I am thinking about this issue - I don't want a cosleeper, but we are short on space.
What advantage does a pack and play have over a crib? We were thinking of just putting the crib in our (large) bedroom for the first few months then moving it.
Don't you have to get out of bed for a pack and play?

We have a while to go, but I'm starting to budget for furniture which is why I ask.

Anonymous wrote:Jin,

I switched practices for this birth and they also made me do the GD test at my 12 week appointment, which I found completely offensive. I have no family history, I am overweight, but not more than my last pregnancy in which I did not have GD. I was thinking about refusing, but my husband said, it is in the best interest of the baby so I did it, and it turned out fine. I am actually leaving my practice and going back to the midwifes who delivered my daughter because they never made me feel bad about my weight. At my 12 week visit they couldn't find the heartbeat and said it was because I had extra cushioning. In truth it was because the baby was going bonkers (probably from all the sugar I just drank) and would not stand still! I have my 16 week visit in 2 weeks and then I am going to a practice that made me feel good for the healthy choices I was making rather than bad about my weight.

-sleepy

Hi sleepy - which practice is this at?
My doctor doesn't make me feel bad at all - I know there are 'risks' on paper with weight, and i'd rather have a doctor supervise me. She has never made me feel bad, though - she never even brings it up except to say I didn't gain between appointments.
I was irked about the early GD test, but like your DH, it's in the best interest of the baby AND me - from almost everyone who has it, I hear GD is a mixed blessing.
But to tell you that you have 'extra cuschioning? ridiculous. They find mine with an ultrasound, no problem! They couldn't with the dopler last appointment but I think the nurse was too low (she was REALLY low).
Maybe find a better doctor?
I know people love midwives, but I'm a doctor fan in addition to being happy to have a long term relationship with a provider. But that's totally just me.
Good luck with your decision, but no doc should ever make you feel bad esp if you have a history of healthy pregnancy!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am home in PA, so no barre...but have a great time!!!

-JinDC

JinDC, did you tell your folks? How did it go?

Thanks for asking! It was bittersweet- my Bubbie (grandma) is turning 94, so we had a birthday brunch for her (mmm bagels) and we gave her that egg to crack as a gift. She was THRILLED. And then, quickly forgot. lots of, "what baby?". She has Parkinsons and had a stroke last year so her short term memory is not great. But my sister was very excited. My mom and dad already knew - I couldn't NOT tell my mom after telling her about IVF. My MIL was happy, and was sort of already getting on my nerves about it. I hope she realizes that she will not be visiting the minute the baby is born. and I hope they all realize it's still early (13 weeks).

I am going to Pittsburgh in a few weeks to tell my favorite Aunt in person, which will be great.

I also bought a fetal dopler (it's en route) because my worry was getting to me. Hopefully it doesn't make me worry more!

How is everyone else? Is anyone awaiting "coming out" to family/friends?
Did anyone do barre this weekend?
I WILL go this coming weekend! If you are going (anyone) and want to meet up early at Caribou, let me know!

We should still plan a "happy 2nd trimester" gathering if people are interested. Has anyone been to Le Diplomat yet? They have a LOVELY solarium type room that screamed 'ladies who brunch' to me. But sadly without the bloody marys

so should a nurse put her own family goals aside because of where she works?
Greg, the ultrasound tech, just had a baby but because he's a man, you wouldn't know.

To me, it doesn't matter if you like a nurse or not...but to comment on the fact that one can get pregnant (and, honestly, you don't know HOW she got pregnant just like any other woman you see walking on the street) is pretty unfair.

We all have our battles even if you can't see them.

I got a belly band and while it works (even though I sized up), it's VERY hot fabric. For the few times I broke down and used it, my belly was warm in the hot whether of late!
am I alone in this!?

Anonymous wrote:Ok thanks. I guess I'll just have to decide if this job is good enough to do something crappy to this woman, which is basically the bottom line. No, this is an entirely different agency and I don't think I'll run into her again. I hate to have a pissed boss behind me though.

don't put her feelings ahead of yours - I had an amazing job offer the first week I got my first fed job. Short of it is, I WISH I hadn't worried about offending the person who hired me for that first fed job....because now I'm still a fed and miserable. I need to stop thinking "what if". You don't want to do that - follow a job that will make YOU happy and feel valued. If someone will be hurt over it, that's not your fault for pursuing a better opportunity. They shoud be happy for you.

yay for sleep! I THINK it's because baby is moving up and putting less pressure on your bladder (I've read you tend to have to pee less frequently in the 2nd trimester, before baby grows large enough to again rest on your bladder).

