Your problem is your husband. He does not seem to value mental health or his daughter’s order of priorities. All of his preferred schools are pressure cookers. You may need to engage a family therapist. |
Please meet with the school ASAP before you make a decision. They can help! |
This!! |
I would give it until after the first year. My DS had a completely diff year of friends from one year to the next and changed the whole experience. |
Grind to me suggests that anyone who puts in the time and effort can do ok. I think math (and maybe physics), this is just not true. There are math concepts that I (as a PhD from MIT in a physical science) am never going to be able to get. But some undergrad is going to be able to figure out. There is a type of brain that is needed, and you either have it or you dont. |
I would take out the Parent Plus loans for my child and have them work for their contribution. DH could suck it. |
Why would you even mention her first school on a resume? I only mention the school that I graduated from. |
My reasons for transferring were strictly financial, not sure why you think I am speaking of my situation??! I spent a lot of time in special gatherings for transfer students. Oh wait, sorry forgot I’m on DCUM and you’re the know-it-all poster. Carry on! |
Get a private college consultant to help facilitate a discussion with everyone on what they think real options are and how to approach.
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Not true. There is a wide gamut of math, especially if you include applied math which is close to physics and engineering and computer science. There is more accessible math and there is more arcane abstract math. Of course different people have different interests, but the whole field of math isn't out there on its own. At Ivies, there are students who, in their first year, do the same level of advanced abstract math as other students who are seniors at the same school. |
Except for the half of people (more at Ivies) who don't join frats. |
Update!
After much talk this is our updated list: UMich UCLA UCSB(computer science) University of Illinois(engineering) UCBerkley Utexas Ohio State(engineering) Wisconsin NC State(engineering) MSU(engineering) UMD(engineering) I think her top choice is Texas but we know that is super hard out of state. We got her father to expand the list by doing certain majors for some schools |
OP, thanks for updating. Would be great to hear final decision.
Looks like your child really wants some sun. |
Very glad to hear there was some compromise and negotiation! That is looking much more reasonable. |