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Anonymous wrote:Did you miss the first part of the OP's sentence?
And "stay in the crosswalk" actually is one of the safety rules we're supposed to be teaching our children.
http://www.montgomerycountymd.gov/dot-pedsafety/blairwalkproject.html
I do teach them to stay in the CW, but I tell them to keep looking for cars as they are crossing in the cross walk. my SIL has explicitly said to her kids, "you cant get hurt by a car if you stay in the CW"
Anonymous wrote:maril332 wrote:I don't think that OP blames the victim or any future possible victims. I do think that the OP is saying that pedestrians should be aware of surroundings. Probably not in Xavier's case (as he had no warning) but just that kids should be looking out for driver's who are not following the rules.
The OP said, "I in no way think that the driver is not to blame but I do think that we are sometimes to lax in teaching out kids safety rules."
Guess what you're doing when you say, "I'm not blaming the victim, but..."? That's right -- you're blaming the victim.
That is not victim blaming. That is pretty much a fact. I will admit that I have told my kids "stay in the cross walk" as if to imply that it is a safe zone. Reality is that it just isn't.
I don't think that OP blames the victim or any future possible victims. I do think that the OP is saying that pedestrians should be aware of surroundings. Probably not in Xavier's case (as he had no warning) but just that kids should be looking out for driver's who are not following the rules.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine is people who purposely act like they are clueless, mostly women, why do they do this!
Because it works!
In making people think you're dumb? I don't get it. This goes along with women who hold their handbags on their elbow with their wrist turned up. I fantasize about slapping every single one of them in the face. Or, you know, just stealing their purse because they're asking for it.
You have issues. Why would the way someone holds their bag matter to you? I think that leaving a purse in a cart (or anywhere unattended) is "asking for it" but are you serious?
Once my kids grow up past about age 2, I get what my friends call "baby fever" and I want another. We currently have 5 kids. Youngest is almost 2 (19 mos). Not sure if I want another one right now or not. How did you decide to have more? Is it that you wanted another infant or what? I have been working around a lot of infants lately and I guess that could be clouding my mind. I was thinking earlier, we are stable enough and it would not be a strain on the household etc. Should we go ahead and try for a 6th?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
This looks terrible. Is this actually in your house?
Yes, in our kids playroom. It's very practical and kids like it. Doesn't make any difference to me if you think it looks terrible or not. There are probably things in your house that I think look terrible, but who cares about what I think about your stuff?
You are correct. I am sorry. My post sounded (and is!) terrible and insensitive. It is good to recycle!
This post wins post of the year. I have never seen someone on DCUM admit they were being insensitive. You win dinner at Ruth's Chris on NYE.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
This looks terrible. Is this actually in your house?
Yes, in our kids playroom. It's very practical and kids like it. Doesn't make any difference to me if you think it looks terrible or not. There are probably things in your house that I think look terrible, but who cares about what I think about your stuff?
+1
What every works for you! I love Pinterest. but if I made that crib desk thing it would tweak it a bit... I'd have to take off the sides of the crib, so it looks less like a crib. But that is an activity that will have to wait till we shut down the baby factory
Anonymous wrote:maril332 wrote:I think you might have PPD. Not to throw that around, but because the feeling of being overwhelmed and constantly missing your baby. I understand that feeling. It is like an actual pain in your heart. When I felt that way, it was like no matter what I was doing I always wanted to cry underneath it all.
Talk to your doctor, see if there is anything you can take for it (that you would be willing to take) and remember its not forever that you will feel this way.
Good luck!
Thank you! I think you're right that I have a touch of PPD. But I think the pain in the heart for being separated from my baby is not something I want to medicate away -- that seems right and natural to me. (It's the feeling overwhelmed by everything else that I wish would go away...but I don't know if that's irrational, either!) I do plan to call a good doc who specializes in PPD, but I've had major clinical depression before, and it doesn't feel like that. When I was deeply depressed, I took pleasure in literally nothing. Everything felt awful. Now, I can take pleasure in my son and in my wonderful husband. In the few hours I have with the baby at night, I can mostly shut off the dread and feel joy. But once he goes to sleep, it all comes crashing down again ... who's going to take care of him all day? How am I going to keep up with everything?
That is exactly the feeling I am talking about. You don't have to medicate the feeling away, but being in a constant overwhelmed and depressed state isn't good either. It is natural to feel a little sad when you leave your little bundle of awesome but if you just feel like non functional because of the sadness that is severe PPD.
Do you have different caregivers or is it just one person? Bc you mentioned "who will be caring for him".
Do you have any sick or vacation days you can use now? Can you telecommute a few days a week? Go to your Dr. get things checked out and spend time at home with your baby. Again, hugs, and I hope you can get a little relief this weekend and you can spend time with your baby.
I think you might have PPD. Not to throw that around, but because the feeling of being overwhelmed and constantly missing your baby. I understand that feeling. It is like an actual pain in your heart. When I felt that way, it was like no matter what I was doing I always wanted to cry underneath it all.
Talk to your doctor, see if there is anything you can take for it (that you would be willing to take) and remember its not forever that you will feel this way.
Good luck!
Talk to your doctor, see if there is anything you can take for it (that you would be willing to take) and remember its not forever that you will feel this way.
Good luck!
Anonymous wrote:Magic Mike
+100
Anonymous wrote:Huh?
What about the OP was difficult to understand????
Oook. You need to take a step back, release your anger.
You shouldn't be putting this much time, energy and anger into an online forum.
You shouldn't be putting this much time, energy and anger into an online forum.
Like if you say nothing and just let people notice from the fact that you are getting a giant abdomen?
This is for the repast. baby will not be going to the church and cemetery service. The sitter has to leave so she will drop off DC at the repast on her way home. Just trying to figure out what to dress her in.
Anonymous wrote:Oh my God I read this wrong. I am SO glad this thread isn't what I thought it was going to be.
I just re read the topic. I see what you mean. Should have said "what should a baby wear to a funeral"
eh, still weird.