Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

True. Gold and silk have been forbidden to men in this life, only women can wear them, but I have yet to hear about the men lobby crying injustice in dress codes and marching for the right of men to wear silk and gold. Somehow it's all about the injustice of the Muslim women and their headscarves

That's because no one controls the way men dress.

Let's break it down in a simpler example.

Option 1. You're a man in Jeddah. You walk along the Corniche sporting a gold necklace. What do you think will happen to you?

Option 2. You're a woman in Jeddah. You walk along the Corniche sporting a pair of tight jeans and a clingy top. No headscarf, no outer coat. What do you think will happen to you?

Stop mixing Islam with the Muslims. What Saudi Arabia does had nothing to do with Islam. I don't think anyone is puting a gun on the head of the women wearing a niqab in Tysons Corner

You didn't ask a religious question ("why are there no men's rights group asking to make gold and silk available to men?") You asked a question that has to do with social structures underlying the enforcement of these commandments. I gave you a perfectly logical answer - because society does not supervise and judge the way men dress the way it does women. There are no demonstration for the men's rights to wear gold and silk because while prohibited from wearing them religiously (according to non-scriptural sources), men aren't prohibited from wearing them socially. No one demonstrates for rights that are already available.

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

True. Gold and silk have been forbidden to men in this life, only women can wear them, but I have yet to hear about the men lobby crying injustice in dress codes and marching for the right of men to wear silk and gold. Somehow it's all about the injustice of the Muslim women and their headscarves

That's because no one controls the way men dress.

Let's break it down in a simpler example.

Option 1. You're a man in Jeddah. You walk along the Corniche sporting a gold necklace. What do you think will happen to you?

Option 2. You're a woman in Jeddah. You walk along the Corniche sporting a pair of tight jeans and a clingy top. No headscarf, no outer coat. What do you think will happen to you?

Stop mixing Islam with the Muslims. What Saudi Arabia does had nothing to do with Islam. I don't think anyone is puting a gun on the head of the women wearing a niqab in Tysons Corner

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Suppose the culprit of this school teacher's murder will never caught since the only description of the murderer is that the person (don't know if it's male or female) was wearing a full black veil/dressing/cover of whatever name and black gloves. Even with video surveillance.

http://news.yahoo.com/us-school-teacher-stabbed-death-abu-dhabi-085502211.html

Don't be ridiculous, tons of crimes have been committed in disguises. You want to ban hoodies too, while you're at it? Maybe pantyhose as well? Face masks? How about knives, you want to ban knives? Or maybe school teachers! That should cut down on crime!

So by your statement, should we regard niqabs/burqas/hijabs/etc to be disguises? Thank you for making that point, that is exactly why we should feel like something is terribly wrong and possibly threatened as well as completely socially unacceptable when we see someone dressed in these disguises, just as we would if we saw a person walk into a mall with pantyhose on their face.

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

True. Gold and silk have been forbidden to men in this life, only women can wear them, but I have yet to hear about the men lobby crying injustice in dress codes and marching for the right of men to wear silk and gold. Somehow it's all about the injustice of the Muslim women and their headscarves

That's because no one controls the way men dress.

Let's break it down in a simpler example.

Option 1. You're a man in Jeddah. You walk along the Corniche sporting a gold necklace. What do you think will happen to you?

Option 2. You're a woman in Jeddah. You walk along the Corniche sporting a pair of tight jeans and a clingy top. No headscarf, no outer coat. What do you think will happen to you?

Stop mixing Islam with the Muslims. What Saudi Arabia does had nothing to do with Islam. I don't think anyone is puting a gun on the head of the women wearing a niqab in Tysons Corner

You didn't ask a religious question ("why are there no men's rights group asking to make gold and silk available to men?") You asked a question that has to do with social structures underlying the enforcement of these commandments. I gave you a perfectly logical answer - because society does not supervise and judge the way men dress the way it does women. There are no demonstration for the men's rights to wear gold and silk because while prohibited from wearing them religiously (according to non-scriptural sources), men aren't prohibited from wearing them socially. No one demonstrates for rights that are already available.

And your argument is flawed since wearing a hijab is the law in how many countries again? In the majority of Muslim countries, nobody supervises what women wear. Really, women choose and like to dress this way, why is it so hard for you to accept?

