Is this going to consume me for the next 9 months?
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Anonymous
| I have not been able to do anything except read pregnancy-related/baby stuff since we found out we were pregnant- 2 days ago. Is this pretty much my life for the next 8 or so months? I am not complaining- just inquiring if this is normal. P.s. We were not planning to have a baby, just happened. |
Anonymous
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normal for some people. Normal for some women who just got engaged to do nothing but wedding stuff, too.
There are worse things that reading up a lot - it might help to have a notebook/journal of questions to ask your OB or friends who have given birth. That said, the worse thing? talking about it to everyone around you nonstop. 
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Anonymous
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Yes and no. I get bored of it pretty quickly. Made it 1/2 way through the mayo clinic book then stopped around the week 20 chapter because it seemed so far away. I never picked it up again even though now I am 22 weeks!
I google stuff if something seems like an issue and pay attention more now to things about pregnancy when I come across it but the novelty has worn off. Actually, when my nausea started around 7-8 weeks the novelty wore off pretty quickly. |
Anonymous
| It comes and goes. Find one book and one good pregnancy app and stuck to those. Enjoy your pregnancy. |
Anonymous
+1 - I was like this a little bit with my first and find the old adage to be true: a watched pot never boils. (Well, we know all pots eventually boil and all babies eventually come...but...) anyway, my first pregnancy took a million years. My second, geez, I feel like I just took the test and here I am 35 weeks. |
Anonymous
| Well, who do you think watches A Baby Story? And Bringing Home Multiples? And all those other shows? It's first time moms who are consumed by baby. I certainly watched a lot of them during my first pregnancy. |
Anonymous
| If its your first, probably. |
Anonymous
| Well, actually having the baby is going to consume you for the next 18 years. I would read and think less about the pregnancy part (you will likely emerge just fine, with an infant), and more about being with a baby, a toddler, etc. Hang out with other kids, learn about financial issues, etc. All that stuff is way more useful. |
Anonymous
| Limit yourself to one book. That really helped me limit my obsessiveness. Nine months is a long time, you'll get sick of reading and talking about it pretty quickly. |
Anonymous
| Yes, if you let it. There's an unlimited amount of stuff that you can read. Almost none of it is actually helpful. |
Anonymous
| Well for me, I read pregnancy stuff for about a week , then proceeded to vomit for three months ... Really you do get busy with other things . |
Anonymous
I agree with this. Time is much better spent learning a bit about actually having a baby, toddler, etc! Pg is a non-issue by comparison. |
Anonymous
| Yeah. First time I was obsessed. This time, not so much. I did learn a lot though, and I'm a researcher and planner by nature, but it was helpful to me to feel informed. Pick and choose what you read. Make sure it's something that will actually be of use. |
Anonymous
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I was obsessed at first too. In fact, I was pretty sure I was pregnant but had a huge work meeting later that week. I waited until after the meeting to test because I knew that is all I'd be able to think about. For me it faded a bit after seeing the heartbeat (8 weeks), and now it comes and goes-- but usually I'm able to focus and be very productive when I have to be.
Good luck and congrats! Indulge yourself for a few days, and then try to carve out time to do your reading and research. It will get easier as the idea of it all sinks in. |
Anonymous
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Maybe for the first six months. Then there's a lull. Then when the baby is imminent you rev up again.
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