Is there really any way to have another relationship without destroying the marriage?

[Anonymous]

sorry for the multiple posts.

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OP here. Ironically, this is exactly the reason I'm interested in this other guy. My DH won't, never has. I didn't use to think it was a big deal, and now I'm not sure I can live the rest of my life without.

Honey, all you really need is a good vibrator. I'm a big fan of the Form 6 by JimmyJane, not that crazy rabbit thing people are always going on about here. You can take care of whatever sensation you need with the right vibrator. Much easier than blowing up a marriage.

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As a woman who was just cheated on by her husband who slept with a married acquaintance of ours who came on to my husband, I think you are disgusting. I think my husband is disgusting too, don't worry, but the fact that you could think about this and not think about the feelings of the man's wife and the lives of his children is incredibly sad. How embarrassing and shameful that you even consider putting your petty needs and whims before the futures of innocent children. Please think before you act.

Of course. Think of the children. As if that is good advice.

Why isn't it good advice? Are you really so selfish?

[Anonymous]

Some of you are admirably able to control your own emotions. So you've never been attracted to someone else? Not once had a daydream you wouldn't want projected for all to see? Good for you. I know that I can control my actions, and I don't like the temptation, but I can't control being a little too interested in a guy. I am not OP, I just think her situation is more common than everyone is willing to admit.

[Anonymous]

Of course I've been attracted to someone else and have had fantasies. I think probably most if not all married people do. Great. That's not at all what OP is asking. She is asking for permission to cheat on her husband and sleep with someone else's husband. These actions for this Insignificant crush could cause children to be raised in a divorced home for the rest of their lives. Having crushes? Fine. Totally normal. Asking for an excuse to be disgustingly selfish? Not ok. Not normal.

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Anonymous wrote:...my DH just acts like they're no big deal and NEVER reciprocates.

As in your DH never goes down on you? Holy crap...

My DH says "Show me a man that doesn't eat pussy and I'll show you a neighbor that does".

OP here. Ironically, this is exactly the reason I'm interested in this other guy. My DH won't, never has. I didn't use to think it was a big deal, and now I'm not sure I can live the rest of my life without.

You are a complete moron and yes I am saying it- I feel terrible for your children and DH. You are going to ruin a marriage because of that?!?! Maybe you should have thought about your sexual needs before committing to marry someone. I hope your DH is screwing his hot co-worker and thats why you arent getting any of the goods. What a poor excuse you are for anything!

She's saying she's not sexually fulfilled in her marriage. Who cares why, its a legitimate beef. Calm down.

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Anonymous wrote:...my DH just acts like they're no big deal and NEVER reciprocates.

As in your DH never goes down on you? Holy crap...

My DH says "Show me a man that doesn't eat pussy and I'll show you a neighbor that does".

OP here. Ironically, this is exactly the reason I'm interested in this other guy. My DH won't, never has. I didn't use to think it was a big deal, and now I'm not sure I can live the rest of my life without.

You are a complete moron and yes I am saying it- I feel terrible for your children and DH. You are going to ruin a marriage because of that?!?! Maybe you should have thought about your sexual needs before committing to marry someone. I hope your DH is screwing his hot co-worker and thats why you arent getting any of the goods. What a poor excuse you are for anything!

She's saying she's not sexually fulfilled in her marriage. Who cares why, its a legitimate beef. Calm down.

But when a man isn't sexually fulfilled, it's obviously something he did, and he just needs to do more work around the house and go bake DW a pie.

[Anonymous]

16:23..THANK YOU. I hate the double standard on this board. Woman isn't fulfilled...it's ok to cheat. Man isn't fulfilled....well you need to do more around the house etc etc.

[Anonymous]

OP I did this. I love my DH. But he was not fulfilling me. The fling really put the fire back in my pants, and ended up helping my marital sex life. But make sure the guy is someone you can trust to be discreet.

[Anonymous]

OP here thanks. The object of my affection is having cold feet, so I think it's a non-issue anyway.

[Anonymous]

I SOOOOOO agree with the last post! People can be so selfish sometimes! Just to satisfy their needs, they put so many lives in misery! My husband cheated on me with someone that claimed to be my good friend. YES, he has issues for sure, but SHE....she knew how my family life was, and still did not care...she kept doing it...they are both at fault! Think before you act...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here thanks. The object of my affection is having cold feet, so I think it's a non-issue anyway.

Too bad he is backing out on you.

[Anonymous]

Never say never people. The people on this thread are absolutely Victorian in their attitudes. No one is suggesting you blow up your marriage. And for goodness sakes the guy who is not getting BJ's please don't go off with a prostitute if you feel it becomes unbearable. There just is or has to be a possibility that somewhere out there is this zipless f*ck. It does exist. You just have to find a like minded person.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here thanks. The object of my affection is having cold feet, so I think it's a non-issue anyway.

Too bad he is backing out on you.

We haven't even started....it is a shame in a way, because his eyes just drive me wild and I am so curious about how he'd be in bed. Better not to play with fire, I suppose.

[Anonymous]

Bummer. Maybe he's playing hard to get?