as a person---much less as someone 'odd' or out of step or unique--is amusing. The fact that you dropped in being on the high school football team (but yet apart from it) and that you don't really care about money (and yet--there's an inheritance) and that you happen to be oh so good looking is a bunch of faux modesty. The fact that you think these things somehow convey something of importance about you--and that you share nothing of your values, interests, life experiences--is also telling.

While a list of attributes on an anonymous message board surely cannot convey the intricacies of a person, the story you construct about yourself sounds a hell of a lot like a well-crafted personal ad. Moreover, it's clear to me that you're not really worried that you're a weirdo. You are seeking out feedback, admiration, positive reinforcement, hoping to elicit exactly the responses you are mostly getting (wow, such an interesting, deep, soulful type--why is he done?). But carefully constructed self-image in need of constant reinforcement, even from strangers, is a total turn-off. Dating someone like that is exhausting and pointless--there's no room for anyone else.

That's pretty much the best post I've ever seen on DCUM. PP, are you the one who crafted such witty profiles of people based on their kids names?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:30something guy best described as follows:
Loves: border collies, vintage porsche restoration, bungalows, skiing, playing the guitar.
has an encyclopedic knowledge of rock and roll sub genres such as punk rock, garage rock, indie rock etc.
Likes to read, cook, run, bike, kayak. Socially liberal, fiscally conservative.
Likes to live relatively simply, not into social climbing.

Ideal vacation is 2 weeks on Martha's Vineyard in summer, or up at Stowe Vt in winter.
Relaxing is a glass of laphroig, neat. Whilst laying in a hammock, reading, while Iggy and the Stooges 'raw power' emanates from the record player. Or perhaps adjusting the valves in my 84 Carrera with a cold beer.

I feel like I am out of step with my generation.
Not trolling for sympathy. I just feel too straight for the freaks and too weird for normal people. It has been like this all my life. The captain of my high school baseball team called me 'alternative (first name)'.

What happens to people like me? Do we find love? Fulfillment?

I am sitting here, looking at my 13 year old border collie who is slowing down, wondering what I'm gonna do when he is gone.
Sigh.

Just be patient and you will find your pearl

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me (and I am not your target audience I suspect, I'm an early 40 something married woman with kids) you come across as way too self-involved. The idea that your musical tastes, your vintage porsche, and your scotch drinking--excuse me, Laphroig, neat-- somehow defines you as a person---much less as someone 'odd' or out of step or unique--is amusing. The fact that you dropped in being on the high school football team (but yet apart from it) and that you don't really care about money (and yet--there's an inheritance) and that you happen to be oh so good looking is a bunch of faux modesty. The fact that you think these things somehow convey something of importance about you--and that you share nothing of your values, interests, life experiences--is also telling.

While a list of attributes on an anonymous message board surely cannot convey the intricacies of a person, the story you construct about yourself sounds a hell of a lot like a well-crafted personal ad. Moreover, it's clear to me that you're not really worried that you're a weirdo. You are seeking out feedback, admiration, positive reinforcement, hoping to elicit exactly the responses you are mostly getting (wow, such an interesting, deep, soulful type--why is he done?). But carefully constructed self-image in need of constant reinforcement, even from strangers, is a total turn-off. Dating someone like that is exhausting and pointless--there's no room for anyone else. [/quote

Wow! Be my therapist!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My new theory about the OP is that this person is not a "he" but a transgender "she" who chooses to use male pronouns.

What does it mean when a man likes to dress up as a woman but be the dominant one in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Dominant.

And no for fucks sake I'm just saying I just like all this shit none of my generational cohort gives a flying fuck about. My life is not a Wes Anderson movie.

I am NOT looking for constant approval or praise. Wanting to know you aren't alone/a total deal is hardly the same thing.

Went to a big state school. Marketing director for a privately owned smb.

And I never talk about music in front of peopl. C'mon - do you rally think I don't know nobody cares about that shit? Ha ha

[Anonymous]

I think you're slightly boring and probably not very good in bed.

[Anonymous]

Hipster? Leave dc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me (and I am not your target audience I suspect, I'm an early 40 something married woman with kids) you come across as way too self-involved. The idea that your musical tastes, your vintage porsche, and your scotch drinking--excuse me, Laphroig, neat-- somehow defines you as a person---much less as someone 'odd' or out of step or unique--is amusing. The fact that you dropped in being on the high school football team (but yet apart from it) and that you don't really care about money (and yet--there's an inheritance) and that you happen to be oh so good looking is a bunch of faux modesty. The fact that you think these things somehow convey something of importance about you--and that you share nothing of your values, interests, life experiences--is also telling.

While a list of attributes on an anonymous message board surely cannot convey the intricacies of a person, the story you construct about yourself sounds a hell of a lot like a well-crafted personal ad. Moreover, it's clear to me that you're not really worried that you're a weirdo. You are seeking out feedback, admiration, positive reinforcement, hoping to elicit exactly the responses you are mostly getting (wow, such an interesting, deep, soulful type--why is he done?). But carefully constructed self-image in need of constant reinforcement, even from strangers, is a total turn-off. Dating someone like that is exhausting and pointless--there's no room for anyone else.

That's pretty much the best post I've ever seen on DCUM. PP, are you the one who crafted such witty profiles of people based on their kids names?

This is good. +2

Smack down delivered.