My husband won't let me do anything with the kids

[Anonymous]

I posted a year ago about my husband's handling of COVID. I was much more lenient than him - I didn't mind going out with my mask on but everything made him nervous so I stopped going in stores and did everything online or curbside. I stopped running errands with my children. He and I have been vaccinated for a few months. We have an 18 month old and a 4 year old. He doesn't want them going anywhere still (he is OK with the two of us going out, even unmasked. We have had the 4 year old in daycare this whole time, she's been in the room with covid positive people and they eat unmasked). In MoCo we have 5-10 cases a day. Obviously the baby can't wear a mask but I want to go out to dinner with them (during the week when it's quiet is my compromise), take the baby to the indoor pool, run an errand with the family etc. I accommodated him for 15 months. Why can't he be more lenient now? COVID is not going anywhere and my children won't be vaccinated probably until the baby is 2.

Anyone else?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t take unvaccinated kids to indoor restaurants or other places that aren’t necessary.

[Anonymous]

If you and the CDC can't convince him, it's unlikely DCUM can, either.

It's odd that he's OK with daycare, but not the grocery store, though. Can he explain the disconnect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you and the CDC can't convince him, it's unlikely DCUM can, either.

It's odd that he's OK with daycare, but not the grocery store, though. Can he explain the disconnect?

Probably one is a necessary risk and the other is not.

[Anonymous]

I would be at the point where I would just do some stuff.

[Anonymous]

There is no way I would take a baby or toddler to eat indoors or go to an indoor pool right now.

Outdoor pool? Yes.
Get takeout or eat outdoors? Yes

[Anonymous]

It’s more likely they get electrocuted by a home appliance avoiding the public than catch covid given their ages and the rates now. People are insane and you married one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you and the CDC can't convince him, it's unlikely DCUM can, either.

It's odd that he's OK with daycare, but not the grocery store, though. Can he explain the disconnect?

Probably one is a necessary risk and the other is not.

I'd argue they are both necessary. We have to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be at the point where I would just do some stuff.

+1. I would just do it and stop asking him

[Anonymous]

If your 4 year old has been in daycare this whole time, then his attitude makes no sense. Nothing you are suggesting is higher risk than what he has deemed an acceptable risk this whole time.

[Anonymous]

If you're in the DMV, there is basically no community spread. It's under control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you and the CDC can't convince him, it's unlikely DCUM can, either.

It's odd that he's OK with daycare, but not the grocery store, though. Can he explain the disconnect?

Probably one is a necessary risk and the other is not.

I'd argue they are both necessary. We have to work.

Daycare is necessary. Presumably the grocery store is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you and the CDC can't convince him, it's unlikely DCUM can, either.

It's odd that he's OK with daycare, but not the grocery store, though. Can he explain the disconnect?

Probably one is a necessary risk and the other is not.

I'd argue they are both necessary. We have to work.

Daycare is necessary. Presumably the grocery store is not.

Get a grip. Most of the country has been grocery shopping for months and community spread is negligible in most places. Cases among kids are not a thing now. Do you allow your child to ride in a car? Eat grapes? Both are many many times more likely to kill them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you and the CDC can't convince him, it's unlikely DCUM can, either.

It's odd that he's OK with daycare, but not the grocery store, though. Can he explain the disconnect?

Probably one is a necessary risk and the other is not.

I'd argue they are both necessary. We have to work.

Daycare is necessary. Presumably the grocery store is not.

Get a grip. Most of the country has been grocery shopping for months and community spread is negligible in most places. Cases among kids are not a thing now. Do you allow your child to ride in a car? Eat grapes? Both are many many times more likely to kill them.

plus a million and I’m as liberal as they come.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you and the CDC can't convince him, it's unlikely DCUM can, either.

It's odd that he's OK with daycare, but not the grocery store, though. Can he explain the disconnect?

Probably one is a necessary risk and the other is not.

I'd argue they are both necessary. We have to work.

Daycare is necessary. Presumably the grocery store is not.

Get a grip. Most of the country has been grocery shopping for months and community spread is negligible in most places. Cases among kids are not a thing now. Do you allow your child to ride in a car? Eat grapes? Both are many many times more likely to kill them.

I cut grapes up for my kids and they always wear seatbelts and had car seats when age appropriate. I wouldn’t take a kid to a grocery store. It just isn’t necessary. My kids did attend in person school all year. I judge activities based on usefulness. Eating indoors and grocery shopping are not necessary, so my kids won’t do them until they are vaccinated.