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Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If truly the only accommodation he needs is the ability to hand in assignments late when he misses class for a doctor's appointment, I don't think he needs accommodations at all. First, how often is he missing school for doctors appointments? Second, it's been my experience that if he communicates with his teachers ahead of time (which he would need to do even with an accommodation) and tells them that he has a doctor's appointment on Monday so can he hand in the assignment on Tuesday, 99% will say yes.
The above has definitely not been our experience - many old school teachers would refuse to extend the assignment. Their attitude would be - you knew you had this appointment and it's your job to plan around it, and/or you should have asked a friend what the assignment was and completed it.
Many kids with anxiety have therapy appointments at least once a week. These appointments are extremely difficult to get after school so many have to go during school. By the time you add in driving back and forth, the appointment block can be 3 hours. Then there is the fact that therapy sometimes leaves one emotional exhausted and still thinking about what was discussed in therapy - not great for your ability to focus. And, some kids will have periods of worsening when they do therapy more than 1x a week.
Would you insist that a kid leaving school after lunch one day a week for kidney dialysis not have an accommodation?
The point is getting the accommodation plan for the kid with a kidney disorder. Parents need to advocate for their kid. As for a child who is asking for extended time for the homework due date every week because go weekly therapy that is obviously not sustainable and I would hope that the parent reaches out to the therapist lets them know what's going on, and also strategies on how to help their child get the work done. In high school, college, or most jobs you can't get accommodations because of attending therapy (sadly). So if this is happening, this Childs support group will need to come up with a plan to where the kid learns and grows to be able to eventually do it. Anxiety is common, but I have never heard it being a learning difference. At the same time if a kid was exhausted after therapy and its not common if explained to the teachers I would expect them to understand if its communicated.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most privates do not extend assignment due dates.
I do not believe this is legal. Even private schools have to comply with the ADA. Private schools may have a policy of extending dates only after negotiation with a teacher, but that's a crappy way to handle things - you are forcing the kid to frequently navigate at a power disadvantage, which is demoralizing. And, you are putting a person who is unqualified at disability decision-making (not legally qualified and frequently not educationally qualified because they have no or little understanding of disability) in charge of disability decision-making - that is a recipe for conflict and institutional legal liability.
For homework? I think it is legal unless stated in the accommodation plan that the student is granted extended time for homework. It is more common to see extended time for map testing, quizzes, and test. What I know, if the student advocated for themselves by going to the teacher or emailing the teacher explaining why they need extended time on a certain homework assignment it tends to go well (unless student is asking multiple teachers and frequently). This is because schools love to see students learn how to advocate for themselves and tend to accept it. I went to a private school, when I or my friends advocated and asked for extended time on homework assignments it was almost always granted unless there was a time crunch for report cards or moving to the next unit.
No, but if a student advocates and lets a teacher know in advanced they need more time from attending a private school myself and having ADHD and dyslexia, it normally gets granted. Of course not asking for extended time all the time, but if a student advocates they should expect a response pretty soon of what to expect from teacher due to small class sizes. It is important to keep plans for learning differences throughout school. As it can be harder if you don't have any proof of prior plans in school to get extended time for tests and finals in college, and then being granted for accommodations for ACT and SAT. Just makes more sense to continue advocating for your child to get the accommodations to set them up for success (especially during the tween/teen years were friendships more drama starts and hormones).Anonymous wrote:Most privates do not extend assignment due dates.
14 is a bit young, and 15 is iffy, I would say if you trust the other friends have good judgement, know their parents, set a certain time pick up is expected by, and maybe make a group chat with all kids and parents as a way of communication, or have the friends number in case you cannot get through to your child. I would say 16 is probably best for that, but it's also personal preference and being worried about this topic is so normal.
You know personally if a family is making $250k a year, id hope they have a financial advisor and started a college fund early on. When applying to colleges it is super important for parents to talk to their children about money in general - setting expectations, budget, if they will help in tuition and if so how much can they cover. Then going more in depth once they've been accepted - is it required to stay on campus for the first year, if its close to home do they live at home, or rent an place close to the college (just so many factors). I hope there are no parents allowing their kids to apply to only colleges that are out of simply out of budget since it won't help setting them up for success for finance in their adulthood. Sadly college debt is huge here.
apparently there's a new variant called FLiRT, and there are groups in more potential danger if they catch covid in general. Makes sense with people who have family and close friends with people in the higher risk groups, and plan to hang out especially if they know they have been close or around someone positive with covid or even in a hospital recently.
From what I know many are worried about how expensive everything is now, wanting to be financially stable before, and some are more focused on owning a house before thinking about kids. Guess it just depends on the Gen Z.
Some experiences are honestly part of growing up and learning how to express new and more complex emotions and situations as we grow up. Its awesome you are trying to protect DD, but I would say just be ready with open arms and a hug when DD figures out own their own. Just hope they come to you for support, don't pressure or anything. I would say allow DD to feel these new emotions and have time to be happy and giddy, and if DD is already coming to you openly expressing so far (which seems to be the case as you know the best friends interactions have changed and seem up to date on what's going on) you are doing it right.
Hey i’d say this is just apart of growing up. It’s fairly common. Especially when kids are entering the tween/teen years. Time goes by so fast, and i’ve been told by my parents, to hold on to every memory. This is normal behavior, sometimes it’s just hard to step back a bit. That being said, maybe ask to play monopoly or clue, go to the movies, there’s a new spy museum, maybe a fair or the circus? Ask if there’s something they might want to do. Bumper cars, go carting, go get fro yo. I promise you from wha you’ve said there’s no need to worry or feel guilty.