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Actually, in terms of modesty, no--I don't make that distinction. I dress equally modestly in public as I do at home.

There is of course locale specifc dress that would be attention grabbing in other contexts. Fore example, I wear a bathing suit at the beach or pool but not otherwise.

My family does get subject to my unmade face and untidy hair, however, when I am home sick--wearing a nightgown and, of course, a bathrobe if I am not in bed.

I don't believe you would feel equally mortified exposing your breasts to your husband and your boss, sorry.

Ha! obviously we are not talking about what goes on in the bedroom, but rather how one goes about one's daily business in the house. I wouldn't bear my breasts to my kids or other family members either!

But in Islam it is perfectly fine to wear the most provocative outfit of a miniskirt and crop top or whatever else in the house around one's male relatives as long as one bundles up in public. Personally, I have seen this.

But, I think, for most Americans (not trying to speak for everyone, just my observation), there is a very small gap in the modesty of dress worn publicly and in private and the wide gap one sees in Islam is confusing. For us, modesty in the house and in public are pretty much the same thing. Not so in Islam.

Bull- just because you have personally seen Muslims wear provocative things in private doesn't make it am Islamic Ruling. Modesty is the Character of Islam, we are told to be modest in character and action, whether in private or public. Yes women don't have to cover their hair, and awrah when male relatives are around, doesn't mean the Islamic guidance is go naked and dance like a freed monkey around your relatives. We still dress appropriately in private, we just have mire leeway as to what we can show. Heck, I have a friend who never takes her hijab off even when it's just the 2 of us, I've never seen her hair. And another friend was telling me recently that she never saw her MIL's hair and that her husband actually never saw his own mother's hair and we were laughing about it , like WTH, really the woman never takes her hijab off.

Obviously, there is no official ruling saying dress provocatively at home. But, equally, there is no ruling saying you cannot dress provocatively at home, and often that is done. Even you admit women take off their hijab--worn for purposes of modesty--at home. My point was that for many Americans, modesty is modesty and the difference is very small between public and private places.

And there is no official ruling saying you can't dance naked. Obviously, it is not the norm to dress provocatively just because one is at home. And the fact that you think it is shows your lack of knowledge of Islamic adaab. If anything, it is always emphasized how people need to dress appropriately , and respectfully, this applies in and outside of the home. Modesty is not limited to being in public. Now there are different ways to dress whether you're in public or not even for AMERICANS , and if you call that modesty or not is irrelevant. There is a reason why you can walk in your jammies at home with your family around but won't show up at work wearing your color coordinated jammies because you think they are cute. Whether you like it or not, we all follow a dress code, whether it is by society standards, God's, or not.

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:And for men, it's not just about lowering the gaze, like i said they also have a dress code. Yes, they do not have to wear a scarf, because obviously the male and female bodies are different and males/females react differently to it. The porn industry doesn't exist because men get aroused by intelligence and emotional connection ,and there is a reason advertisers use slender young attractive females on ads and not fat frumpy women, really! Moving on....

Quran: "O children of Adam, We have bestowed upon you clothing to conceal your private parts and as adornment. But the clothing of righteousness - that is best. That is from the signs of Allah that perhaps they will remember"-[7:26]

Now as far as the man's dress code, for the man, the 'awrah is defined as the area between the navel and the knees. ( Awrah is an islamic term that denotes the intimate parts of a man/woman). Men & women have different awrahs. Within the definition of 'awrah for men and women, all the four basic requirements are essentially the same:

1. Man should fully cover his awrah.
2. Men's clothes should be loose enough so as not
to describe what he is covering (his awrah).
3. They should be thick enough so as not to describe the color of the skin or the parts
required to be covered.
4. They should not be designed in a way to attract
attention. The basic rule of modesty and avoiding "show off" applies to all believers’ men and women. Source: http://www.icmtn.org/forms/women_dress.pdf

But the burqas and niqabs DO attract attention.

Also, as far as modesty goes, the definition of it goes beyond dress code. It's the way a person projects themselves in total. The very flashy lifestyle of the oil rich Muslim dominant countries in the M.E.-where this sort of dress is so important- as well as those that live or visit here from there completely negates the so-called modesty of their burqa. The burqa with the $5000 purse while driving in the 100K G-wagon doesn't exude modest, nor do the men in their loose attire with the thick gold chains and watches while they ride in the back of their Rolls with their driver after their servant carries their things.

