Should I Pursue Him?
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Anonymous
| I’ve been having feelings for a long time for a guy friend. We started of as acquaintances after we met through mutual friends, and then slowly became closer as we bonded over work ( same field) and hobbies. He was in a relationship since we met, but broke up in June. I’ve been feeling like he is very flirty and affectionate, but I don’t know if I’m misreading the signals. He has never said he is attracted to me or ever made any sexual advances beyond offering to give me a massage. Should I pursue this or let it go? |
Anonymous
| Be available and make it subtly known you are, but let him pursue. Men like (need) the chase. They are simple beasts when you get down to these details. |
Anonymous
| You're probably one of if not the reason his relationship ended so you may as well go for it. |
Anonymous
| Ask him to do something hobby related. See what he says. Or, see if he wants to do something outside. Act casual. If he says no, make it not a big deal. |
Anonymous
OP here. I was not the reason his relationship ended. |
Anonymous
| He will pursue you when he's ready. Don't do anything other that what ever you were doing, let it grow organically. |
Anonymous
OP here. We already do this. We have always hung here and there, but it has increased over the last month. |
Anonymous
| What has he been doing? |
Anonymous
OP here. My worry is that I’m misreading and he’s really not into me. I don’t want to ruin our friendship and making it weird for our friends if I pursue him or show interest and he’s not interested. |
Anonymous
Oh you were there when they broke up? Not saying you did anything wrong, but you and your friendship, and your hobby hangouts were one of the reasons. I'd put money on it. |
Anonymous
Why do you think you are misreading his interest?. It's pretty obvious when a guy is into you. If you are unsure let it be, and wait to see what he does. |
Anonymous
Okay, but who is asking who? DO you always invite him to this hobby? Who does most of the asking or is it 50/50? Have you tried extending the hobby like suggesting getting a bite to eat before or after? |
Anonymous
Why would it be weird for your friends? It's between the 2 of you. Let him know youare are interested he either is or isn't you go out and it works or it doesn't. If it's not worth the risk to you, you aren't that into him. |
Anonymous
| Do nothing. If he was interested in you he'd be pursuing you now. Let it go. |
Anonymous
| Why not invite him to dinner? Can’t women initiate? |