College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
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Anonymous
| We work up early. As a Mom I can’t sleep til kid home . I know I know. Trying to give freedom but also hoping for advice on compromise use at least during work week. 2nd summer after college. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| You need to just relax. |
Anonymous
| I know. I’m fine on the weekend. It’s the weeknights when I work the next day. |
Anonymous
| Does he wake you up when he comes in? |
Anonymous
| It is your house. You are not running a free boarding house. Explain why it bothers you. I knew as a college student that what I did while away at school in terms of staying out late was not going to be okay with my parents and I respected that it was their house and adjusted behavior accordingly. Not talking about coming home at 9 but midnight on weeknights is reasonable compromise. |
Anonymous
+1. Agree with this. You don’t run a motel. |
Anonymous
| Geeze - I’m so happy that my college kid who had a really difficult year with Covid is able to go out and have fun again. Ask them to wake you when they get home. |
Anonymous
| How many days does this happen? If he stayed at a friend's house instead, would you still be unable to sleep? Does your kid have a job during the week? |
Anonymous
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Ugh my parents did this. After I graduated high school they moved 45min from all my friends. So it was harder to meet up with people and I’d have to leave early to get home before midnight. I did all my chores, was good at school, had a great internship and was a loving daughter. Why the hell couldn’t I stay out past midnight? Or at least Thursday, Friday and Saturday’s until one or two.
Just let it go. Get medicated for your anxiety if you can’t sleep without kids home. Realize you likely only have a few more years until your kids are gone forever and won’t come home summers. |
Anonymous
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You need to train yourself to sleep when he’s not home. Devise a system where he turns off a hall light or something you can see from your bed when he gets home. You’ll get used to it, OP.
Your nearly grown son is learning to self-regulate and trust himself to make time management decisions. |
Anonymous
Also wanted to say that if there was a party or get together I wanted to attend, but knew it would run past midnight, I would stay with friends. It was less safe than coming home. Sometimes I didn’t really have a place to stay. |
Anonymous
I think this is the answer, OP. I think a lot of parents have trouble sleeping when college-age children are out! |
Anonymous
| Will try the later hours weekends for daughter. Thanks for insight. She’s been great just loving her nights out. |
Anonymous
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I feel for you, OP!
My mother could not go to bed if she knew I was out of the house, and I can't go to bed either when DS is out... You are not alone 
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