OP, did things improve for her?

I was fired from my job and it completely took me by surprise. I had never been fired before and looking back now, I should've seen it coming. My new boss was inexperienced, yet had great support and promise from higher up in the company. I kept her out of trouble and helped her along for the first 6 months. Soon after, she started to nitpick and criticize me in front of other employees. I made complaints about her, but unfortunately they were only unofficial, so all I ever got was, "Be patient with her...she's new and still learning." One day I was called in and told that I wasn't performing to expectationsand was unprofessional... boom...I was fired.

I was devastated and didn't get a new job for quite a while. I was doubting my abilities and my self worth plunged. I was just beginning to recover from my divorce when this happened and felt even worse as a mom.

As time has gone onward, I have a great job now and I have slowly regained my confidence and my realization that it was not about my ability and skill. I still get a bit nervous sometimes at work and wonder if I'm getting the sudden boot, but it's just my paranoia.

I'm sorry, OP. I know how stressful it is and the uncertainty. I'm in a similar situation too.

How did things work out for you, OP?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I was laid off, let go, canned. Yes, I feel sick to my stomach at what they did. I knew it when the HR Lady signed in, too.

I'm so sorry to hear that, OP. A very similar thing happened to me about a year ago. I know that sick feeling you have too.

Well, I'm a single mom with a full-time job and although I have 1 daughter, it is still like having an additional full-time job. When my daughter was younger, she was sick a lot during the school school year. My ex-husband helped when he could, but she still wanted ME to take care of her. I too was placed on a PIP and luckily I survived it for several months later. Eventually so many things caught up to me and something had to give...I was fired. Things needed to be altered going forward, but it has worked out okay, but not easy at times. My daughter is almost out of high school and I am still going every whichaway, but the balance between work and being mom still applies.

Anonymous wrote:
It is NOT disloyal to express your own career desires and ambition. Men do this with ease, we women need to get better at it (speaking generally).

HR leader perspective here, FWIW.

This is true! Had I been more open and honest about my ambitions at my previous job, I don't think things would have gone as disastrous as they did. I hope I've become better at it, but I can always do better.

Anonymous wrote:Are you wfh?

I'm seeing this so much more often, and I think it's a negative consequence of wfh. People are just developing impressions of each other without getting to know each other well. They can't read each other and bc there's little inter office chit chat, it's hard to even realize what's happening until you're essentially being pushed out.

During Covid with offices shut down and WFH was the thing... I hated it! I need to walk down the hall from time to time to chat with other people in person. I also have to pop my head into my boss's office as well...can't do that from home.

Ugh... I was in a similar situation at my previous job. A change in corporate structure and my wonderful boss ended up retiring and I got a new boss. At first things were great and she was very refreshing with a new enthusiasm.

After a while, things between us became uneasy and she was constantly nitpicking everything I did. Looking back at it all, she was in over her head and she didn't like me constantly catching her mistakes. That was my job though and she should've been thankful for pulling her along.

After a year working for her, she managed to have me pushed out That had never happened to me before.

I'm so sorry to hear that, OP. I was really hoping for some good news from you today.

I'd like to add my good luck wishes to you, OP.

If I read that right, it's still not a done deal that you're getting fired. Sounds like there has been measurable improvements that your boss was happy.

I'm sorry OP. I know how you feel right now. I've been fired once before, but I was blindsided by it and was not prepared for it. I wish I had not freaked out and just left, but like the other comment said, Get a letter from your boss (if possible).

Anonymous wrote:Yes, earlier this week someone accused me of something I didn't do and I cried while I was on the call with my boss (fortunately it was just a call, no video, and I was just very quiet. I don't think she knew I was crying, but she may have suspected it). Fortunately my boss is very supportive and had my back, but I was still quite distraught.

I'm sorry that has happened to you too. I was in a face to face meeting with my boss and tried so hard to fight back the tears, however unsuccessfully the tears won. Even though my boss listened to me with an open mind and supportive, I felt a bit of a betrayal within my coworkers.

OP, I'm an assistant as well and I did something similar about 8 months ago. For 2 weeks I was on pins & needles, just waiting to get fired!
Three weeks, then four weeks had gone by and I still had my job! Anyway, after about 4 months after the first incident, my opportunity came up again and I joked with my boss that it would be a better experience. He had no idea what I was talking about... apparently I had made more out of it than my boss I do more checking on myself since then.