How To Be A Good Wife?

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What makes a good wife?

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OP here. No rude comments please. No feminist comments either. I’m newly married and really want to have a successful marriage and be a good wife. What do men want that makes a woman’s good wife?

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Sex

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OP did you and your husband make vows to each other? What were the vows?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. No rude comments please. No feminist comments either. I’m newly married and really want to have a successful marriage and be a good wife. What do men want that makes a woman’s good wife?

Guess you're assuming it's not possible to be a good wife and a feminist at the same time?

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Yikes with the no feminist comments. I guess she’s already concluded her husband does NOT want a feminist! Hope they don’t have daughters. Or sons.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No rude comments please. No feminist comments either. I’m newly married and really want to have a successful marriage and be a good wife. What do men want that makes a woman’s good wife?

Guess you're assuming it's not possible to be a good wife and a feminist at the same time?

OP here. No. I mega the feminists who would come on here and say I don’t need to be a good wife or cater to any man. Then talk about I must be religious or my husband must be controlling and want me to be submissive to him.

[Anonymous]

Feminism is part of what makes a good wife, IMO. Part of feminism is being on guard for internalized patriarchy. That crops up a lot when wives send signals to men that they don’t want their husbands to look weak, and that they believe that how much money a man earns is related to their value as a partner.

So I say become more of a feminist if you want to be a good wife.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No rude comments please. No feminist comments either. I’m newly married and really want to have a successful marriage and be a good wife. What do men want that makes a woman’s good wife?

Guess you're assuming it's not possible to be a good wife and a feminist at the same time?

OP here. No. I mega the feminists who would come on here and say I don’t need to be a good wife or cater to any man. Then talk about I must be religious or my husband must be controlling and want me to be submissive to him.

OP here. I’m very pro woman but this site tends to assume women who want to be a good wife are religious or having a controlling husband. I want responses that are not anti-men or “ how dare you be submissive to a man”. Blah blah blah stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:Feminism is part of what makes a good wife, IMO. Part of feminism is being on guard for internalized patriarchy. That crops up a lot when wives send signals to men that they don’t want their husbands to look weak, and that they believe that how much money a man earns is related to their value as a partner.

So I say become more of a feminist if you want to be a good wife.

OP here. No thanks.

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Instead of asking about being a good wife, why don’t you focus on being a good spouse. There doesn’t need to be one set of rules or behaviors for one sex versus the other.

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I am a good wife because I paid for college. I earn lots of money!

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Clean, cook, and be sexually available. That’s it. Women think it’s complicated but it’s really not.

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Anonymous wrote:Instead of asking about being a good wife, why don’t you focus on being a good spouse. There doesn’t need to be one set of rules or behaviors for one sex versus the other.

OP here. We value gender roles in my house.

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Anonymous wrote:Sex

+1
I think this is what you wanted to hear OP.
Also, saying yes to your DH's requests in general (not limited to sex).