I don't want to organize a team gift for my son's coach

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't bother with the group email. I would just not do it. Why does that fall to you?

Because it’s the team manager’s job.

I am not sure if I think OP should or shouldn’t, I’d need more details, but in general if you want the advantages of being team manager you do the job of team manager.

[Anonymous]

Op why do you let your child play in an environment where this happens? Why didn’t you let him stay home?

[Anonymous]

Doesn't the coach get paid?? Skip the gift because he doesn't deserve it. If someone specifically asks about the gift, tell them to feel free to collect the funds. Please report back because no one will ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't bother with the group email. I would just not do it. Why does that fall to you?

Because it’s the team manager’s job.

I am not sure if I think OP should or shouldn’t, I’d need more details, but in general if you want the advantages of being team manager you do the job of team manager.

Giving is not part of any job description (and if it is, it's generally the other way around and it's actually fundraising).
Giving should only happen when the recipient has gone above and beyond.
Stop it with the automatic tipping and automatic giving. People need to deserve it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a $5 Starbucks gift card would work here.

Go with $2.00

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, because that’s part of the role you agreed to, but I would do the minimum. I would also not let my son be coached by that psychopath going forward.

GFR?

[Anonymous]

Give him a soccer ball with all the kid's signatures.

[Anonymous]

I’m a team manager because the club asked me to manage; there are no “advantages” and I’d gladly give the job to anyone else who would take it; it’s really just administrative hassle.

I’m not organizing a gift for the coach, not because I’m against it, but because I’ve got enough on my plate. Surely one of the soccer moms can organize that if they care to do so.

It cracks me up the parents who think that being the team manager is some desired position with perks. I’m a parent just like you — so if you want to organize a gift for the coach, be my guest.

[Anonymous]

1) This can't be the first time he's yelled at someone like this. You didn't get a weird vibe before that incident?
2) Other people on the team could still think he's done a fantastic job
3)I wouldn't do it because I'd still be upset about my kid
4) I like pps suggestion about individual gifts or ask someone else to take lead if they would like to arrange something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a team manager because the club asked me to manage; there are no “advantages” and I’d gladly give the job to anyone else who would take it; it’s really just administrative hassle.

I’m not organizing a gift for the coach, not because I’m against it, but because I’ve got enough on my plate. Surely one of the soccer moms can organize that if they care to do so.

It cracks me up the parents who think that being the team manager is some desired position with perks. I’m a parent just like you — so if you want to organize a gift for the coach, be my guest.

For most of this year, the team manager got to watch, when practice and games were closed to other parents.

They also get more access to the coach, and many of try to use it to get things like more playing time.

[Anonymous]

I don’t remember giving a gift to a paid coach for any of my kid’s teams (as a group or individually) and I’ve been around the block - multiple kids and clubs over many years.

[Anonymous]

Having had kids play on teams from rec level to travel, my recollection is that we only gave gifts to volunteer coaches, as the travel coaches were paid employees of the club. For the travel teams, we used to actually collect $ for a gift for the team manager/ parent volunteer. So, if it a travel coach, I wouldn't feel bad at all not doing it. If it is a parent coach, I'd see if someone else would be willing to take it over.

[Anonymous]

My husband has done the crappy job of team manager for years (wish someone else would!) and it never occurred to him to do a gift. I’ve never heard of it for paid coaches.
But if you’ve done it in past years and people are expecting it, I think it’s polite to send an email just saying you can’t coordinate anything this year but if anyone else wants to, they should feel free. I wouldn’t mention individual gifts because then people might think that’s expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a team manager because the club asked me to manage; there are no “advantages” and I’d gladly give the job to anyone else who would take it; it’s really just administrative hassle.

I’m not organizing a gift for the coach, not because I’m against it, but because I’ve got enough on my plate. Surely one of the soccer moms can organize that if they care to do so.

It cracks me up the parents who think that being the team manager is some desired position with perks. I’m a parent just like you — so if you want to organize a gift for the coach, be my guest.

For most of this year, the team manager got to watch, when practice and games were closed to other parents.

They also get more access to the coach, and many of try to use it to get things like more playing time.

Or, all these perks are not seen as perks by the OP. She would rather have a normal adult be the coach instead of a hyped up jackass.

No, OP, you don't have to get him a team gift. This is not a mandatory thing. If someone asks - "I won't be organizing a team gift as it is entirely unnecessary. If this is something that any other parent wants to organize and manage, then I can certainly forward them the emails of all the parents, though I won't be contributing to it. Thanks. Larla"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a team manager because the club asked me to manage; there are no “advantages” and I’d gladly give the job to anyone else who would take it; it’s really just administrative hassle.

I’m not organizing a gift for the coach, not because I’m against it, but because I’ve got enough on my plate. Surely one of the soccer moms can organize that if they care to do so.

It cracks me up the parents who think that being the team manager is some desired position with perks. I’m a parent just like you — so if you want to organize a gift for the coach, be my guest.

For most of this year, the team manager got to watch, when practice and games were closed to other parents.

They also get more access to the coach, and many of try to use it to get things like more playing time.

I never watched practice, nor did it ever occur to me to do so. What games were “closed” to other parents but open to managers? None in NoVA anyway.

“Access to the coach” ... sheesh ... you sound paranoid. If you think there are perks, please step up and be the manager lol.