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Anonymous wrote:Women do make the first move, it's just not the actual "would you go to dinner with me?" question. We are throwing a thousand "moves" your way that you absolutely pick up on and that is what enables you to ask us out. Society trains us (both men and women) to play this game. I personally like it. It's fun as hell. If it stresses you out, then maybe you need to build your confidence.

YES! I've made the first move many many times.

Subtle moves like touching the arm or asking out?

Of the three men I ended up in longer relationships with:

1) Asked out. 2) Confessed feelings. 3) Pulled out a condom and jumped the guy.

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Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I advise all women who care to listen to let the man make the first move. Always. If he doesn’t then move on. I want to be with a man who has confidence, knows what he wants, and goes after it. That’s it. If he is too timid/scared/nervous to approach me then obviously we aren’t a good fit. The beginnings of a relationship really do matter.

Why does it make a man weak if he doesn't do that doesn't mean he won't be able to protect you? I never understood that goddamn logic why going after what you want is part of masculinity

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Anonymous wrote:Women do make the first move, it's just not the actual "would you go to dinner with me?" question. We are throwing a thousand "moves" your way that you absolutely pick up on and that is what enables you to ask us out. Society trains us (both men and women) to play this game. I personally like it. It's fun as hell. If it stresses you out, then maybe you need to build your confidence.

YES! I've made the first move many many times.

Subtle moves like touching the arm or asking out?

Of the three men I ended up in longer relationships with:

1) Asked out. 2) Confessed feelings. 3) Pulled out a condom and jumped the guy.

So relationships can last long or be successful in which the woman is the initiator

Anonymous wrote:If women are so independent and self sufficient these days why are men still the ones expected to make the first move? If a woman likes a guy what's preventing her asking him out? If she wants to be his wife what's preventing her from asking him to marry her?

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Anonymous wrote:Women do make the first move, it's just not the actual "would you go to dinner with me?" question. We are throwing a thousand "moves" your way that you absolutely pick up on and that is what enables you to ask us out. Society trains us (both men and women) to play this game. I personally like it. It's fun as hell. If it stresses you out, then maybe you need to build your confidence.

YES! I've made the first move many many times.

Subtle moves like touching the arm or asking out?

Of the three men I ended up in longer relationships with:

1) Asked out. 2) Confessed feelings. 3) Pulled out a condom and jumped the guy.

So relationships can last long or be successful in which the woman is the initiator

Sure. If you don't mind initiating and planning every single thing for the rest of the relationship because he's passive and risk-averse and wants you to do it for him.

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Anonymous wrote:Women do make the first move, it's just not the actual "would you go to dinner with me?" question. We are throwing a thousand "moves" your way that you absolutely pick up on and that is what enables you to ask us out. Society trains us (both men and women) to play this game. I personally like it. It's fun as hell. If it stresses you out, then maybe you need to build your confidence.

YES! I've made the first move many many times.

Subtle moves like touching the arm or asking out?

Of the three men I ended up in longer relationships with:

1) Asked out. 2) Confessed feelings. 3) Pulled out a condom and jumped the guy.

So relationships can last long or be successful in which the woman is the initiator

Sure. If you don't mind initiating and planning every single thing for the rest of the relationship because he's passive and risk-averse and wants you to do it for him.

When you have the guts to make the first move you also have the guts to speak up and ask your man to plan things, and if he doesn’t, you also have the guts to walk away and find something better.

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Anonymous wrote:Women do make the first move, it's just not the actual "would you go to dinner with me?" question. We are throwing a thousand "moves" your way that you absolutely pick up on and that is what enables you to ask us out. Society trains us (both men and women) to play this game. I personally like it. It's fun as hell. If it stresses you out, then maybe you need to build your confidence.

YES! I've made the first move many many times.

Subtle moves like touching the arm or asking out?

Of the three men I ended up in longer relationships with:

1) Asked out. 2) Confessed feelings. 3) Pulled out a condom and jumped the guy.

So relationships can last long or be successful in which the woman is the initiator

Sure. If you don't mind initiating and planning every single thing for the rest of the relationship because he's passive and risk-averse and wants you to do it for him.

When you have the guts to make the first move you also have the guts to speak up and ask your man to plan things, and if he doesn’t, you also have the guts to walk away and find something better.

ZachF wrote:It's the way it is and I'm fine with it. Women have no game at all. I've been on Bumble for a few years where they have to make the first move. 19 times out of 20, the first message is, "hi." Or maybe two words and I have plenty of things in my profile she could ask about or comment on. But women are lazy when it comes to this. Because they've always been approached and never had to take a risk of rejection. It's better how it is. How it's always been. I'm pretty aggressive about approaching a woman I'm interested in so it doesn't bother me.

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Anonymous wrote:Women do make the first move, it's just not the actual "would you go to dinner with me?" question. We are throwing a thousand "moves" your way that you absolutely pick up on and that is what enables you to ask us out. Society trains us (both men and women) to play this game. I personally like it. It's fun as hell. If it stresses you out, then maybe you need to build your confidence.

YES! I've made the first move many many times.

Subtle moves like touching the arm or asking out?

Of the three men I ended up in longer relationships with:

1) Asked out. 2) Confessed feelings. 3) Pulled out a condom and jumped the guy.

So relationships can last long or be successful in which the woman is the initiator

Anonymous wrote:If women are so independent and self sufficient these days why are men still the ones expected to make the first move? If a woman likes a guy what's preventing her asking him out? If she wants to be his wife what's preventing her from asking him to marry her?