I'm sorry to read about your marital struggles. From what you've shared, counseling is the best direction to help you understand why you both trigger and what part is your responsibility in the marriage. It will take both of you to work through it and hope the best for you.

I can relate and would stay at work longer just so I didn't have to go home. I learned that I needed to take responsibility for my thoughts, actions and reactions. And it was my choice how I was going to react to him. If we allow disrespect and poor behavior to continue for a long period of time, it will take just as long to work through them as well. Marriage is a lot of work and I believe that it deserves a second chance. Counseling for you would be very beneficial to your overall well being and in return will be helpful for your family. Your counselor will help you work through the issues within your marriage and when you get to a point, it will be up to him if he wants to make things work. The choice is yours to take the first step toward doing what is needed to start repairing the marriage, and can happen with help. Take it one day at a time.

We are our worst enemy.....when we think less of ourselves, we will project that also. I'm glad you'll look into therapy/counseling, and if you get into counseling before you start school, you'll have a strong support system to help you along the way, give you a healthy emotional path, by allowing you to deal with the things of the past, so moving forward you won't bring the baggage of yesteryear's with you. In the meantime, maybe in this link can help https://list.ly/~Ncq6y - Best wishes

I am sorry for your loss. I had a family member commit suicide, yet her parent's & husband didn't know that she was suicidal. I found myself in deep depression from losing our business and going through serious marital difficulties. I got to the point that I understood why someone might commit suicide. No one knew what I was experiencing. Please seek out a counselor to help you work through your loss.

Since it seems that she may be reaching out to you. Maybe consider either calling her and share why you would not be attending, or send her a card explaining why with a gift. If she is willing to reestablish the relationship, then hopefully she will contact you again.

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charliegirl816 wrote:I moved out of state after my divorce. The new friends I made through church were married, widowed and single. I have since moved back to the same street from my ex (we are still single) and mil. We have a good relationship, but it took time. I do not have a relationship with most of our married friends because they there his friends and I divorced him. I have joined a bible study group that is mostly married couples with kids, so I will see what friendships that may form from this group. I feel the key is finding commonality with women in general.

I may try that. I joined a new church a few months ago and my daughter is in the youth choir so maybe I can try to befriend some of the other parents.

Best of luck and enjoy getting acquainted with the women in the church. Remember, we all have baggage.

I moved out of state after my divorce. The new friends I made through church were married, widowed and single. I have since moved back to the same street from my ex (we are still single) and mil. We have a good relationship, but it took time. I do not have a relationship with most of our married friends because they there his friends and I divorced him. I have joined a bible study group that is mostly married couples with kids, so I will see what friendships that may form from this group. I feel the key is finding commonality with women in general.