Is there really any way to have another relationship without destroying the marriage?

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[Post New]09/19/2011 12:10
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Bummer. Maybe he's playing hard to get?


Maybe. I think it's partly logistics that are getting him and part of it is that our social circle slightly overlaps. It could also be he's all talk and no action.
[Post New]09/19/2011 12:11
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ThatSmileyFaceGuy
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Anonymous wrote:OP here thanks. The object of my affection is having cold feet, so I think it's a non-issue anyway.


Too bad he is backing out on you.


We haven't even started....it is a shame in a way, because his eyes just drive me wild and I am so curious about how he'd be in bed. Better not to play with fire, I suppose.


Sure you might get burned, or like a pp said you might get ignited
[Post New]09/19/2011 12:16
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Anonymous
I guess I'll have to see how it plays out. I'm curious also to see how I could make him feel - haven't been with anyone other than spouse in almost 20 years.
[Post New]09/19/2011 12:39
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ThatSmileyFaceGuy
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If it happens, he would enjoy it. The question is how he would make you feel.
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:13
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Anonymous
Yes, that too You flatter me, thanks. He's more than 5 years younger than I am....hope I could keep up!
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:17
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ThatSmileyFaceGuy
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I'm sure that keeping up will not be an issue
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:23
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Anonymous
I'm nowhere near as cute as I was back in the day, but I've learned a few things. Men respond well to self confidence, I'm finding.
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:27
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ThatSmileyFaceGuy
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Anonymous wrote:I'm nowhere near as cute as I was back in the day, but I've learned a few things. Men respond well to self confidence, I'm finding.


Exactly this. There was a thread on the explicit forum for a bit where someone asked what men notice or find sexy. Self-confidence was the number one answer. All the physical stuff was window dressing since that comes down to personal preference.
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:35
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Anonymous
Oh that's so good to know! I enjoy the whole male/female dynamic so much....I've missed that flirtatious feeling....
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:49
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ThatSmileyFaceGuy
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Anonymous wrote:Oh that's so good to know! I enjoy the whole male/female dynamic so much....I've missed that flirtatious feeling....


Well you don't have to go to bed with a guy to engage him in some confidence enabling flirtation, but it certainly works well to guage his interest.
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:52
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Anonymous
He might be all flirt and no action, though, as I said. I guess that's safer. Is feeling someone's lust just as good as indulging in it?
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:56
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ThatSmileyFaceGuy
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Anonymous wrote:He might be all flirt and no action, though, as I said. I guess that's safer. Is feeling someone's lust just as good as indulging in it?


It can be, especially if you are unsure if you really want to take it to the next step. Just knowing that you are still sexually desireable to men other then DH, certainly as we get older, can often be enough to encourage you to be the woman that they see. The woman that they lust after.
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:56
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:He might be all flirt and no action, though, as I said. I guess that's safer. Is feeling someone's lust just as good as indulging in it?



I don't think it is but it helps. Do you have reason to believe he won't go through with it? BTW, I have had several relationships on the side during my almost 20 year marriage but DH and I have given each other permission.
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:59
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Anonymous
ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He might be all flirt and no action, though, as I said. I guess that's safer. Is feeling someone's lust just as good as indulging in it?


It can be, especially if you are unsure if you really want to take it to the next step. Just knowing that you are still sexually desireable to men other then DH, certainly as we get older, can often be enough to encourage you to be the woman that they see. The woman that they lust after.


You know, I would take it to the next step, but not if he's going to be wracked with guilt. I want him to want it as much as I do.
[Post New]09/19/2011 13:59
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Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:He might be all flirt and no action, though, as I said. I guess that's safer. Is feeling someone's lust just as good as indulging in it?



I don't think it is but it helps. Do you have reason to believe he won't go through with it? BTW, I have had several relationships on the side during my almost 20 year marriage but DH and I have given each other permission.


Yes, I do. He's been married over 12 years and told me he's never cheated.
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