Hiring Childcare - Afraid Of Being Judged
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Anonymous
| I’m considering hiring a night nanny and a PT nanny. I have one newborn child. I could use the help but I’m nervous about people judging me for hiring help. I don’t want to my friends/family to silently judge me and think I’m a bad mom. Any tips and advice to get over it or not let nay judgement bother me? |
Anonymous
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Stop caring. |
Anonymous
| Good for you. You need help, that’s fine. Stop caring what other people think. |
Anonymous
| Why do you think they have to know? I don’t announce everything I do. |
Anonymous
| Do what’s best for you . I’m a nanny and I hear all the time from my employers friends how they wish they had a “. Insert my name “‘ nanny. Nothing to be embarrassed about. They probably want one to but don’t want to pay for one. |
Anonymous
They will judge you but if you want to do this, stop caring or don't tell them! |
Anonymous
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You can't stop them from judging you. Accept it will happen, tho some people may surprise you.
Then go what is right for you. What others think doesn't matter. |
Anonymous
| So long as you can afford it, who cares? You're a grown adult with a family and you alone are responsible for the decisions you make. There is a reason like people hang out with like people, you know. |
Anonymous
| Who cares? In some cultures it is normal for people to have a night nanny for the first few months, or a relative that serves as a night nanny. |
Anonymous
| People will judge you for all sorts of things. This mantra can help: "Other people's opinions of me are none of my business." Carry on with your life. |
Anonymous
| Don’t tell them. How else would they know? |
Anonymous
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Call these people doulas and then you will look fancy and nobody will judge you.
Seriously, though, if you want that much help...why not hire a doula? |
Anonymous
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When my two were babies I would have probably judged you for having so much help, but ONLY because deep down I would have been super jealous that the baby stage was easier than you (or heck, anybody) because I was so sleep deprived and a mess because of it. Looking back, I wish I had asked for more help (we didn’t have money to hire anyone, but asked relatives to come hold the baby more so I could rest).
So here’s the thing—hire your nanny’s. Don’t brag about them. Be a good person to others who don’t have the resources you do. If they judge you, just don’t care. |
Anonymous
| I’m not being rude but why do you need a night nanny and day nanny for one newborn? That seems like a lot of help and little time you’re spending with your baby. That time goes by so fast. I would do one or the other. Cherish this time. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t care if you can afford it. Though I think you should spend this time with child and outsource for other things. |