Is it normal to have baby in room after delivery now?

Forum Index » Expectant and Postpartum Moms
[Post New]04/19/2010 00:00
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I find posts like this very annoying. I can't imagine finally having my baby and then just focusing on how I needed to catch up on my rest. When I had my DD, I couldn't stand to have her out of my sight for a second. I had a c-section. My husband changed all diapers. That first month is so important for bonding and (if you're BFing, establishing BFing); I wouldn't want anyone else soothing my baby but me.

I know I'll get flamed for this post, but really....


I agree with you 100 percent. I didn't have a c-section but I did have a long labor and was up for over 76 hours by the time baby came. I dozed while holding him and breastfeeding him (DH watched us for safety). I carried my baby with me for 9 months. Why would I accept separation when it's most important to be together?


It sounds like both of you might have only one child. I am in the same boat but am pregnant now and I can assure you that being able to be awake when I see my first child again will be important to me.
[Post New]04/19/2010 04:31
cmkeough
Member Location: Arlington, VA
Offline

We did exactly this at Sibley, and it was awesome. I felt like we were able to get the right mix of bonding and rest. I found the Sibley nurses were really accomodating -- they brought DD to me to nurse when she was hungry at night and were happy to take her to the nursery when I called so I could get some sleep. During the day, I had her with me so we could all bond and hang out together. But when I was ready to sleep . . . bye bye!

Oh, and the nurses changed every single diaper while we were there. Loved it!



You lucky, lucky woman! WTH, when I delivered at Sibley in Feb 08 (due to deliver in a few weeks there again) I literally had to beg the nurses to take DD my last night, by wheeling her to them. I didn't get any sleep while I was there in the two days (probably about 6 hours combined, seriously) and DH didn't stay the night with me either. When the nurses did take DD they brought her back within an hour and a half. I was a mess - thankfully DD pediatrician saw how sleep deprived I was and that DD wasn't thriving as I wasn't producing enough milk since I wasn't sleeping/eating or drinking and yelled at DH.

Will make sure that I get my rest this time around.
CK
[Post New]04/19/2010 09:29
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I find posts like this very annoying. I can't imagine finally having my baby and then just focusing on how I needed to catch up on my rest. When I had my DD, I couldn't stand to have her out of my sight for a second. I had a c-section. My husband changed all diapers. That first month is so important for bonding and (if you're BFing, establishing BFing); I wouldn't want anyone else soothing my baby but me.

I know I'll get flamed for this post, but really....


I find judgmental self-righteous bitches like you annoying. 'kay?

Repeat after me: people handle labor and deliver differently. People have different comfort levels and tolerances. The baby will be FINE. And it is really none of your business.
Recite to yourself as needed.


I agree with you, 16:28, and I couldn't imagine sending my newborn off to a nursery or out-sourcing the diaper-changes to the staff, but I also had an un-medicated and problem-free delivery, and I can see how more complicated circumstances, like a c-section, could make a mama need to rest right after. Threads like this one remind me why I'm so happy I delivered at a birth center...

[Post New]04/19/2010 09:38
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I find posts like this very annoying. I can't imagine finally having my baby and then just focusing on how I needed to catch up on my rest. When I had my DD, I couldn't stand to have her out of my sight for a second. I had a c-section. My husband changed all diapers. That first month is so important for bonding and (if you're BFing, establishing BFing); I wouldn't want anyone else soothing my baby but me.

I know I'll get flamed for this post, but really....


I agree with you 100 percent. I didn't have a c-section but I did have a long labor and was up for over 76 hours by the time baby came. I dozed while holding him and breastfeeding him (DH watched us for safety). I carried my baby with me for 9 months. Why would I accept separation when it's most important to be together?


I guess you just love your baby more than the rest of us.
[Post New]04/19/2010 10:21
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I find posts like this very annoying. I can't imagine finally having my baby and then just focusing on how I needed to catch up on my rest. When I had my DD, I couldn't stand to have her out of my sight for a second. I had a c-section. My husband changed all diapers. That first month is so important for bonding and (if you're BFing, establishing BFing); I wouldn't want anyone else soothing my baby but me.

I know I'll get flamed for this post, but really....


I agree with you 100 percent. I didn't have a c-section but I did have a long labor and was up for over 76 hours by the time baby came. I dozed while holding him and breastfeeding him (DH watched us for safety). I carried my baby with me for 9 months. Why would I accept separation when it's most important to be together?


There are many reasons to send a baby to the nursery. We all have different experiences of labor and delivery, and different levels of support available. You say yourself that one reason you could keep the baby was because you had a spouse there to ensure the baby's safety, but you don't acknowledge that the presence of your spouse is in itself a benefit that other women might not have.

Personally, I see the nursery as just one means of providing support for new mothers, and think it's ridiculous to give new Moms a hard time for accepting this help. No one would think twice about a new mother letting a the new father or grandparents take care of the baby for a few hours while she got some rest - why would you begrudge her getting that support from the nurses?
[Post New]04/19/2010 10:30
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP, yes it does seem to be the norm. In fact, I had one of my babies in the UK and they don't let you leave the baby at all - no nurseries to speak of! Actually, you can go to the bathroom but you have to activate an alarm thing to make sure no-one steals your baby while you're gone for a couple of minutes!

But here at Sibley, my OB virtually ordered me to put my other baby in the nursery for the first day to try and recover. Unfortunately, my baby was kicked out of nursery for being too noisy!!

Anyway, good luck & do what you gotta do!!


