Anonymous wrote:As a single female, I have zero interest in a LTR with a single father. It is a complication I don't need in my life. Why would I want to enter into such a relationship when there are lots of single men who are entirely eligible? I don't look down on a single father but I don't want to have to deal with the children of another marriage.

It is good your recognize what you do, or don't, want out of a partner. It sucks when someone doesn't really know what they want, and find out late that this isn't what they expected. So someone gets hurts in the process.

Now some people don't mind their potential partner having children even if they are single. I was single with no kids when I met my ex-wife. She had a kid from a past marriage. It started out as having fun, but quickly turned more serious because she was such a great person. I never thought I'd date someone with a child, but I gave it a shot and it wasn't all that bad. Her child is now someone I consider part of my family.

If you are not dealing with these types of things (cheating, alcoholism, abuse, etc., frequent arguments, etc.) then I would say your relationship is very strong. Because you two know how to handle situations like adults and respect your partner enough to not do things like the above examples.

To add. If a woman is very physically attractive yet doesn't have much smarts, it will totally turn me off.

Initial physical attraction is huge. If a man is turned off completely when he meets you, I don't think a great personality and intellectual conversation is going to convince him otherwise.

Now if he sees you and is thinking: "Eh....not bad."....the personality, etc. can definitely make him change his mind.

Just my .02 from personal experience.

Suck it up and move on.

DO NOT keep in touch with him after he leaves the company.

Anonymous wrote:

Guy 1 is well within his rights to tell OP to take a hike, and frankly, he probably should.

I agree.

If she was dating multiple men, he should have clued the guys in so they knew. Especially since she felt guy #1 had LTR potential.

But it looks like she was trying to have her cake and eat it too. And would have probably dragged both guys on as long as she could. But since she got caught, she played the "Oh I realize I want to be with #1 if I have to choose".

Next time be open about dating multiple men so nobody feels screwed around. I know I would feel that way and would act the same way as #1 has reacted.

I'm a single male with a child. I don't think people look down upon others because of having a kid unless they are younger (under 25). After that, meeting someone with a child is just normal and you are only limiting your pool of potential partners by being turned off by it.

I'm sure there are women out there without kids that probably want nothing to do with me just because of my child, and I'm fine with that. I'd rather meet someone that understands and respects my life just like I do for them.

But at the end of the day, I suspect I'll be more attracted to a single mother since we'll share a lot of common interests (since our children are such a huge part of our lives).