College students who want to relax during the summer

[Anonymous]

Would you be concerned if your kid only wanted to relax during the summer--take 1/3 to 1/4 of the year off instead of working, interning, giving back or taking classes? WWYD?

Just read this thread https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/993413.page.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for broken link. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/993413.page

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't be concerned. I wouldn't allow it. They wouldn't be welcome to "relax" at my home, and I wouldn't pay for anything for them during that time, nor would I pay for their schooling. That's just simply not allowed. We all wish we could relax for a few months out of the year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I wouldn't be concerned. I wouldn't allow it. They wouldn't be welcome to "relax" at my home, and I wouldn't pay for anything for them during that time, nor would I pay for their schooling. That's just simply not allowed. We all wish we could relax for a few months out of the year.

What if they had depression and refused to work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I wouldn't be concerned. I wouldn't allow it. They wouldn't be welcome to "relax" at my home, and I wouldn't pay for anything for them during that time, nor would I pay for their schooling. That's just simply not allowed. We all wish we could relax for a few months out of the year.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you be concerned if your kid only wanted to relax during the summer--take 1/3 to 1/4 of the year off instead of working, interning, giving back or taking classes? WWYD?

Just read this thread https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/993413.page.

I think any parent wouldn’t be thrilled. Stopping it from happening is another issue. Stop trying to turn this forum into the college forum (a cesspool of toxicity).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you be concerned if your kid only wanted to relax during the summer--take 1/3 to 1/4 of the year off instead of working, interning, giving back or taking classes? WWYD?

Just read this thread https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/993413.page.

I think any parent wouldn’t be thrilled. Stopping it from happening is another issue. Stop trying to turn this forum into the college forum (a cesspool of toxicity).

Does this belong there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I wouldn't be concerned. I wouldn't allow it. They wouldn't be welcome to "relax" at my home, and I wouldn't pay for anything for them during that time, nor would I pay for their schooling. That's just simply not allowed. We all wish we could relax for a few months out of the year.

What if they had depression and refused to work?

In all seriousness, partial hospitalization program where they go daily (these usually start pretty early in the morning to encourage a good sleep cycle) and do group and individual therapy, learn CBT techniques. Being an adult who is too depressed to work is very serious and should get treatment.

[Anonymous]

Um, I would not be concerned. I would think they had their priorities straight. But then I am not one of those who buys into the whole DC striver thing either. I have worked hard and continuously since I was 15 since I had no choice, and that's just the way it is and I've survived, but I'm not such a fool as to think that's the ideal. The notion that lives only have worth insofar as they're spent working to create wealth and value for other people is pretty twisted when you think about it.

[Anonymous]

If you'd be concerned about this, why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I wouldn't be concerned. I wouldn't allow it. They wouldn't be welcome to "relax" at my home, and I wouldn't pay for anything for them during that time, nor would I pay for their schooling. That's just simply not allowed. We all wish we could relax for a few months out of the year.

What if they had depression and refused to work?

Then that's a medical reason they CAN'T work. That's a health issue to be tackled and dealt with. But to be honest, generally with low-level depression, have a structured day and a reason to get out of bed is a good idea. But this isn't what was asked in the OP.

[Anonymous]

I hate how society has become. I was reading books from the early 1900s and UMC kids would spend every summer in HS and college relaxing and doing nothing. I wish my children could have that.

[Anonymous]

Nope. If you relax there will be no money for anything but the absolute basics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate how society has become. I was reading books from the early 1900s and UMC kids would spend every summer in HS and college relaxing and doing nothing. I wish my children could have that.

I hardly doubt that. Both my husband and i worked summers in HS and College. Its partly for money but mainly for work experience. (He had to work for money).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you'd be concerned about this, why?

I think one motive for a lot of parents is that they don't want their kids to be at a disadvantage compared to kids who are doing these things.