College students who want to relax during the summer

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Anonymous wrote:I encouraged my sons to work summers in high school and during college. As I wrote all the tuition checks, I thought it was fair for them to earn their spending money for the following year. Some think your exhausted student would take the summer to read novels, but I am betting social media and gaming would win out. I may be older, but think a summer hourly job is good for kids to learn to listen to their boss, show up on time and how to treat the public. I complained once to my dad about a job I had during college. He told me that the only thing I had to learn there was that I didn’t want to do this job the rest of my life. He was right.

My dd worked 45 hours a week this whole summer and took a few classes. She also read novels, hung out with friends, and laid on the couch scrolling social media. Sorry your kids have bad time management.

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Anonymous wrote:DS graduated in May and have been goofing off with friends and playing online games, he got a job lined up but won't start until Sept. Figure it's his last time for slacking off before starting his 40+ years of working.

You college graduate is living like a 15 year old? Fantastic!

I think you missed the part where pp said he has a job lined up starting in September.

No I didn't. I just wouldn't be proud of an adult spending the summer being a bum and mooching off me. And big whoop he has a job that's generally expected of adults.

And we wonder why kids need SSRI’s to get through life.

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Anonymous wrote:I encouraged my sons to work summers in high school and during college. As I wrote all the tuition checks, I thought it was fair for them to earn their spending money for the following year. Some think your exhausted student would take the summer to read novels, but I am betting social media and gaming would win out. I may be older, but think a summer hourly job is good for kids to learn to listen to their boss, show up on time and how to treat the public. I complained once to my dad about a job I had during college. He told me that the only thing I had to learn there was that I didn’t want to do this job the rest of my life. He was right.

My dd worked 45 hours a week this whole summer and took a few classes. She also read novels, hung out with friends, and laid on the couch scrolling social media. Sorry your kids have bad time management.

Sorry your kid is bipolar.

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Anonymous wrote:I encouraged my sons to work summers in high school and during college. As I wrote all the tuition checks, I thought it was fair for them to earn their spending money for the following year. Some think your exhausted student would take the summer to read novels, but I am betting social media and gaming would win out. I may be older, but think a summer hourly job is good for kids to learn to listen to their boss, show up on time and how to treat the public. I complained once to my dad about a job I had during college. He told me that the only thing I had to learn there was that I didn’t want to do this job the rest of my life. He was right.

My dd worked 45 hours a week this whole summer and took a few classes. She also read novels, hung out with friends, and laid on the couch scrolling social media. Sorry your kids have bad time management.

Sorry your kid is bipolar.

Sorry your kid is lazy.

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Anonymous wrote:My twin nephews took one summer off while in college to backpack around Nepal and India in the Himalayas, with their parents’ blessing. They are both accomplished young men in great careers now and have fond memories of that time since they don’t have much leisure to travel now. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world, OP

I think this is totally different. There is a difference between lolling around in the sofa playing video games and eating all summer and exploring the world.

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Anonymous wrote:My twin nephews took one summer off while in college to backpack around Nepal and India in the Himalayas, with their parents’ blessing. They are both accomplished young men in great careers now and have fond memories of that time since they don’t have much leisure to travel now. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world, OP

I think this is totally different. There is a difference between lolling around in the sofa playing video games and eating all summer and exploring the world.

You’re right. Backpacking around the world is $$$$ and laying on the sofa playing games costs nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:My twin nephews took one summer off while in college to backpack around Nepal and India in the Himalayas, with their parents’ blessing. They are both accomplished young men in great careers now and have fond memories of that time since they don’t have much leisure to travel now. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world, OP

I think this is totally different. There is a difference between lolling around in the sofa playing video games and eating all summer and exploring the world.

Yes, backpacking around India is something rich kids can do. Relaxing at home is something all kids can do.

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Anonymous wrote:DS graduated in May and have been goofing off with friends and playing online games, he got a job lined up but won't start until Sept. Figure it's his last time for slacking off before starting his 40+ years of working.

You college graduate is living like a 15 year old? Fantastic!

I think you missed the part where pp said he has a job lined up starting in September.

No I didn't. I just wouldn't be proud of an adult spending the summer being a bum and mooching off me. And big whoop he has a job that's generally expected of adults.

And we wonder why kids need SSRI’s to get through life.

Are you a Scientologist?

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I wouldn't be concerned, because I wouldn't allow it.

My kids do/will work summers starting when they're 16.
Not doing so is lazy and shows no work ethic.
Kids can work a part-time job AND relax during summer- plenty of hours in the day.
I worked and took classes and still had free time with friends.

I also hire new staff at my company, and not having a summer job/internship will make me not give you a 2nd interview

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My kids will be responsible for the vast majority of their life expenses starting the day they graduate high school, so it’s pretty simple and won’t take much prodding from me.

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Anonymous wrote:DS graduated in May and have been goofing off with friends and playing online games, he got a job lined up but won't start until Sept. Figure it's his last time for slacking off before starting his 40+ years of working.

You college graduate is living like a 15 year old? Fantastic!

I think you missed the part where pp said he has a job lined up starting in September.

No I didn't. I just wouldn't be proud of an adult spending the summer being a bum and mooching off me. And big whoop he has a job that's generally expected of adults.

I lived at home the summer after college. No rent. I paid for my own food and car. It was wonderful time spent with my family.

In most of the developed world people live multigenerational.

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Anonymous wrote:As someone who worked in an elementary school for over 20 years and never worked during the summers, or during the winter and spring breaks for that matter, I highly recommend it. Now I'm retired and every season is summer, it's awesome.

And BTW I was my sole support so it wasn't because I didn't need money, it was because I chose to live on what I made without working an extra job in the summer. I'm not sure why some people here think that's such a crazy concept.

This is completely different. you were gainfully employed and supporting yourself and had a career.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, I would not be concerned. I would think they had their priorities straight. But then I am not one of those who buys into the whole DC striver thing either. I have worked hard and continuously since I was 15 since I had no choice, and that's just the way it is and I've survived, but I'm not such a fool as to think that's the ideal. The notion that lives only have worth insofar as they're spent working to create wealth and value for other people is pretty twisted when you think about it.

This. All of it. Same boat re: having to work since 14. And work a lot. It's totally acceptable to take a breather once in awhile.

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Anonymous wrote:My twin nephews took one summer off while in college to backpack around Nepal and India in the Himalayas, with their parents’ blessing. They are both accomplished young men in great careers now and have fond memories of that time since they don’t have much leisure to travel now. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world, OP

I think this is totally different. There is a difference between lolling around in the sofa playing video games and eating all summer and exploring the world.

Yes, backpacking around India is something rich kids can do. Relaxing at home is something all kids can do.

Not if you need to pay for college living expenses yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:My twin nephews took one summer off while in college to backpack around Nepal and India in the Himalayas, with their parents’ blessing. They are both accomplished young men in great careers now and have fond memories of that time since they don’t have much leisure to travel now. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world, OP

I think this is totally different. There is a difference between lolling around in the sofa playing video games and eating all summer and exploring the world.

Yes, backpacking around India is something rich kids can do. Relaxing at home is something all kids can do.

Not if you need to pay for college living expenses yourself.

You just reinforced immediate pp’s point.