I think it depends on the region. A burqa won't attract attention in Afghanistan and a niqab will not attract attention in Saudi Arabia. Walk in the US with either and yes you all attract stares. Burqas are cultural actually, I've never met anyone in the US wearing a burqa, the most covered women you see here are wearing niqabs. Important to note that burqas or niqabs are not a requirement of the islamic dress according to the majority of the Muslim scholars.

As far as the flashy lifestyle of the rich gulf countries, I agree, it is far from being modest, we all have our demons

They're at Tyson's Mall or Tyson's Galleria all the time- I'm guessing buying their expensive handbags. Also a few times at Mosiac in Merrifield but not as often.

My son was so confused the first time he saw it, he thought they were ninjas! I tried to smile and shoo my kid to the side so they wouldn't notice his loud voice and pointing finger, but it was awkward for all of us. And before anyone comes down on me about my child and manners, yes, I later used it as a teaching moment and no I'm not a horrible parent.

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

True. Gold and silk have been forbidden to men in this life, only women can wear them, but I have yet to hear about the men lobby crying injustice in dress codes and marching for the right of men to wear silk and gold. Somehow it's all about the injustice of the Muslim women and their headscarves

That's because no one controls the way men dress.

Let's break it down in a simpler example.

Option 1. You're a man in Jeddah. You walk along the Corniche sporting a gold necklace. What do you think will happen to you?

Option 2. You're a woman in Jeddah. You walk along the Corniche sporting a pair of tight jeans and a clingy top. No headscarf, no outer coat. What do you think will happen to you?

Stop mixing Islam with the Muslims. What Saudi Arabia does had nothing to do with Islam. I don't think anyone is puting a gun on the head of the women wearing a niqab in Tysons Corner

Not the pp, but should we also separate Christians from Christianity, the Jewish from Judaism, Sikhs from Sikhism, and so on? Because that just sounds to me like no one is truly part of their said religion so what's the point of religion? Are you not Muslim? Is the OP that started this thread as " I'm Muslim. Ask me anything!" not Muslim.


Do most all Muslims in the world believe that Saudi Arabia has nothing to do with Islam. Did they think that while their communities were getting funds from Saudi Arabia for their mosques and madrassas?

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

True. Gold and silk have been forbidden to men in this life, only women can wear them, but I have yet to hear about the men lobby crying injustice in dress codes and marching for the right of men to wear silk and gold. Somehow it's all about the injustice of the Muslim women and their headscarves

That's because no one controls the way men dress.

Let's break it down in a simpler example.

Option 1. You're a man in Jeddah. You walk along the Corniche sporting a gold necklace. What do you think will happen to you?

Option 2. You're a woman in Jeddah. You walk along the Corniche sporting a pair of tight jeans and a clingy top. No headscarf, no outer coat. What do you think will happen to you?

Stop mixing Islam with the Muslims. What Saudi Arabia does had nothing to do with Islam. I don't think anyone is puting a gun on the head of the women wearing a niqab in Tysons Corner

You didn't ask a religious question ("why are there no men's rights group asking to make gold and silk available to men?") You asked a question that has to do with social structures underlying the enforcement of these commandments. I gave you a perfectly logical answer - because society does not supervise and judge the way men dress the way it does women. There are no demonstration for the men's rights to wear gold and silk because while prohibited from wearing them religiously (according to non-scriptural sources), men aren't prohibited from wearing them socially. No one demonstrates for rights that are already available.

And your argument is flawed since wearing a hijab is the law in how many countries again? In the majority of Muslim countries, nobody supervises what women wear. Really, women choose and like to dress this way, why is it so hard for you to accept?

You are confusing laws with social mores. It actually isn't the law to cover in most countries on the planet, KSA excepting. Social pressure is different from laws. There is, for instance, no laws requiring you to be slender, but social pressure to remain slender does exist, and there are social costs to gaining weight. There is no law against garish makeup, but social pressure to keep it down, and social costs for not toning it down.

You asked, sarcastically, why no one demonstrates for the rights of men to wear gold and silk. I responded, quite logically, "because most men are socially free to wear gold and silk, regardless of religious prohibition", the way women socially aren't free to not cover.

