Out of town friends (family of 6) want to visit. No room. Rude to suggest hotel?

[Anonymous]

Friends want to visit. All but one are vaccinated (child under 12).

We have a child under 12, too.

Our home has one guest room.

Would it be rude to suggest they get hotel room?

We can host meals, hanging out at our house.

They want to use our community amenities ( pool, etc).

My husband and I are at odds with this.

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Parents in guest room and kids in sleeping bags on floor of family room. There…problem solved.

[Anonymous]

For how long? How many bathrooms? Have they stayed before and did they generally seem to understand boundaries?

[Anonymous]

Six is a lot. I would suggest hotel unless you think it would be a huge financial strain for them. Inviting them to eat, hang out, and use your amenities seems like plenty of hosting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For how long? How many bathrooms? Have they stayed before and did they generally seem to understand boundaries?

We are in a different house (smaller now). Not good with boundaries, kids do what they want, don't help. Parents drink. They think we are rich and make themselves at home.

[Anonymous]

Maybe offer to host them for the weekend and then they go to a hotel? Cuts down on cost for them, but two days should be ok to host them. If you are close with this family, then it should be ok, but if not, then tell them hotel the whole time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe offer to host them for the weekend and then they go to a hotel? Cuts down on cost for them, but two days should be ok to host them. If you are close with this family, then it should be ok, but if not, then tell them hotel the whole time.

Ok based on OP's response above, then tell them they need to get a hotel or help them find an Airbnb near your house so they can visit, use the pool, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents in guest room and kids in sleeping bags on floor of family room. There…problem solved.

All hardwood floors.

They have means to pay for hotel.

However they suggest air mattresses.

I think a good compromise would be a hotel.

Wondered if they would be offended.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents in guest room and kids in sleeping bags on floor of family room. There…problem solved.

All hardwood floors.

They have means to pay for hotel.

However they suggest air mattresses.

I think a good compromise would be a hotel.

Wondered if they would be offended.

I wouldn't worry about them being offended UNLESS your family has been to their house and stayed for extended vacations previously. Then, you need to return the favor. If this is not the case, then tell them you have a smaller space now and think they would be more comfortable in a hotel/airbnb, etc.

[Anonymous]

They probably will be offended, but that doesn't mean they are entitled to stay at your house for multiple nights. How much is it worth it to you to not offend them. I personally think you can just tell that that hosting them overnight doesn't work for you but you'd be glad to have them over during the day.

[Anonymous]

Absolute feel guilt free saying no. They will be offended, as people who don't respect boundaries, invite themselves, and treat themselves at home in other people's house are wont to do. Question is, do you want your sanity or a reputation of a doormat? I would be seething with resentment by day 2, so for me the answer is a resounding "hotel."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They probably will be offended, but that doesn't mean they are entitled to stay at your house for multiple nights. How much is it worth it to you to not offend them. I personally think you can just tell that that hosting them overnight doesn't work for you but you'd be glad to have them over during the day.

+1

I would not invite a family of six to stay in our house for a week, because we don't have enough space. You can say that you'd love to see them, that you don't have room to host them but are happy to suggest some nearby hotels if they need recommendations, and would be delighted to have them over to hang out at the pool and have dinner.

[Anonymous]

No.

Are they really COMING TO VISIT YOU?

It sounds like they are coming to "your house as their free hotel" and visit your amenities. I have a larger house and would not host a family of six who I did not extend the invitation to. Nope.

[Anonymous]

3 teens, 2 adults, and 1 tween? Oof.

They can’t fit in a hotel room either, man, yikes. I would suggest you offer to take the 3 teens but if they’re unhelpful and entitled that will be annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For how long? How many bathrooms? Have they stayed before and did they generally seem to understand boundaries?

We are in a different house (smaller now). Not good with boundaries, kids do what they want, don't help. Parents drink. They think we are rich and make themselves at home.

Reading this, firm no.

And if you invite them a day or two, they will stay and somehow not get a hotel or air bnb