Is there really any way to have another relationship without destroying the marriage?

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

I believe it is possible particularly if the other person is married. I'd do it in a heartbeat if it ws a guy that I knew had no intention of leaving his wife. Make sure that it is not an ugly man. An ugly man will become too attached to you. Unmarried guys--no way. They would become attached. I'm married but would love to give bj to this one guy that I know and flirt with occasionally. He would so appreciate it--my DH just acts like they're no big deal and NEVER reciprocates.

[Anonymous]

Two ways: Swinging or polyamory. Read Opening Up or The Ethical Slut- they're both books about ethical non-monogamy. Then decide if it might be for you. GL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...my DH just acts like they're no big deal and NEVER reciprocates.

As in your DH never goes down on you? Holy crap...

My DH says "Show me a man that doesn't eat pussy and I'll show you a neighbor that does".

[Anonymous]

As a woman who was just cheated on by her husband who slept with a married acquaintance of ours who came on to my husband, I think you are disgusting. I think my husband is disgusting too, don't worry, but the fact that you could think about this and not think about the feelings of the man's wife and the lives of his children is incredibly sad. How embarrassing and shameful that you even consider putting your petty needs and whims before the futures of innocent children. Please think before you act.

Of course. Think of the children. As if that is good advice.

[Anonymous]

I'm right there with you, though in my case it's not so clear my interest is reciprocated. I have come to the conclusion that no, it isn't possible. Since I want to keep my marriage, I'm stuck with my crush and nothing to do about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:...my DH just acts like they're no big deal and NEVER reciprocates.

As in your DH never goes down on you? Holy crap...

My DH says "Show me a man that doesn't eat pussy and I'll show you a neighbor that does".

OP here. Ironically, this is exactly the reason I'm interested in this other guy. My DH won't, never has. I didn't use to think it was a big deal, and now I'm not sure I can live the rest of my life without.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:...my DH just acts like they're no big deal and NEVER reciprocates.

As in your DH never goes down on you? Holy crap...

My DH says "Show me a man that doesn't eat pussy and I'll show you a neighbor that does".

OP here. Ironically, this is exactly the reason I'm interested in this other guy. My DH won't, never has. I didn't use to think it was a big deal, and now I'm not sure I can live the rest of my life without.

You are a complete moron and yes I am saying it- I feel terrible for your children and DH. You are going to ruin a marriage because of that?!?! Maybe you should have thought about your sexual needs before committing to marry someone. I hope your DH is screwing his hot co-worker and thats why you arent getting any of the goods. What a poor excuse you are for anything!

[Anonymous]

Love Erica Jong. Fear of Flying is one of my all-time faves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:...my DH just acts like they're no big deal and NEVER reciprocates.

As in your DH never goes down on you? Holy crap...

My DH says "Show me a man that doesn't eat pussy and I'll show you a neighbor that does".

OP here. Ironically, this is exactly the reason I'm interested in this other guy. My DH won't, never has. I didn't use to think it was a big deal, and now I'm not sure I can live the rest of my life without.

As a DH that NEVER gets the BJ.. yes you do learn to live without.. it's frustrating but survivable.

[Anonymous]

Yes. As long as no one finds out. I'm seeing a married man. I'm married too. Neither of us has children. Agree with the PP about single men getting attached.

[Anonymous]

I want to know how you can do this and not feel bad??? What is the point of being married? Get out of it and then do what you want! I have been cheated on by my husband and he cheated with someone I know very well. I feel that the two of them are the most SELFISH people on the face of the earth. It has put me in a very bad place...

[Anonymous]

I don't feel bad at all. It's more convenient for me this way. I'm saving up to move out on my own. My husband has verbally abused me, and recently started physically abusing me. I could care less if he gets hurt.

[Anonymous]

I don't feel bad at all. It's more convenient for me this way. I'm saving up to move out on my own. My husband has verbally abused me, and recently started physically abusing me. I could care less if he gets hurt.

[Anonymous]

I don't feel bad at all. It's more convenient for me this way. I'm saving up to move out on my own. My husband has verbally abused me, and recently started physically abusing me. I could care less if he gets hurt.