It actually isn't hard for me to accept that women cover voluntarily since 90% of my Saudi inlaws cover everywhere. The fact that many women cover voluntarily does not at all negate the fact that there is in fact social pressure to cover in many Muslim-majority countries, and that there are social costs for women who don't cover. I am actually completely indifferent to the issue of covering vs. not covering, I've covered my face when it was socially profitable to do so, and I think it's stupid and immoral to require women to uncover. But none of that negates the fact that there is in fact social pressure to cover, and social costs are imposed on women who do not. The degree of these costs varies from country to country. Whether or not this has anything to do with religion is irrelevant.

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Actually, in terms of modesty, no--I don't make that distinction. I dress equally modestly in public as I do at home.

There is of course locale specifc dress that would be attention grabbing in other contexts. Fore example, I wear a bathing suit at the beach or pool but not otherwise.

My family does get subject to my unmade face and untidy hair, however, when I am home sick--wearing a nightgown and, of course, a bathrobe if I am not in bed.

I don't believe you would feel equally mortified exposing your breasts to your husband and your boss, sorry.

Ha! obviously we are not talking about what goes on in the bedroom, but rather how one goes about one's daily business in the house. I wouldn't bear my breasts to my kids or other family members either!

But in Islam it is perfectly fine to wear the most provocative outfit of a miniskirt and crop top or whatever else in the house around one's male relatives as long as one bundles up in public. Personally, I have seen this.

But, I think, for most Americans (not trying to speak for everyone, just my observation), there is a very small gap in the modesty of dress worn publicly and in private and the wide gap one sees in Islam is confusing. For us, modesty in the house and in public are pretty much the same thing. Not so in Islam.

Bull- just because you have personally seen Muslims wear provocative things in private doesn't make it am Islamic Ruling. Modesty is the Character of Islam, we are told to be modest in character and action, whether in private or public. Yes women don't have to cover their hair, and awrah when male relatives are around, doesn't mean the Islamic guidance is go naked and dance like a freed monkey around your relatives. We still dress appropriately in private, we just have mire leeway as to what we can show. Heck, I have a friend who never takes her hijab off even when it's just the 2 of us, I've never seen her hair. And another friend was telling me recently that she never saw her MIL's hair and that her husband actually never saw his own mother's hair and we were laughing about it , like WTH, really the woman never takes her hijab off.

Obviously, there is no official ruling saying dress provocatively at home. But, equally, there is no ruling saying you cannot dress provocatively at home, and often that is done. Even you admit women take off their hijab--worn for purposes of modesty--at home. My point was that for many Americans, modesty is modesty and the difference is very small between public and private places.

And there is no official ruling saying you can't dance naked. Obviously, it is not the norm to dress provocatively just because one is at home. And the fact that you think it is shows your lack of knowledge of Islamic adaab. If anything, it is always emphasized how people need to dress appropriately , and respectfully, this applies in and outside of the home. Modesty is not limited to being in public. Now there are different ways to dress whether you're in public or not even for AMERICANS , and if you call that modesty or not is irrelevant. There is a reason why you can walk in your jammies at home with your family around but won't show up at work wearing your color coordinated jammies because you think they are cute. Whether you like it or not, we all follow a dress code, whether it is by society standards, God's, or not.

Jammies are every bit as modest as a business suit, if not more so. Yes, there is socially accepted attire--but that is quite different from modest attire in terms of what is covered up.

As I said this is of no particular significance to me, but I am wondering why you are so defensive about the observation that there is a very large gap in standards of modesty for home and public in Islam, while there is a relatively small one in the West.

Muslima wrote:

I understand social pressure quite well and I am telling you one more time that it is a fallacy that Muslim women who live in Muslim Countries cover due to social pressure. Seriously? Saying this is as ridiculous as saying non muslim western women are forced to wear a dress due to social pressures. I will repeat it once again, I have never felt any pressure to cover my head while living/visiting any muslim country, my mother, siblings, cousins, aunts, ect do not wear a hijab/niqab, not one of them ever felt pressured to wear one, not one of them were shamed for their lack of hijab/niqab in Muslim countries. And saying that whether this has anything to do with religion is irrelevant is intellectually dishonest. You are not in the culture forum, this is the Religion section. Talking about Muslims and equating the actions of a few Muslims you know, or the life of your in-laws in Saudi at that as the reality of Muslim Women is misleading at best, and dishonest at worse. I am not saying that somewhere, somehow, there isn't a Muslim woman forced to wear a burqa or being " pressured" to wear a hijab, but there is a difference between those women's plights and your attempt to generalize other cultures into very belittling and untrue stereotypes.

