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I was concerned about not getting anti depressants (not for PPD- but I suffer from depression). Both Psychiatrist and Ob say it is fine (and recommended) to continue on Wellbutrin.

Thoughts.....?

Also, favorite prenatal yoga classes. and mommy and me classes.

I wanted to see if anyone has taken some classes or is intending to take classes. Topics ranging from breastfeeding, different types of laboring, infant CPR etc. Could you share where, when and what. Maybe we can come up with an active list of really good local resources.

I posted this on the expectant mother's board, and someone suggested I post here.

I have a dear friend who has been trying to get pregnant for a really long time. She is over 40 years old, and has a number of donor eggs, sperms available so she is trying to get implanted. (I don't know if that is the lingo- but you get my drift). I have been supportive of her process and even attended doctor appointments with her. When she asked me about my plans for kids, I would tell her I did not have any plans- and truly- I did not. Until some weeks ago, when I found out that I was pregnant. It was not planned.

Now I am very excited about potentially being a mom, and I really want to share my news with her. I know she will eventually be happy for me, but I want to be able to break the news with as much sensitivity as I possibly can, and honor our friendship. What are your suggestions to do so?

FYI- I am 35 and married.

My pregnancy was very much a surprise. I am married. I am 35, she is in her early 40s.

What would you have preferred your friend say to you in person that would also create a space for you to be able feel sad and jealous.

I have a dear friend who has been trying to get pregnant for a really long time. She is over 40 years old, and has a number of donor eggs, sperms available so she is trying to get implanted. (I don't know if that is the lingo- but you get my drift). I have been supportive of her process and even attended doctor appointments with her. When she asked me about my plans for kids, I would tell her I did not have any plans- and truly- I did not. Until some weeks ago, when I found out that I was pregnant.

Now I am very excited about potentially being a mom, and I really want to share my news with her. I know she will eventually be happy for me, but I want to be able to break the news with as much sensitivity as I possibly can, and honor our friendship. What are your suggestions to do so?

This discussion is so incredibly interesting. I grew up overseas in Africa as a State Dept kid. We had a nanny (sometimes two), a cook, a housekeeper, a gardener, a driver and a number of other staff. We spent lots of quality time with our non-exhausted parents, and we turned out just fine.

I am pregnant now and due in a few months. I will take EVERY BIT of help I can get or afford. I want my Mom, my MIL, my sister, a nanny, a night nurse, catered food by a chef- whatever I can get. It will not make me any less of a good mother if I accept help. It will make me a sane, alive, healthy, alert mother.

Go ahead OP- enjoy your help.

Anonymous wrote:

There is a birth center in DC but I don't know anything about it or what their fees would be.

Yes, you should definitely at least call and talk with these folks about costs. They're very nice, and have a sliding fee scale for those who are uninsured.

http://www.communityofhopedc.org/fhbc

Congratulations on your pregnancy, by the way -- I'm sorry that it's coming with so much stress, but I"m sure you and your husband will find a way to make things work.

I will put in a call to them in the a.m.. I will let them know how old I am and about my medical issues and see if it is advisable to go that route.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think you are high risk? I agree that you should not spend $1200 on one appointment. Go to the Family Health and Birth Center (I think they are now called Community of Hope). Several people have linked to it. Excellent care and excellent nurse midwives. I delivered my first there (granted 4 years ago) and had a wonderful experience. If you are high risk, you won't be able to continue under their care but at least you won't shell out a ridiculous amount for your first prenatal.

and in case you are worried, they won't take patients that are too high risk because they know what their limits are. So if you are, they will let you know.

I suspect that I might be classified as high risk because I am 35 years old, and because i have high blood pressure.

Anonymous wrote:No exchanges have been set up yet so I wouldn't count on that. OP - are either of you lawyers? I got my family medical insurance through the VA bar many years ago. It's very expensive but they give you options. We are heavy users (young kids at the time) so I signed up for the "all bells and whistles" plan thru the VA Bar. But they offered catastrophic as well. If you are not lawyers, do you belong to any other entity that offers medical coverage. My college does, for example. Any other groups that you might not think of like AAA (auto). Finally, did either of you have a parent who served in the military. I'm not an authority on this but I am told you then qualify for insurance plans through USAA.

My husband was a marine, and we have USAA. Would you have any more information on that? I will give them a call.

What would be the one book you would read?

Epidurals are $4000. whoa Nelly!

Thank you all, this is all wonderful advice. For the folks who had a home birth or went to a birthing center, how did you figure out if it will be risky? Did you have a plan B? I am nervous that I might be high risk.

Sorry, I am completely clueless in the baby world.

OP here. My husband is also self employed.

Do you know what the discounts are for cash?

Are there birth cares in DC?