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close friend's mom died suddenly- won't say why?
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| My close friend's mom died suddenly- it was shocking, to say the least. She was young, in great health, and seemed totally under the radar. Really obsessed with eating healthy, was a nurse, seemed like a great person. The services are going to be private and family only, and my friend will not tell anyone how she died. I can't stop obsessing over what might have happened. Is there any chance it WASNT a suicide? That is the only thing I can think of as to the secrecy, etc. Of course I am there for my friend 100%, but I can't stop internally worrying about what might have happened. I don't even know why the idea of HOW she died is bothering me so much, but it really is. I can find absolutely nothing on google. No obituary and it's been a week. Any other way to find out? |
Anonymous
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Suicide was my first thought too. Perhaps related to a genetic mental illness, meaning your friend doesn't want folks wondering if she has it too.
That, or overdose. If the mom was driving drunk, your friend could just say "car accident". |
Anonymous
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Since she was a nurse maybe it was a drug overdose as the PP suggested... Easy access to drugs...
Suicide also crossed my mind. |
Anonymous
| Where did she die. There will be a death certificate. Should be a publicly filed document. |
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| My opinion - I think you need to leave it be and help your friend grieve for her mother. If and when she's ready for you to find out, you will. |
Anonymous
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00:01 not every nurse has "easy access to drugs".
open up your mind, lady! |
Anonymous
| I agree with pp - let it go. Your curiosity is completely understandable, but I recommend just focusing on being a shoulder for your friend to lean on. She'll let you know if and when she is ready to share. |
Anonymous
| in Pennsylvania. Can you just search for the death certif online? |
Anonymous
| Oops - I meant "offering a shoulder," not "being" a shoulder. |
Anonymous
Actually, in many states death certificate are available only to immediate heirs. They are only unsealed to the public or genealogical researchers after a period of years, usually between 75 and 100. |
Anonymous
| If your friend is unequivocally refusing to tell, I say definitely suicide. If she is just not talking about it right now, it may be any number of things that are just too painful for her to deal with right now (a terrible accident, a freak illness, etc.). |
Anonymous
Not 00:01 but just laughing at the tiny things people will get up in as about. It's a fact that healthcare providers, including nurses, often have easier access to medication than the general public. This is not an offensive or closed-minded statement. If by chance you are a nurse with easy access to drugs, I recommend taking a CHILL PILL. |
Anonymous
this. and ultimately, it doesn't matter. |
Anonymous
| OP, I wonder why that information is so important to you? Is it somehow something about your own mortality? I think things are being triggered for you that have nothing to do with being a good friend. She is dead is pretty much all you NEED to know. |
Anonymous
I'm a nurse, doing night shift and the drugs I have access to right now are Infant Ibuprofen and Zantac. It is an offensive statement. I just can't stand this kind of generalization. |