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

I understand social pressure quite well and I am telling you one more time that it is a fallacy that Muslim women who live in Muslim Countries cover due to social pressure. Seriously? Saying this is as ridiculous as saying non muslim western women are forced to wear a dress due to social pressures. I will repeat it once again, I have never felt any pressure to cover my head while living/visiting any muslim country, my mother, siblings, cousins, aunts, ect do not wear a hijab/niqab, not one of them ever felt pressured to wear one, not one of them were shamed for their lack of hijab/niqab in Muslim countries. And saying that whether this has anything to do with religion is irrelevant is intellectually dishonest. You are not in the culture forum, this is the Religion section. Talking about Muslims and equating the actions of a few Muslims you know, or the life of your in-laws in Saudi at that as the reality of Muslim Women is misleading at best, and dishonest at worse. I am not saying that somewhere, somehow, there isn't a Muslim woman forced to wear a burqa or being " pressured" to wear a hijab, but there is a difference between those women's plights and your attempt to generalize other cultures into very belittling and untrue stereotypes.

You know, you repeating things doesn't make them stronger. Stereotyping works both ways - a Muslim woman happy to cover and a Muslim woman pressured to cover are both cliches that do not do justice to the full diversity that exists in the world. What makes you think that your experiences are somehow more legitimate than experiences of my Saudi inlaws? You are both but one person. They don't describe the world of Muslim women, but neither do you or your mother. Your happiness with your hijab and some other woman's resentment of it are both equally legitimate stories. Neither of you defines Muslim womenfolk.

What does this have to do with what forum we are in?

I think what's intellectually dishonest is your refusal to admit that social pressure to cover exists just because "you" personally never experienced it. Clearly, if you never felt something, it must not exist. Go take a flight on any airline out of any hub in the Gulf - Kuwait, KSA, Qatar, you name it. Count how many covered women enter the aircraft, and how many are still covered when they exit the plane. Many will still be covered. But many would also begin a well-studied trot to the bathroom as soon as the plane gains cruising altitude, and emerge in full battleface makeup and sexy outfits.

And just to bring it back to the point at hand - there is no movement to allow men to wear gold or silk because men are already free to wear gold and silk despite religious prohibitions since there are no social costs imposed for doing so. Argue with that, if you can.

Muslima wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Muslima wrote:

I understand social pressure quite well and I am telling you one more time that it is a fallacy that Muslim women who live in Muslim Countries cover due to social pressure. Seriously? Saying this is as ridiculous as saying non muslim western women are forced to wear a dress due to social pressures. I will repeat it once again, I have never felt any pressure to cover my head while living/visiting any muslim country, my mother, siblings, cousins, aunts, ect do not wear a hijab/niqab, not one of them ever felt pressured to wear one, not one of them were shamed for their lack of hijab/niqab in Muslim countries. And saying that whether this has anything to do with religion is irrelevant is intellectually dishonest. You are not in the culture forum, this is the Religion section. Talking about Muslims and equating the actions of a few Muslims you know, or the life of your in-laws in Saudi at that as the reality of Muslim Women is misleading at best, and dishonest at worse. I am not saying that somewhere, somehow, there isn't a Muslim woman forced to wear a burqa or being " pressured" to wear a hijab, but there is a difference between those women's plights and your attempt to generalize other cultures into very belittling and untrue stereotypes.

You know, you repeating things doesn't make them stronger. Stereotyping works both ways - a Muslim woman happy to cover and a Muslim woman pressured to cover are both cliches that do not do justice to the full diversity that exists in the world. What makes you think that your experiences are somehow more legitimate than experiences of my Saudi inlaws? You are both but one person. They don't describe the world of Muslim women, but neither do you or your mother. Your happiness with your hijab and some other woman's resentment of it are both equally legitimate stories. Neither of you defines Muslim womenfolk.

