Anonymous wrote:Just remember this - studies have shown that marriages are happier when the wife is thinner/in better shape than the husband...

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Anonymous wrote:You are an asshole. I bet you don't look as good you think you do.

Really? I am an asshole for this? I don't understand that. And why would you assume that I don't look as good as I think I do? Actually, my husband compliments how great I look all the time. I am confused by your response.

Anonymous wrote:My husband isn't overweight really but he's gotten flabby since our son was born. I understand the exhaustion of having a child and how hard it is to eat right and stay in shape, but I am simply not attracted to the way he looks anymore. I, on the other hand, bounced right back after the baby; I lost all baby weight almost immediately and got back into really great shape. I work out like crazy (at nights when, yes, sometimes I'd rather be sleeping or relaxing). I eat very healthy. I mean, I am super toned and look better than pre-baby. I have tried everything to give him subtle hints. I only buy healthy foods, but he simply eats too much. I try to serve him correct portion sizes, but he'll just go back for seconds. I tell him how great I feel when I work out, how much more energy I have, etc. and have suggested that we trade off nights of working out, or I offered if he prefers morning work outs, I could wake him up earlier. He hasn't taken any hints at all. I feel like it is just plain laziness. He will sit around for 2 hours and play on the computer or read a book at night, but he won't make an effort to go out even for a 2 mile run. It doesn't make sense to me. Should I be more direct? I don't want to be mean, but how do I address this? I would never cheat on him, but I have to admit, I find myself fantasizing about other men who look better.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband isn't overweight really but he's gotten flabby since our son was born. I understand the exhaustion of having a child and how hard it is to eat right and stay in shape, but I am simply not attracted to the way he looks anymore. I, on the other hand, bounced right back after the baby; I lost all baby weight almost immediately and got back into really great shape. I work out like crazy (at nights when, yes, sometimes I'd rather be sleeping or relaxing). I eat very healthy. I mean, I am super toned and look better than pre-baby. I have tried everything to give him subtle hints. I only buy healthy foods, but he simply eats too much. I try to serve him correct portion sizes, but he'll just go back for seconds. I tell him how great I feel when I work out, how much more energy I have, etc. and have suggested that we trade off nights of working out, or I offered if he prefers morning work outs, I could wake him up earlier. He hasn't taken any hints at all. I feel like it is just plain laziness. He will sit around for 2 hours and play on the computer or read a book at night, but he won't make an effort to go out even for a 2 mile run. It doesn't make sense to me. Should I be more direct? I don't want to be mean, but how do I address this? I would never cheat on him, but I have to admit, I find myself fantasizing about other men who look better.

Women like you are the reason I do not recommend marriage for men. Everything is me. me. me, me, me, me.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why everyone is pouring it on the OP. Newsflash, it's not just men who would like a physically appealing spouse. She's just being honest about the way she feels, but because she is the woman saying this she is a bitch?? Yeah, whatever.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why everyone is pouring it on the OP. Newsflash, it's not just men who would like a physically appealing spouse. She's just being honest about the way she feels, but because she is the woman saying this she is a bitch?? Yeah, whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband isn't overweight really but he's gotten flabby since our son was born. I understand the exhaustion of having a child and how hard it is to eat right and stay in shape, but I am simply not attracted to the way he looks anymore. I, on the other hand, bounced right back after the baby; I lost all baby weight almost immediately and got back into really great shape. I work out like crazy (at nights when, yes, sometimes I'd rather be sleeping or relaxing). I eat very healthy. I mean, I am super toned and look better than pre-baby. I have tried everything to give him subtle hints. I only buy healthy foods, but he simply eats too much. I try to serve him correct portion sizes, but he'll just go back for seconds. I tell him how great I feel when I work out, how much more energy I have, etc. and have suggested that we trade off nights of working out, or I offered if he prefers morning work outs, I could wake him up earlier. He hasn't taken any hints at all. I feel like it is just plain laziness. He will sit around for 2 hours and play on the computer or read a book at night, but he won't make an effort to go out even for a 2 mile run. It doesn't make sense to me. Should I be more direct? I don't want to be mean, but how do I address this? I would never cheat on him, but I have to admit, I find myself fantasizing about other men who look better.

Women like you are the reason I do not recommend marriage for men. Everything is me. me. me, me, me, me.

OH PLEASE!!! You don't think men fantasize about women who look better??? Hmmm...the porn industry must be doing really poorly then.

There is nothing wrong with fantasizing. And honestly, looks matter to some people. I don't love my DH any less, but I also don't want him to let himself go. For looks, health and activity level. Maybe I'm a little shallow in that regard, but I have to say I have plenty of personality traits and things in my life that are not. But to say looks don't matter at all to me...I'd be flat out lying. I also know my DH's physical potential and I also know he has more energy and feels better when he works out.

Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't overweight really but she's gotten flabby since our son was born. I understand the exhaustion of having a child and how hard it is to eat right and stay in shape, but I am simply not attracted to the way she looks anymore. I, on the other hand, bounced right back after the baby; I got back into really great shape. I work out like crazy (at nights when, yes, sometimes I'd rather be sleeping or relaxing). I eat very healthy. I mean, I am super toned and look better than pre-baby. I have tried everything to give her subtle hints. I only buy healthy foods, but she simply eats too much. I try to serve her correct portion sizes, but she'll just go back for seconds. I tell her how great I feel when I work out, how much more energy I have, etc. and have suggested that we trade off nights of working out, or I offered if she prefers morning work outs, I could wake her up earlier. She hasn't taken any hints at all. I feel like it is just plain laziness. She will sit around for 2 hours and play on the computer or read a book at night, but she won't make an effort to go out even for a 2 mile run. It doesn't make sense to me. Should I be more direct? I don't want to be mean, but how do I address this? I would never cheat on her, but I have to admit, I find myself fantasizing about other women who look better.