Is it normal to have baby in room after delivery now?

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Anonymous wrote:I find posts like this very annoying. I can't imagine finally having my baby and then just focusing on how I needed to catch up on my rest. When I had my DD, I couldn't stand to have her out of my sight for a second. I had a c-section. My husband changed all diapers. That first month is so important for bonding and (if you're BFing, establishing BFing); I wouldn't want anyone else soothing my baby but me.

I know I'll get flamed for this post, but really....

I find judgmental self-righteous bitches like you annoying. 'kay?

Repeat after me: people handle labor and deliver differently. People have different comfort levels and tolerances. The baby will be FINE. And it is really none of your business.
Recite to yourself as needed.

Agree 100%

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What is wrong with people? There is nothing wrong with putting your baby in the nursery while you rest and recover...and this is coming from someone who put her baby in the nursery to get some sleep ...and I EBF until 6 months when I added solids, and DS is still BF at 13 months so it did not seem to interfere with milk production.

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why do some people have children at all?

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Anonymous wrote:why do some people have children at all?

Why do some people post for the sole purpose of stirring the pot?

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I didn't put my baby in the nursery at all, but would never judge someone else who did. Everyone has a different experience of birth and different needs. Until you've walked a mile in someone else's shoes . . .

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With other kids at home, I was grateful to have my baby in the nursery at night and brought to my room at 6:00 am. I even let them give formula so I could sleep.

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I thought I had to be the big hero and kept the baby in my room the first night after a long labor. I was so tired the next day... I don't even have words for it. It was practically all I could think about. So second night I sent the baby to the nursery. I was still up every two hours or so to nurse, but even those two hour stretches were bliss.

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My first was a preemie and stayed in the NICU - we were absolutely sick with worry. That early and necessary separation was traumatic for DC1 and myself, even though we did manage to breastfeed. I am now expecting a healthy full-term number 2 (fingers crossed), and obviously want to spend as much time with the baby as possible right from birth - will I be happy yet exhausted? Or just exhausted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find posts like this very annoying. I can't imagine finally having my baby and then just focusing on how I needed to catch up on my rest. When I had my DD, I couldn't stand to have her out of my sight for a second. I had a c-section. My husband changed all diapers. That first month is so important for bonding and (if you're BFing, establishing BFing); I wouldn't want anyone else soothing my baby but me.

I know I'll get flamed for this post, but really....

Why do you find this annoying? Why are you so offended by other people's choices?

Live and let live, honey.

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I had preeclampsia and was exhausted from that, the drugs for that, and my labor. The baby went to nursery for some stretches and then was with me for some. The one note of caution I would give is that I instructed the nurses that we would be feeding on demand and he should be brought to me or my husband sent for whenever he needed to eat. I found out after the first night that they had him more on a schedule. Now maybe that schedule meant he never wanted to eat and was denied but I was upset. Just be very clear when you want the baby sent to you and have a family member check up on the process. We found out about the schedule by looking at his chart.

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I sent baby to nursery at night because I couldn't sleep out of fear that someone would take him when I fell asleep, totally exhausted, into such a deep sleep that I wouldn't wake up if someone came in. Irrational fear, sure, but I couldn't sleep feeling like someone could get past me and take him.

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Awwww. Your poor babies! Do they bring them to you when they cry? Who/what soothes them in the nursery? I just feel for the babies who cry and aren't tended to...

The nurses where I delivered waited too long to bring DD to me the first night and she was HYSTERICAL by the time I got her. It took a really long time to calm her down and we never sent her back to the nursery.

[Anonymous]

OP, yes it does seem to be the norm. In fact, I had one of my babies in the UK and they don't let you leave the baby at all - no nurseries to speak of! Actually, you can go to the bathroom but you have to activate an alarm thing to make sure no-one steals your baby while you're gone for a couple of minutes!

But here at Sibley, my OB virtually ordered me to put my other baby in the nursery for the first day to try and recover. Unfortunately, my baby was kicked out of nursery for being too noisy!!

Anyway, good luck & do what you gotta do!!

[Anonymous]

I didn't use the nursery the second time around but probably should have at one point. I kept falling asleep while sitting in the bed and holding her. It is usually difficult for me to fall asleep and was very strange to just drift off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find posts like this very annoying. I can't imagine finally having my baby and then just focusing on how I needed to catch up on my rest. When I had my DD, I couldn't stand to have her out of my sight for a second. I had a c-section. My husband changed all diapers. That first month is so important for bonding and (if you're BFing, establishing BFing); I wouldn't want anyone else soothing my baby but me.

I know I'll get flamed for this post, but really....

I agree with you 100 percent. I didn't have a c-section but I did have a long labor and was up for over 76 hours by the time baby came. I dozed while holding him and breastfeeding him (DH watched us for safety). I carried my baby with me for 9 months. Why would I accept separation when it's most important to be together?