What does this have to do with what forum we are in?

I think what's intellectually dishonest is your refusal to admit that social pressure to cover exists just because "you" personally never experienced it. Clearly, if you never felt something, it must not exist. Go take a flight on any airline out of any hub in the Gulf - Kuwait, KSA, Qatar, you name it. Count how many covered women enter the aircraft, and how many are still covered when they exit the plane. Many will still be covered. But many would also begin a well-studied trot to the bathroom as soon as the plane gains cruising altitude, and emerge in full battleface makeup and sexy outfits.

And just to bring it back to the point at hand - there is no movement to allow men to wear gold or silk because men are already free to wear gold and silk despite religious prohibitions since there are no social costs imposed for doing so. Argue with that, if you can.

OMG, do you take the time to actually read what is written? I never said social pressure didn't exist. Social Pressure is obviously present in every society, but your idea that it is the norm for women to cover in muslim countries is false. My family and friends in the Gulf do not cover for societal reasons/pressures, I actually do not know a single person who covers because they are "pressured" to do so, and yes I have lived in a 90+% Muslim country. The fact that you know some Muslim women who do this doesn't make it the Norm. I have never denied that this exists, just like some women are forced to wear a hijab in muslim countries, some women are also forced to prostitute themselves in non muslim countries, these things exist and happen everywhere. Your narrative that this is somehow the norm is false and misleading. As far the experience of your Saudi IN-Laws, of course they are not representative of Islam. I do not consider Saudi Arabia the beacon of Islamic enlightenment and actually not many Muslims do. You couldn't pay me enough to move to KSA! And your best example is that of women who take off their hijab when their plane lands on American soil and wear provocative outfits to embrace american liberation, lol. I guess western women that I see wearing an abaya and a headscarf as soon as the plane lands in Kuwait were all pressured by American society to wear miniskirts and stilettos and felt liberated to finally put on an abaya, a headscarf and relax funny enough, the only people I see who pressure themselves this way are non-muslims, recent converts, married to ME men who try to "fit in" thinking they will be "accepted" by dressing the part.

There is no movement to allow men to wear gold and silk because the narrative has always been to present Islam as the religion that oppresses women. What social costs are women facing who choose to wear their hijab/burqas freely in the west? There are people lobbying constantly against their right to wear their hijabs/burqas as they see fit because it is somehow against the values of freedom and liberty. Anyhow, this is my last post on this, no point in repeating the same thing over and over.

Muslima wrote:
OMG, do you take the time to actually read what is written? I never said social pressure didn't exist. Social Pressure is obviously present in every society, but your idea that it is the norm for women to cover in muslim countries is false. My family and friends in the Gulf do not cover for societal reasons/pressures, I actually do not know a single person who covers because they are "pressured" to do so, and yes I have lived in a 90+% Muslim country. The fact that you know some Muslim women who do this doesn't make it the Norm.

Muslima wrote:
I have never denied that this exists, just like some women are forced to wear a hijab in muslim countries, some women are also forced to prostitute themselves in non muslim countries, these things exist and happen everywhere. Your narrative that this is somehow the norm is false and misleading.

Muslima wrote:
As far the experience of your Saudi IN-Laws, of course they are not representative of Islam.

Muslima wrote:
I do not consider Saudi Arabia the beacon of Islamic enlightenment and actually not many Muslims do. You couldn't pay me enough to move to KSA!

Muslima wrote:
And your best example is that of women who take off their hijab when their plane lands on American soil and wear provocative outfits to embrace american liberation, lol. I guess western women that I see wearing an abaya and a headscarf as soon as the plane lands in Kuwait were all pressured by American society to wear miniskirts and stilettos and felt liberated to finally put on an abaya, a headscarf and relax funny enough, the only people I see who pressure themselves this way are non-muslims, recent converts, married to ME men who try to "fit in" thinking they will be "accepted" by dressing the part.

Muslima wrote:
There is no movement to allow men to wear gold and silk because the narrative has always been to present Islam as the religion that oppresses women. What social costs are women facing who choose to wear their hijab/burqas freely in the west? There are people lobbying constantly against their right to wear their hijabs/burqas as they see fit because it is somehow against the values of freedom and liberty. Anyhow, this is my last post on this, no point in repeating the same thing over and over.