How do you filter your children’s social circle?

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What do you look for in the family of children you’d let your children have play dates with?

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Anonymous wrote:What do you look for in the family of children you’d let your children have play dates with?

Money, a beautiful mansion

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Kindness in the child, and my child enjoying their company. But my kid is in elementary school. Like, do kids play well with each other with drones or basketball or barbies or whatever.

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Everyone, obviously, filters this by picking out their neighborhood and school.

[Anonymous]

What a gross, weird question. I let my kids play with any kid who is kind, respectful, and who they want to play with. If I don't care for the parents, I invite the kids for drop-off playdates at our home or meet up somewhere with an escape plan and good entertainment. I do not "filter" their social circle.

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Anonymous wrote:What a gross, weird question. I let my kids play with any kid who is kind, respectful, and who they want to play with. If I don't care for the parents, I invite the kids for drop-off playdates at our home or meet up somewhere with an escape plan and good entertainment. I do not "filter" their social circle.

+1 this is the second thread of this nature I've seen today. Ummm, how about let your kid pick who they want to hang with. At any age. Like what? I feel like both these threads are full of people who do not share our values (ie money is the only thing that matters) but I would still let my kid determine if he/she wants to play with your kid...

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Private jet. Private island. Loose standards.

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Nice kids who my kids play with well.

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I filter out kids. My kid has a few friends who are ill behaves, rude, obnoxious or impolite. I just stop scheduling time to play outside of school. I won't let them interact on the iPads and I try to redirect her her attention to other kids

All kids can be challenging including mine but there are some kids who are just rotten.

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Anonymous wrote:Nice kids who my kids play with well.

This. That's reallly all I care about. DS has friends with a wide variety of backgrounds. As long as the kids are nice and respectful, I don't really care about anything else. Even if the kid came from a not so great background, I would be happy to host the kid at my house.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you look for in the family of children you’d let your children have play dates with?

Assuming my kid likes their kid, I look for convenience. Things that make a family more convenient: their kid has siblings who my other kids like, they live nearby, they go to the same extra curriculars, playgrounds, or pool as we do, and the parents are laid back and easy to communicate with.

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Anonymous wrote:What a gross, weird question. I let my kids play with any kid who is kind, respectful, and who they want to play with. If I don't care for the parents, I invite the kids for drop-off playdates at our home or meet up somewhere with an escape plan and good entertainment. I do not "filter" their social circle.

Well, isn’t this how you filter them then? Based on the character of the child? I do this too. Also based on the character of the parents, though. There are a few kids who have snobby, materialistic parents and I try to steer my kids clear of them. They’re young, but I’ll bet the kids take on those attitudes in due time. No thanks. Related to the PP above, I may filter out a family if they have a fancy mansion. I don’t care if you have ungodly amounts of money, but if you live in a showy home you do not share my values. Obviously as the kids get older I won’t be able to nudge them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a gross, weird question. I let my kids play with any kid who is kind, respectful, and who they want to play with. If I don't care for the parents, I invite the kids for drop-off playdates at our home or meet up somewhere with an escape plan and good entertainment. I do not "filter" their social circle.

Another + for this.

Op don't be so classless.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a gross, weird question. I let my kids play with any kid who is kind, respectful, and who they want to play with. If I don't care for the parents, I invite the kids for drop-off playdates at our home or meet up somewhere with an escape plan and good entertainment. I do not "filter" their social circle.

Well, isn’t this how you filter them then? Based on the character of the child? I do this too. Also based on the character of the parents, though. There are a few kids who have snobby, materialistic parents and I try to steer my kids clear of them. They’re young, but I’ll bet the kids take on those attitudes in due time. No thanks. Related to the PP above, I may filter out a family if they have a fancy mansion. I don’t care if you have ungodly amounts of money, but if you live in a showy home you do not share my values. Obviously as the kids get older I won’t be able to nudge them.

Way to teach your kids to judge books by their covers. Not sure your values are so great, despite what you think.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a gross, weird question. I let my kids play with any kid who is kind, respectful, and who they want to play with. If I don't care for the parents, I invite the kids for drop-off playdates at our home or meet up somewhere with an escape plan and good entertainment. I do not "filter" their social circle.

Well, isn’t this how you filter them then? Based on the character of the child? I do this too. Also based on the character of the parents, though. There are a few kids who have snobby, materialistic parents and I try to steer my kids clear of them. They’re young, but I’ll bet the kids take on those attitudes in due time. No thanks. Related to the PP above, I may filter out a family if they have a fancy mansion. I don’t care if you have ungodly amounts of money, but if you live in a showy home you do not share my values. Obviously as the kids get older I won’t be able to nudge them.

Way to teach your kids to judge books by their covers. Not sure your values are so great, despite what you think.

Sure. Sorry your Tesla doesn’t buy you friends.