I had my first at Sibley, my second in the UK (agree with this poster's experience) and will be having my third back here in the states. By the way, I find it really funny that your kid was kicked out of the nursery for being too noisy! LOL!
[Post New]04/19/2010 11:10
Anonymous
what you PPs forgot is that OP doesn't even know how her experience will be and she already sounds "disturbed" by the fact that "seems like" she'll have to stay with her baby after delivery. oh how terrible huh?
[Post New]04/19/2010 11:14
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:what you PPs forgot is that OP doesn't even know how her experience will be and she already sounds "disturbed" by the fact that "seems like" she'll have to stay with her baby after delivery. oh how terrible huh?


Where does she say she's disturbed by the idea? Or are you just reading that into her words in order to vilify her?
[Post New]04/19/2010 12:38
Anonymous
I have no plans to send my baby to the nursery, but I kinda think it wouldn't be there if it didn't serve a useful purpose. To each his own.
[Post New]04/19/2010 13:07
Anonymous
Thanks to all for the helpful info. This is something I wondered about as well. For those without helpful info and just negativity toward other moms - no thank you. One of the things that scares me most about motherhood is the incessant judging from other moms, as exhibited on this board and elsewhere.
[Post New]04/19/2010 13:31
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I find posts like this very annoying. I can't imagine finally having my baby and then just focusing on how I needed to catch up on my rest. When I had my DD, I couldn't stand to have her out of my sight for a second. I had a c-section. My husband changed all diapers. That first month is so important for bonding and (if you're BFing, establishing BFing); I wouldn't want anyone else soothing my baby but me.

I know I'll get flamed for this post, but really....


I agree with you 100 percent. I didn't have a c-section but I did have a long labor and was up for over 76 hours by the time baby came. I dozed while holding him and breastfeeding him (DH watched us for safety). I carried my baby with me for 9 months. Why would I accept separation when it's most important to be together?


Oh, how cute!!! Two perfect moms in the same place! And they can't stop patting themselves on the back while looking down on all the women who are just horrible mothers...It's tough to be perfect, ladies! But at least we have these two shining examples to condemn us. I am sure they will be great fun at the soccer field in a couple of years.
[Post New]04/19/2010 17:01
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OMG why are you having this baby anyway????



OP here--You make me laugh and laugh. I am having this baby for all the years of joy (and tribulation, trial and error and everything else) which involve welcoming and raising a new little life and which will follow the first three days in hospital. I got a horrific infection a week after my first (in another part of my body) and would personally like to use the 2-3 days of hospital rest to actually rest. I think baby will survive somehow the time in a nursery. You go ahead and do it your way but I am a loving mom AND realist who doesn't try to be super-woman. I am seriously reconsidering this hospital as it sounds like they have no nursery/relief option unless your baby is in distress.
[Post New]04/19/2010 18:19
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OMG why are you having this baby anyway????



OP here--You make me laugh and laugh. I am having this baby for all the years of joy (and tribulation, trial and error and everything else) which involve welcoming and raising a new little life and which will follow the first three days in hospital. I got a horrific infection a week after my first (in another part of my body) and would personally like to use the 2-3 days of hospital rest to actually rest. I think baby will survive somehow the time in a nursery. You go ahead and do it your way but I am a loving mom AND realist who doesn't try to be super-woman. I am seriously reconsidering this hospital as it sounds like they have no nursery/relief option unless your baby is in distress.


Which hospital? Maybe some of us can share our personal experience at your specific hospital.
[Post New]04/19/2010 20:32
Anonymous
When I had my baby I wanted to spend the whole day/night with her, just looking, caressing, etc. It was a dream coming true to me (to finally have my baby). That said, the last weeks of my pregnancy I wasn't able to sleep well (insomnia and peeing all the time) and when my water broke at 4am, I hadn't sleep at all (was watching tv with DH).

So, I held up well the first night with my baby in my room, but on the second day I was soooo tired... specially because she had been cluster feeding. By 2am I phoned the nurse and asked her if she could take the baby to the nursery for 3 hours so I could have some sleep. The baby went but only stayed for 2 hours because she had a no formula/paci instruction and they had to bring her back to me to eat.

By day 5, already at home, I remember thinking what I had got myself into and I had a horrible nightmare in which my OB told me I was still pregnant and would have a second baby in 10 days - I still remember the panic I felt! All result of sleep deprivation.

I still wouldn't change the fact that I kept my baby with me 95% of the time in the hospital but sure it was nice to catch a little break before heading home.
[Post New]04/19/2010 22:56
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I find posts like this very annoying. I can't imagine finally having my baby and then just focusing on how I needed to catch up on my rest. When I had my DD, I couldn't stand to have her out of my sight for a second. I had a c-section. My husband changed all diapers. That first month is so important for bonding and (if you're BFing, establishing BFing); I wouldn't want anyone else soothing my baby but me.

I know I'll get flamed for this post, but really....


I agree with you 100 percent. I didn't have a c-section but I did have a long labor and was up for over 76 hours by the time baby came. I dozed while holding him and breastfeeding him (DH watched us for safety). I carried my baby with me for 9 months. Why would I accept separation when it's most important to be together?


Oh, how cute!!! Two perfect moms in the same place! And they can't stop patting themselves on the back while looking down on all the women who are just horrible mothers...It's tough to be perfect, ladies! But at least we have these two shining examples to condemn us. I am sure they will be great fun at the soccer field in a couple of years.


Not necessarily patting myself on the back so much as i'm questioning why others feel less attached to their babies, or aren't so excited to have the babies in their arms at last that they want to spend time bonding. That initial time period is so very important! And yes, I do want to be awake when I go back home to my first child after I deliver, and I can do so. Lack of sleep for a week or so does not kill you. My first kept us up nearly constantly for 10 days.

I do think it's a luxury that I have a husband who helped me, but something tells me OP is not a single mom without any help. I agree with a PP, she just sounded really annoyed to have to look after her own baby. Yuck.
Forum Index » Expectant and Postpartum Moms
Go to: 

Search   Recent Topics   Hottest Topics