I don't want to organize a team gift for my son's coach

[Anonymous]

but I am the team manager, so I feel like I have to. I am super frustrated with my son's coach. My son didn't play well in the last game (his knee was hurting beforehand, I should have let him stay home, and that is my fault). The coach started screaming at my son in the parking lot after the game and told him that he would never amount to anything as a soccer player if he couldn't push through a managable amount of pain. If he had just said it, I would have probably been ok with it, but his voice was raised and he was yelling. My son just turned 11, and I feel like this was crazy behavior (we are a low-level travel team, for background).

Would you organize a team gift under these circumstances?

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Yes, because that’s part of the role you agreed to, but I would do the minimum. I would also not let my son be coached by that psychopath going forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, because that’s part of the role you agreed to, but I would do the minimum. I would also not let my son be coached by that psychopath going forward.

Your bar is low if you fall for these lazy trolls that easily

[Anonymous]

Recommend you ask someone else on the tram to arrange the gift. Others may not have an issue with the coach. That’s what I am doing as a manager as I don’t want to organize for our coach.

[Anonymous]

NO.

A gift is a gesture for the coaches who have exceeded expectations. If this is how the coach treats children - and rest assured, if he treated your child like this, he treats everyone like this - then he's not fit to be a coach.

It's the number one cardinal rule that you need to listen to your body and NOT get used to playing with pain. Your body is trying to tell you something. If the coach is so old-fashioned and ignorant of basic sports medicine and physiology, he doesn't deserve any thanks or commendation, let alone a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, because that’s part of the role you agreed to, but I would do the minimum. I would also not let my son be coached by that psychopath going forward.

Sorry, managing the team does not include presents for the coach. Just like being room parent does not include giving presents to the teacher.

People forget that these roles were created for logistical and operational purposes, not for frivolous and social ones.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

The appropriate gift is to chew his ass out so he never does it again and continues his career. That is the best gift you could give him.

[Anonymous]

I think a $5 Starbucks gift card would work here.

[Anonymous]

Send a group email saying "hey everyone, I know some teams do a group gift for the coach organized by the team captain, but I won't be able to organize that this year. Hopefully this isn't a huge inconvenience, and you're ok with individual gifts instead. Thanks for a great year.... blah blah blah. "

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send a group email saying "hey everyone, I know some teams do a group gift for the coach organized by the team captain, but I won't be able to organize that this year. Hopefully this isn't a huge inconvenience, and you're ok with individual gifts instead. Thanks for a great year.... blah blah blah. "

This is a great suggestion.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't bother with the group email. I would just not do it. Why does that fall to you?

[Anonymous]

Did you witness this interaction?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Send a group email saying "hey everyone, I know some teams do a group gift for the coach organized by the team captain, but I won't be able to organize that this year. Hopefully this isn't a huge inconvenience, and you're ok with individual gifts instead. Thanks for a great year.... blah blah blah. "

This is a great suggestion.

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