I definitely differ depend on the night - some nights I wake up 3 times to pee and others, once or none. The "none or one" nights are lovely

which fetal doppler did you buy?

yesterday at my appointment, the nurse couldn't find the HB with the doppler - I personally think she was looking for it too low (like, she was really low!) for how far along I am....but I've thought about getting one. I'm torn.

Thanks, Poppy - all done! The drink wasn't as bad as I had expected - it tastes like spoiled gatorade. I did start to feel pretty gross towards the end of the hour, but I was also warm from rushing to get to the doctor on time (stupid K Street Circulator!) and then couldn't drink during that hour. No weight gain between appointments, according to the Doc which was nice to know!

How is everyone else doing? Any milestones coming up?

Dr Metz (married name) is my OB and I just had my second appointment with her today - Love her! I did the STD/PAP test that I couldn't do last time and she was QUICK! She smiles when she sees the baby on the monitor, and she always wants to make sure my questions are answered.

She's fabulous so far - I obviously haven't delivered yet, but so far I'm happy with my choice.

I also really like the nurses at the M St location FWIW

I just wanted to follow up now that's have tried two places.
Tranquil Space Saturday class: well organized (movements seemed to flow well) and relaxing. The space is great, love a few sips of tea. Anne was welcoming and helpful. Most women were way more pregnant than me. Also not the most friendly bunch, but whatever. I plan on making this a regular part of my Saturday routine. I might try wednesday night soon enough.

Yoga District Tuesday evening class: much more intimate, only three other women. Welcoming, more difficult poses than Tranquil Space. I very much enjoyed it and meeting the other lovely women. Only negative is how loud 14th street is, but I am not really a calm/peaceful person so to me, it wasn't prohibiting my relaxation. I also plan on doing this class regularly. Note this class is moving to 6pm starting next week (a good thing for me, but I am sure others won't agree).

That's all for the recommendations - I am definitely happy to be starting this practice regularly at this point - I have the energy and see how it would be difficult to start if you were later (20+ weeks) just in terms of learning to adapt. I am enjoying finding a 'work out' that doesn't worry me!

I know which is why I'm not really fussing (I mean, I'm frustrated, but not fussing)- just doing what I have to do. Lots of other issues affect baby in a big way, too, outside of weight. But most people don't talk about them or care because you can't see them. (chemicals, food choices, how much you move, etc)

yep - nothing I can do about it. Before I lost a lot of weight, I went to Sibley for my 'preconception meeting' with a doctor there and she said I'd need an early GS screen, too. But I lost a lot of weight, and even gaining a bunch back, I'm not where I was. Funny how doctors never care about that
But, it is what it is - there are worse things to deal with assuming everything is still fine with the baby when I go in on Wednesday (hopefully)

Anonymous wrote:Jindc, why are you being tested for GD in the first tri???? I've never heard of that.

because of my weight (nevermind my weight history, just my current weight....sigh)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think Mila is a gorgeous name. Love that there is something behind it too. My pet peeve is when people use names like Jack-- as a name. Not Jackson or John, just Jack.

And see I'm the opposite. I think you should just name your kid what you want to call him. My grandpa's name was Jack (John) and if I ever had a boy I was going to name him Jack because I love the name.

same - my grandfather went by Jack (it was his middle name....not another name like John or James and he went by Jack, his middle name was Jack and he went by that). I'm not bothered if people don't like it, since he was an amazing man and if we have a boy, he'll hear a lot about him.

I thought this morning they were saying the Bush-Hager baby was "Nila". Not Mila. I don't really understand it in terms of blending both names - where's the "i" in Margaret? I also don't understand naming people after living relatives. But I am happy for them - she seemed like a very down to earth pregnant woman facing her own fears and issues whenever she talked about it on TV, and I could identify with that...even if I think her dad is a POS!

So glad to hear you went, wavvy! Was the class busy?

Jenna is a hard instructor, so it's good she took it slow (even if some regulars were frustrated) because new people can get discouraged.

er: Tranquil Space - to be fair, the room was a little warm, and I wan't covered...but I definitely had some boob/temple sweat going on! The wall squats, plank to downward facing dogs, etc weren't easy but I had never done yoga so I'm sure I was using things that had gone unused for a while! The stretching felt pretty awesome, but I think there's more stretching in barre.

I can't go to either this weekend (hello, Philadelphia!) but once we're home, I'll make it a more regular thing to attend barre! Those steps + pregnant belly are probably difficult!