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Anonymous wrote:So I don't know enough about this to make an informed decision yet, but aren't there many more poor white people, and therefore more owners of inexpensive homes, than POCs?
Probably but only because there are more white people period (like how the majority of food stamp recipients are white, even though as a population white people are less likely to be poor). So yes, there's that. On the other hand, other components of systemic racism compound the issue, magnifying the effect.
Anonymous wrote:The previous 2 PP don’t understand systematic racism.
You can put systems in place that discriminate even if it makes you more money.
Yes, most housing policies are racist. It’s one of the many things that need to be fixed.
Yeah. I wanted to flag those both as "systemic racism" examples. And I am NOT being sarcastic. I mean, how hard is it to figure that out? Just like higher interest rates on mortgages, higher insurance premiums, and all the other things that have been barriers to housing even when technically discrimination was made illegal.
Re: the pull out piece. Sounds like because of other issues, the social part of the school day is especially important, submit a written request to amend the IEP so he is not pulled out during class social times. It's fine to get support, etc, for other challenges with his dyslexia, BUT he needs to have those positive points. As a SN parent, I think 4th grade was for us the start of when things got really, really hard precisely because of the social aspect with peers.
I remember some conference speaker who spoke about "islands of strength" or something, and how you want to identify those, and expand them, and link them, to give the child the strongest possible footing in his life.
I remember some conference speaker who spoke about "islands of strength" or something, and how you want to identify those, and expand them, and link them, to give the child the strongest possible footing in his life.
My therapist's mantra was "you can't make anyone say, feel, thing, or do ANYTHING". Albert Ellis would say that the thoughts you have about her are irrational beliefs. The Stoics would say it isn't what she did, but how you feel about it, that upsets you. It boils down to changing the way you feel, which (according to my therapist, Ellis, and the Stoics) means changing your thoughts about it. It takes practice, I guess. In a way, you could say it's a good thing she lives sort of near you, because you aren't faced with her daily, but she didn't disappear off the face of the earth either, so you get chances to practice without having to over exert yourself.
BTW Ellis' irrational beliefs are:
It is a dire necessity for adult humans to be loved or approved by virtually every significant other person in their community.
One absolutely must be competent, adequate and achieving in all important respects or else one is an inadequate, worthless person.
People absolutely must act considerately and fairly and they are damnable villains if they do not. They are their bad acts.
It is awful and terrible when things are not the way one would very much like them to be.
Emotional disturbance is mainly externally caused and people have little or no ability to increase or decrease their dysfunctional feelings and behaviors.
If something is or may be dangerous or fearsome, then one should be constantly and excessively concerned about it and should keep dwelling on the possibility of it occurring.
One cannot and must not face life's responsibilities and difficulties and it is easier to avoid them.
One must be quite dependent on others and need them and you cannot mainly run one's own life.
One's past history is an all-important determiner of one's present behavior and because something once strongly affected one's life, it should indefinitely have a similar effect.
Other people's disturbances are horrible and one must feel upset about them.
There is invariably a right, precise and perfect solution to human problems and it is awful if this perfect solution is not found.
A previous therapist I had suggested I read him. Ellis pissed me off big time (threw the book at the wall). On the other hand, if you look at the list, a few of those seem to apply to the challenge you face, (Note: it's ALWAYS easier to suggest someone else change their thoughts than to change one's own)
BTW Ellis' irrational beliefs are:
It is a dire necessity for adult humans to be loved or approved by virtually every significant other person in their community.
One absolutely must be competent, adequate and achieving in all important respects or else one is an inadequate, worthless person.
People absolutely must act considerately and fairly and they are damnable villains if they do not. They are their bad acts.
It is awful and terrible when things are not the way one would very much like them to be.
Emotional disturbance is mainly externally caused and people have little or no ability to increase or decrease their dysfunctional feelings and behaviors.
If something is or may be dangerous or fearsome, then one should be constantly and excessively concerned about it and should keep dwelling on the possibility of it occurring.
One cannot and must not face life's responsibilities and difficulties and it is easier to avoid them.
One must be quite dependent on others and need them and you cannot mainly run one's own life.
One's past history is an all-important determiner of one's present behavior and because something once strongly affected one's life, it should indefinitely have a similar effect.
Other people's disturbances are horrible and one must feel upset about them.
There is invariably a right, precise and perfect solution to human problems and it is awful if this perfect solution is not found.
A previous therapist I had suggested I read him. Ellis pissed me off big time (threw the book at the wall). On the other hand, if you look at the list, a few of those seem to apply to the challenge you face, (Note: it's ALWAYS easier to suggest someone else change their thoughts than to change one's own)
Catching up on my back issues of New Yorker--she has a new book, called The Searcher. Fans take note.
(I didn't know what the word "eejit" was before reading her)
(I didn't know what the word "eejit" was before reading her)
I do IT support, the company my team contracts with just switched all their meeting stuff from a previous application to teams. In the transition some people's settings were not transferred correctly or the previous application did not die the way it was supposed to so we're getting a lot of support requests related to that, critical meetings leaving people out, not generating the phone numbers for people who have to call in.