Deeply regret marrying my low earning husband
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Anonymous
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I married my husband out of love. He had good liberal arts degrees and was smart and more importantly, kind.
We married in 2014 at the courthouse as we did not have money. I was ok with it, thinking we would make more. It’s now been 7 years and we still rent in a small miserable apartment, we have never been able to afford kids, and we still have low paying jobs. I never wanted to be a breadwinner as I always wanted to be a mom, so I admit I never put much effort into my career. Meanwhile he was stuck in a low paid job for years until recently when he started his own business and is finally breaking 6 figures. Things are looking up, financially at least, but I’m still resentful and angry for all my wasted youth when I could’ve been a mom or a home owner. Meanwhile, the stress of not being able to make ends meet turned who was once a wonderful man into a mean and cheating drunk. Yes he has cheated on me on top of everything else. Why was I so stupid? 
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Anonymous
| You wanted to be a SAHM, you knew this, but you chose a low-earning spouse. What does that say about you? |
Anonymous
| Get divorced. I have zero sympathy for whiny, vapid, and pity me people like you. It's pathetic |
Anonymous
| No wonder he cheated. I wouldn't want to be stuck with you either |
Anonymous
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Talk about burying the lede:
"Meanwhile, the stress of not being able to make ends meet turned who was once a wonderful man into a mean and cheating drunk. Yes he has cheated on me on top of everything else." I mean, he's making money now so low earnings is no longer the issue. Be glad you don't have kids because your DH is a cheating drunk. GET OUT |
Anonymous
| Damn. Get that money yourself girlfriend. I wanted to be a sahm too. But then I had a fantastic job and was a bit miserable on maternity leave. Glad I had kids and made my own money instead. Why are you putting your life on hold for some sahm pipe dream?? Get a good job and have kids. Put them in a great daycare. |
Anonymous
Op here. Citing work stress and frustration my husband went on a bender where he would get blackout drunk and not come home. He finally got that under control, quit his job and started a business. It’s surprisingly doing well. But I am now bitter and angry and hurt. |
Anonymous
| Oh OP. Dumb, naive, little OP. He's making 6 figures and cheating. Get a lawyer now.i guarantee you he has one and will be divorcing you soon. |
Anonymous
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You had no way of knowing he would become a cheating alcoholic. You made the best decision you could at the time.
Get out now and quit wasting time on this jerk. Also, FWIW, I married someone with money so I could be a SAHM. I was very, very lonely in that big, beautiful house. Now married to someone I love who makes far less, but I am so much happier. I’d rather be in our little apartment than in a giant house. We don’t spend as much on our kids as other parents, but our kids are happy, are in a stable home, and see what a healthy relationship looks like. |
Anonymous
Be prepared to be single. He's leaving you. Get an attorney and get a better job |
Anonymous
Op here. I have realized too late that I made a mistake by prematurely mommy tracking myself even when I had no kids in anticipation of kids. Problem is I am an admin and I don’t know how to get out and make more money. I feel trapped. |
Anonymous
| Anyone else find is odd that OP is more upset about the money than the cheating and drinking? Priorities, people. |
Anonymous
| What is going on there is an epidemic of unhappy wives who are looking for breadwinners but missed the mark?? |
Anonymous
I mean it's pretty obvious OP is a complete idiot. |
Anonymous
| You aren't stupid, just entitled. |