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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband isn't overweight really but he's gotten flabby since our son was born.  I understand the exhaustion of having a child and how hard it is to eat right and stay in shape, but I am simply not attracted to the way he looks anymore.  I, on the other hand, bounced right back after the baby; I lost all baby weight almost immediately and got back into really great shape.  I work out like crazy (at nights when, yes, sometimes I'd rather be sleeping or relaxing).  I eat very healthy.  I mean, I am super toned and look better than pre-baby.  I have tried everything to give him subtle hints.  I only buy healthy foods, but he simply eats too much.  I try to serve him correct portion sizes, but he'll just go back for seconds.  I tell him how great I feel when I work out, how much more energy I have, etc. and have suggested that we trade off nights of working out, or I offered if he prefers morning work outs, I could wake him up earlier.  He hasn't taken any hints at all.  I feel like it is just plain laziness.  He will sit around for 2 hours and play on the computer or read a book at night, but he won't make an effort to go out even for a 2 mile run.  It doesn't make sense to me.  Should I be more direct?  I don't want to be mean, but how do I address this? [b] I would never cheat on him, but I have to admit, I find myself fantasizing about other men who look better.[/b]  [/quote]

Women like you are the reason I do not recommend marriage for men.  Everything is me. me. me, me, me, me. [/quote]

OH PLEASE!!! You don't think men fantasize about women who look better???  Hmmm...the porn industry must be doing really poorly then.

There is nothing wrong with fantasizing.  And honestly, looks matter to some people.  I don't love my DH any less, but I also don't want him to let himself go.  For looks, health and activity level.  Maybe I'm a little shallow in that regard, but I have to say I have plenty of personality traits and things in my life that are not.  But to say looks don't matter at all to me...I'd be flat out lying.  I also know my DH's physical potential and I also know he has more energy and feels better when he works out.  [/quote]

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