Toxic marriage but still emotionally attached
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Anonymous
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My husband lost his temper, screamed at me when I was holding a baby in my arms, then put his arm on me (not hurting) to keep me from walking away.
We are still 2gether & had another kid. Do not be me. |
Anonymous
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Forgive each other, work on making changes to improve your relationship and communication and trust. It takes work to make a marriage succeed, but is definitely possible and so very rewarding when you have put the effort into it.
Even if he doesn't apologize, be the first to apologize and move forward, showing him an olive branch. Overlook the small issues. |
Anonymous
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My advice it to confront the things that caused the fight and deal with them. Regardless of what or how hard it is. Eventually you’ll learn whether you truly love each other and can handle any obstacles or that your completely incompatible.
Get to the root of that fight and every fight from now now. Don’t sweep stuff that bothers either of you under the carpet. As someone newly separated who’s marriage could have been saved had we been better people and dealt with our issues. Don’t be me. |
Anonymous
With some time apart, is it really too late to save it? |
charliegirl816
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| I'm sorry to read about your marital struggles. From what you've shared, counseling is the best direction to help you understand why you both trigger and what part is your responsibility in the marriage. It will take both of you to work through it and hope the best for you. |